AHHHHHH!!!!! How can people be so inconsiderate????

I haven't even sent STDs out yet and am already dreading dealing with this!

With mine I am sending out invites and if I know they might have like an extra person coming with them (some people are dating others and they might want to bring them) I am adding plus one to their list...

This is why we advocate for the "we have reserved ___ seats for you" line on RSVPs.

People don't think (or don't know) about the cost involved, and often forget that's it's a special time that the bride and groom want to share with people they actually know and want there.

Call them up, explain there must have been a miscommunication, that the invitation was addressed only to Mrs. and Mrs. Smith, not their children or their friends, or whoever else. "We can only accommodate you and your guest/your immediate family/you. I hope you'll still be able to attend!"

Lol!!! Im not really that upset.....but its just frustrating that people think they can just invite people to the wedding, and now I have to take time to contact them and have the awkward conversation about their guest not being able to come.

Hi date twin. You will just have to make some phone calls and tell them you are sorry they misunderstood, but that the invite was just for one (or two, or whatever) and that you cannot add their guests to the list. I am very thankful that (so far) I have not had this problem with any of our responses.

Thanks Just Reenski!!!!!

Be Thankful Alisa!!! lol

Ok Ive cooled down now lol Im off to marriage counseling!!!!

I haven't sent out my invites yet so I have not experienced the RSVP responses yet but people that know of me keep coming up and asking am I invited to your wedding. Seriously I don't even speak to these people, I just see them in passing.. LOL. FH said he's experiencing the same thing. Oh well.

So far, we have avoided this! This is sort of how our RSVP read:

Name (s)__________________

___ of ____ yes of course!

____ of ____ No, but we have a really good excuse!

Then, we filled them out like this:

Names: Bob and Jane

___ of 2 yes of course!

___ of 2 Not but we have a really good excuse!

Therefore, we have listed the names of the guests who are actually invited AND confirmed the number of people coming by writing the number. Guests are then just responsible to fill in the left hand blank...

So far, so good!

I put names on the RSVPe and no one did that to me. I put Greg and Mel ___will attend the ceremony ___will attend the ceremony and reception ___unfortunately can not make it.

I also put right on the invite this is an adults only reception though children are welcome at the ceremony, looking forward to seeing you.

Yeah, some people are just extremely frustrating. GL!

We did the line thing "___ of ___ guests

___ accept with pleasure

___ declines with regret"

I'm hoping this helps.

We did the __ seats have been reserved...

I'm still worried people are going to add guests. Our venue holds 160 people and we invited 158. If you add FH & I we literally cannot fit anyone else!

I'm very happy I only had two issues. FH grandmother called me because she felt she needed to extend an invitation to FHs aunts oldest child from her first of 3 marriages.. Ummm no. FH hasn't even ever met her, so I nipped that in the bud really quickly. And I am still waiting on FHs cousin to give me the name of her date for the seating chart.when invites went out she was in a serious relationship that broke off right after the RSVP was received. She asked to bring another guest, and since we had the spot open, we said it was ok.. Yet she has still not given me the guests name.. Ugh

I'm curious to see if any of our guests do this. I cannot even imagine. . .

We had a couple do this ... but we are fine with it.

One is a college friend of FH's with 3 little ones. The initial thought of 3 kids under the ae of 5 was a tad overwehelming. But then again, our reception venue is child friendly and we want our friends there. Kids are part of their families. We embraced it. We love kids. FH's sister has 2 little ones as well.

Another one is a family friend who will bring his partner. We haven't met the partner, but really like the friend. Fine with that too; why would we want to force him to come alone?

We are still within our initially estimated guest count, so that's good and makes these decisions a little easier.

@ Sarah P. As far as the name of the cousin's date for the seating chart, you could just go "Jane Doe's Guest". This is what I had to do for my cousin's date as she never gave me his name.

I'm dreading this! I am writing the person(s) names who are invited directly on the RSVP card in hopes to avoid some of this!

My middle school youth pastor had a medical problem a few years ago and I've not seen or talked to them in 4 or 5 years. She sent me a message on facebook asking if they were invited. They moved to another state when I was in 7th grade. I sent her an invite to be nice but but what the heck- she already said that her hubby won't let her try to come, bc of her health.