Am I gifting inappropriately?

It's a useful gift but you could always add more to it. Like the Tupperware and a utensil set or even a card with cash. I would also purchase the specific Tupperware on their registry.

Glad you are interested in "gifting" OP. It's not something many notice and I would agree, being young is very different and like you said, you grew up in a very different area and type of weddings and perhaps your gift wasn't too out of ordinary.

But like you said, having experienced your first "hosted full event wedding", you can see why some do gift a little more or provide something off of the registry. When I think of weddings, not only is it a celebration but when I see how much work couple go through to throw a party, the least I can do is provide some monetary gift to offset their costs or provide a gift they asked for from their registry.

Happy weddings!

I don't know if I agree with giving what the plate costs. How is there any way to know what that is? And why should I pay for a plate cost that they decided they could afford and chose? In my mind, I give what I can. Usually more if it's a close friend or family member. Gifts aren't a requirement, so I've heard, but I always give a gift of cash at the wedding. Tupperware, while useful, does seem more appropriate for a shower gift. But don't stress about it too much. You mean well!

Don't give gifts you think everyone needs. Give gifts each particular person needs/wants.

Honestly, If that's what you can afford, then it's fine (but keep the receipt with it-some people don't like to use plastic).

I am one of the weird people who hate giving money at weddings. I will not do it. I always buy off registry and ship to their house so I am not carrying any presents at the wedding. But there was a time when I was broke and could only afford a $20.00 item. Luckily my friends understood.

I love Tupperware.

I don't agree with the cover the cost of your plate rule either. I've invited people closest to me that I want there to share my special day. I'm assuming most will bring a gift but it's not expected and I certainly wouldn't want anyone to decline because they can't afford to cover the cost of their plate. I would never personally take Tupperware to a shower or a wedding as a gift. If it was gifted to me, I would think it was a bit odd but would use it anyway.

OP, when I read your description about the types of weddings you were attending - college friends, church gymnasium, cake and punch, no meals, very quick - your gift of Tupperware made much more sense. I think you are correct that your gift was appropriate for that type of event. The people here who are talking about giving $200-$500 are NOT attending that same type of wedding. So, comparing your gift to theirs is comparing apples to oranges.

In addition, gifting is very regional. In some areas boxed gifts at the wedding ARE very normal, appropriate, and common even though the folks here from the Northeast can't imagine it and don't understand it. It's true.

And "cover your plate" is NOT an etiquette rule. It is a made up thing that people annoyingly keep repeating as fact or requirement. A wedding invitation is not an invoice.

Now that you are attending different types weddings that are more fully hosted, I agree with your decision to stick with giving registry gifts or cash instead of the Tupperware. Maybe keep the Tupperware for showers.

$15 for a wedding gift?

It's useful but may not be what they want. We registered for 3 different sets of glass Pyrex and would give away or donate cheap plastic Tupperware if we received it.

If this is all you can afford and the couple will want it go for it but it is quite cheap for a wedding gift in my opinion.

IMHO, I'd Love Tupperware! I'm not getting married to get gifts - much less expect my guests to spend a certain amount on a gift that they have decided to give. After all, they are usually having to spend money on travel, hotel, and clothing for the wedding. I'm getting married because I fell in love and want to spend the rest of my life with them. Give what you would like and if they don't appreciate it that's their problem! :-)

Am I the only one that is confused with terms here? There is "Rubbermaid" - a brand you can buy in virtually any store around the country, and "Tupperware" - a brand that you can (or at least COULD) only buy at a home party. IMHO, Rubbermaid is imitation Tupperware. That said, I actually had a Tupperware shower for my first wedding (which was way before most of your parents even met!), and I still have most of those gifts today, and ADORE them (40 years later!).

That said, OP, I think Tupperware is a great wedding shower gift. If you wanted to (and were able to), you could add something else to the gift (Celia had some great ideas!). Based on the weddings you originally described, I wouldn't feel bad about what you gifted in the past, but like you said - you're in a different place now, both financially and maturity - buying off the registry or giving cash is probably a better idea.

I don't think that's a bad gift. It's useful and always needed. I don't find it "cheap" either, because I don't know your financial situation. And if you have a ton of friends getting married all within close proximity to each other, it helps to be able to save some money so everyone gets a gift. I know I would appreciate it!

Psh I'm a mom of 2 and I'll take $15 Tupperware any day! It's one of those things you don't realize you desperately need until you get them. I think it's great, and I wouldn't expect money with it.

@Wanda H.- my family uses "Tupperware" for the whole category of resealable food storage containers. Like Kleenex, Aspirin, or Xerox. Sorry for the confusion! Would Rubbermaid brand tupperware-style containers make more sense?

@JessieJV, I’m from the Midwest. I’m the youngest of 13, 18 nieces/nephews, 16 great nieces/nephews…and counting. With all birthday parties, weddings, graduations, baby & bridal showers…we can’t afford what some on WW would suggest to be an ‘appropriate’ amount to gift. I would hate for a guest to feel they need to decline an invite based on their funds. Like some PP, a wedding invite isn’t an invoice. We are inviting guests that we want to share our day with…period.

I would love some Tupperware! We definitely added it to our registry. I think it's a good gift.

Is it thoughtful yes

.. honestly think a gift is weird at a wedding but where I live people give cash ... I think $15 Is being cheap ... we usually give about $200 .. I think anything less then $100 Is iffy

I'm one of those weirdos who likes the same brand/color/style of things like that (so all my bathroom towels are the same kind, just colors that match my bathroom), so I personally wouldn't be thrilled unless you managed to get the kind and color I already have.

I also agree with the majority here that it may be okay for a shower gift (but again, some people are picky), but not for the wedding gift.

Like others have said, unless you yourself are a student and can't afford much, 15 dollars is a really cheap wedding gift. The lowest I have ever given at a wedding was 30 dollars and that was when I was in college. I now give a minimum of 50 but have spent more on people I am closer too. If I'm close to you I usually spend 100.

I agree that it's fine for a shower. But pretty cheap for a wedding