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Lindsay
Devoted August 2012

advice needed: my man of honor is freaking out about the cost of the tuxedo rental

Lindsay , on April 5, 2012 at 7:49 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 21

My man of honor just went and got fitted for his tux and he is now complaining about how expensive the rental is going to be. Its going to be 220. I understand that it is a lot of money, but honestly being in someone's wedding is expensive. I feel like people should think about the cost of being in a wedding before they tell you yes. Between dresses, shoes, jewelry, etc, my bridesmaids are going to be spending more than 220.

Anyway, my question is what should I do? Should we choose other tuxedos just because one person thinks it is too much money.

Edit: how much was the rental for your guys?

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Latest activity by Sarah, on April 5, 2012 at 10:30 PM
  • Kimberly
    Expert September 2012
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    It is your day so You should do what you want but, when I found out the suits I wanted the guys to wear were going to be 140 each, I went in another direction. They will be wearing khaki pants (of their choice) a button down shirt and I bought 5 ties that match the colors to give them to wear. We are having a pretty casual wedding though so this might not work for everyone.

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  • Lala
    Master May 2012
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    I wouldn't change. You can't please everyone. I think people really do need to think about all of the costs before saying yes. Think of it as you helping him learn a lesson! Smiley smile

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  • Travis's Girl
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    I would not change. Its your day and they need to understand that. Maybe let them know that others are okay with purchasing it, and maybe offer to assist in the payment if you can.

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  • Lindsay
    Devoted August 2012
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    I love the idea of khaki pants and a shirt and tie, but my dress is really formal (as is the rest of my wedding) so I'm not sure how it would look.

    The tux is pretty formal, but they are going to be wearing black ties instead of bow ties, so it takes the formality down just a notch.

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  • MrsO
    Master May 2012
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    One of the differences between a guy renting a tux for 220 dollars and a bridesmaid spending 220 dollars is that the guy isn't getting anything beyond your wedding day for that money. At least with a bridesmaid, she can wear her dress (arguable since most bridesmaid dresses aren't typically something you wear again depending on the style and color), shoes and jewelry. She is spending that money and gets to keep all the items.

    Personally, 220 is too much to me to rent. Heck, my FH, his brother, and my Dad bought new suits for the wedding for 270 (regularly 900 dollars). So for just a little more than that tux rental, they have something that they can keep and use well beyond the wedding.

    It is definitely important for people to understand that being in a wedding means spending money, and it's your wedding and you should have it the way you want, but I think it is nice to also keep your bridal party's personal budgets in mind as well.

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  • Mrs. Clark aka Mrs Awesomepants
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    I actually agree with him. $220 is a lot to spend on something he will rent to wear one time. Sure the girls can buy shoes, jewelry and the dress, but those can all be worn again and they OWN them. (the dress can be hemmed into a cocktail dress in many cases). I made sure the cost was lower for our guys and they only spent $100.

    Many brides have gone to Men's Warehouse and picked suits so when they are on sale for BOGO, the guys can double up and basically pay half. Then they have a suit to keep.

    It's really not fair to expect someone to shell out so much money if they don't have it to spend, then have an "oh well suck it up" type attitude. My MOH was glad to be in the wedding but when it came down to getting the dress, her finances were tight so I helped her. Maybe that is an option you need to explore.

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  • Kayla
    Super July 2012
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    Our guys paid 160 for their tux rental....I took into consideration that not everyone has the money to go that step but if that's what you want then stick to your guns.

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  • Lindsay
    Devoted August 2012
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    That is where we went, to Men's Warehouse.

    The problem with us paying or helping him pay is that my FH and I are already paying for one of the groomsmen's rental because he doesn't have that much money.

    It doesn't help that it is a DW so they would have to pay for a hotel room for two nights. However, when I asked him about being in it, I was upfront and said that it would also involve 2 hotel nights

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  • Jessica
    Master July 2012
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    I was quoted $160 for tux rentals from Jos A. Banks, which is a nice suit store in my area. FH just bought a $900 suit from them for $300 by getting them to match the online price.

