So the background on this: my younger sister (28) is my MOH, she is not dating anyone at all, and hasn’t been for the last 10+ years. She lives in WI, I live in MA and my wedding will be in MA. For the last 3 family weddings, she has brought one of her best friends/roommates from college as her plus one. I’ve met this friends a handful of times, but I wouldn’t really say that I know her.
I have of course planned for a “guest” for my sister at my wedding, but I don’t want her to bring his girl. I haven’t asked anything from my sister, but it’s really important to me that she be there to support me the night before my wedding (staying in my hotel room), and being very involved/having fun the day of getting ready. My FH and I really want an intimate feel, and I dont want to share special moments of the day that should be private with people that I don’t know well and feel close with... Things like getting ready, putting my dress on, etc. (I.e. this friend of hers just hanging around).
I would also feel wrong having this girl fly out to sit in a hotel room on her own for the entire day, and would probably guilt myself into including her which I really don’t want to do.
Im sure this will spark some heated comments, but am I wrong to feel like I don’t want this girl to come as my sisters guest? Keep in mind that this isn’t someone she is dating (that would be a different story), this is just her friend who would need to fly across the country. It’s also not like my sister won’t know people. All of my cousins are coming, none of my bridesmaids are in relationships, and there are soooo many people that she knows!