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Raine
Just Said Yes September 2024

Should i feel bad for not inviting my sister?

Raine, on September 24, 2024 at 11:30 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 3
Hello, so I’m getting married this Saturday and my fiancé and I both decided to opt not to invite my one older sister. My relationship with her has been strained and rocky at best and horrendous at worst. Her and her boyfriend live under my roof but all they do is fight and argue and I don’t want them causing a scene at my wedding. She hadn’t said anything about it until my mother said something about when I was getting married and now she’s upset that I invited “everyone but her”. I did invite my other two older siblings but I have a good relationship with both. The one I decided not to invite has caused me problems over the years and any time I’ve helped her in the past I get to put it politely ripped off and/or deceived. My fiancé and I both want our day to be special and celebrate with our friends and family without drama. But being that I know my sister and her boyfriend would fight I didn’t invite her because even if I invited just her she would want to bring him too. So am I being too harsh in not inviting my sister?

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Latest activity by Heather, on September 28, 2024 at 9:11 PM
  • Andrea
    Super January 2024
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    She lives with you and you didn’t invite her? That does seem harsh. Not inviting a close relative to a wedding, especially if you’ve invited others of the same “rank”, is kind of a shot across the bow. You’re making a clear statement about the state of the relationship. Are you right to do it? Only you can answer that. But I’d advise if your relationship has deteriorated to that level, get her out of your house or move if it’s a mutual situation, and expect the relationship not to be the same.
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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
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    I second all of this
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  • Heather
    Dedicated October 2024
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    I can empathize but I would like to add if you can cohabitate with this person without concern for your safety or mental health, I do wonder if inviting her to the wedding is all that bad.

    Conversely, I did not invite my sister, but she refuses to speak with or even look at me at family gatherings so I figure she can enjoy the livestream. Less risk of eye contact for her.

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