Am I being a Bridezilla and un-reasonable ?

But to answer your question you are NOT a bridezilla lol. I now think it was very silly of me fighting with her over a guest she is my mom and she is great mother!! But I just felt she was very inconsider (sp?) of us.

Ensure you have security at the door with the guest list. Not on the list? Then no entry. I'm glad my parents have been pretty great about this... actually my dad has been the opposite to this... he's like you don't have to invite all of your aunts and uncles if you don't want to, just pick the ones you like. I'm like noooo if I invite 1 I have to invite them all! Dad lacks some class, just in the other direction. BUT it has been annoying in trying to figure out who we should include in the guest like, cause whenever I ask who I should put on the guestlist they're like "whoever we don't care".... umm no i need help!

You are not being difficult at all....I applaud you for sticking to your guns.....no one is going to walk all over you and I like that!

She needs to drop it! And yes, you can control who comes to your wedding....you can even have a security guy there.

If your a bridezilla than I am too. I think that too many brides end up stressing over budget bc they allow others to take over and add additional unwanted, un needed guest. The guest list should consist of people that the bride & groom want to share their special day with not spectators or people just coming bc they want free food. I had a similar issue with FH he thinks the guest list should be open to everyone he has ever come in contact with in life..... WRONG. For every guest I asked him are you willing to pay 50.+liquor for this person to come to our wedding? Needless to say the guest count dropped

NOT a bridezilla, not even a little. People = money! period! im inviting ppl that i know and love, most is family which are my parents age, so they'll have love their too, lol. as for friends, we're not having as many as i thought cause family takes up the majority of space! lol. and we're 100 ppl. (if that tells you anything) so no, if mom wanted to invite a lady from work, i'd veto that or add it to a B list after my Blist friends (wow that sounds mean.. B list...smh)

You not the least bit wrong. Thats the rule I have me and the FH are paying for everything just about so the parents think they can slap their friends on the list I dont think so i let them know IF YOUR NOT WILLING to pay for them then they dont need to be there....that ends the issue real fast... People have no idea what goes into the cost of a wedding!

After reading your second post.. I think you are right in telling her NO. It is your wedding and you have FINAL SAY ON EVERYTHING.. until the day of when stuff goes out of your control. Keep your guest list to who you want and dont let them invite people you dont.. I am in the same boat i have a small wedding with family and close friends and I dont want people there that arent family or close friends with my FH or me.

I caved on a lot of guest list issues. I caved on kids being invited. I caved on every damn cousin being invited (most ended up declining anyways). I caved on inviting some of my mom's friends.

This week, my mother threw another guest list request at me. She wants me to invite a girl I hate because it's her best friend's daughter. I WILL NOT CAVE! I cannot invite someone who I want to punch in the face on-site!

You are no bridezilla. You're stronger than I am, and I salute you!

Thanks everyone for your response. I will stick to my guns and if they don't like it OH WELL . It's funny one of the guest called me this morning .

Her: " Girl I know you called me and asked If i wanted to bring a extra guest . I wanted to know if I can bring _____ and my boyfriend? You do remember her right? "

Me: HMMMMM NO

Her: Why not she had fun at the pool party we had at your house last year. And I sort of already told her she can come .

Me: I remember her, but I don't like her like that. The only reason she was at my party is because you bought her. But I haven't seen or spoken to her since that day. I'm sorry if you invited her, you will to un-invite her. I'm only allowing you one guest and hell I don't even know him. Please don't try and play me for a FREE meal.

Her: You shouldn't be like that, she wil be heart broken.

Me: That sounds like a personal issue . GOOD DAY !

I didn't even invite alot of my sorority sisters. It's only a hand full that I still talk to on a regular basis since I left college .I tell you some people make you turn into a zilla.

I don't see anything wrong with what you said or did. Like you said this is YOUR wedding and it is your budget. You want to make sure that for one, you have enough food and seating for everyone. And for two, you don't want people there that you don't know. I agree with you! And no, you are not being a bridezilla. At least, not in my eyes.