    The Tux Shop and Men's Warehouse usually advertise their rentals for less than what I've seen at Jos A. Banks... So I guess the point I'm getting at, is that to me, $220 does seem pricey for a tux rental. Is it a designer name or include extras?

    Did you give him any idea of how much he's be paying out for a suit rental? I think there should be a compromise between the formality you want and a more reasonable rental price. Is the $220 style really that much different from something cheaper?

    I thought wedding dresses all began looking the same after trying them on for hours... tuxes seem to look basically the same right from the get go!

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  • CandyB
    Super June 2012
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    I understand and agree that your BP should be prepared for the financial commitment that being in your WP entails. However, we took into account the expese of renting for our guys as well, and went the route of purchasing slacks, shirt, and vest which grand totaled $140 (something) including tax and alterations- we took advantage of the MW buy 1 get 1 and they were able to really make out for what they paid. And they can have the items to wear again. I'd be kind of bumbed paying $220 for a rental. You may have to consider helping foot that bill, especially since you've already done it for someone else. Is it too late to consider another tux style or another rental place?

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  • Karla
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    Honestly I would stick with it if you really like it...my gm is going this month and i believe their tux is 140 each and they all have a coupon for 40 bucks off or 50% off not counting the shoes....but my fh has his eye on a different tux which will cost 200 plus...but that is just my thought

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  • krisalicious
    Master April 2012
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    Yikes, that's a lot. FH picked tuxes at MW and they're about $145, all-inclusive.

    I don't think it matters what the BMs are spending. I also have a man of honor (my brother) and as far as I'm concerned his attire has nothing to do with the girls' attire.

    Since he's your MOH and not standing up with the guys why not just let him rent a cheaper alternative that "goes" with the rest of the WP's tuxes? I don't think he has to match the other guys totally, he's standing on your side not theirs. Or let him wear a suit he already owns with a coordinating tie?

    What's the tux look like?

    Also - you have to honor your WP members' budgets. Yes they have to assume costs when they say yes. But you have to be upfront about what that cost is. If someone can only spend $100 and they tell you that, it's not fair to make them spend more just b/c other people can. I would pay the difference if your heart is set on that $220 tux.

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  • krisalicious
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    FH bought a tux on sale a few years ago for $350. He's been the BM in 4 weddings, one of them was black tie, and he never paid that much for a rental. Smiley sad

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  • Ab
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    Ya, our guys were around 140..not the cheapest at MW..I took that very much into consideration, same with the BMs,..their dresses were 100 (and I paid half)..it was more important for me to not inconvenience my bridal party and try to keep their costs as low as possible.

    Also helping the cost for one GM and not the other, isn't fair..but then on the other hand, from what you said your GM did agree with the up front costs, you told him what the cost was beforehand,is that right? if so I see if you are put off..I guess it's a bit late at this point to change tho. Whatever you decide, I'd approach delicately so you don't come off sounding entitled.

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  • Holly
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    I don't think you should change your tuxes! It's your wedding and you should be happy with what you choose. I also got mine from Men's Wearhouse and they were $220 as well. The only thing I can say is offer to pay for half.

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  • Lindsay
    Devoted August 2012
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    They are Vera Wang tuxedos. I called the store and the girl told me that I had picked out their most expensive tuxedo (of course)

    I'm going to go back on Monday and pick out a different tuxedo

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  • Nichole
    Super July 2012
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    I would have first searched for cheaper options. Renting for $220 is a lot when he can buy a suit for cheaper than that price.

    Like said before Men's Warehouse has a BOGO sale that is actually going on now and so does Macys.

    I understand you're saying people should know what they're getting into but maybe if he knew how much he'd have to spend he would have thought different.

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  • Kat
    Devoted July 2012
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    I HATE when wedding party members get cranky over things like this! You shouldn't have to change a damn thing, these people KNOW what they are getting into the second they say "yes" to being in your wedding! Wedding's are expensive there is no getting around that fact. Maybe that could be your "gift" to him? pay for half rental or some of it maybe??

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  • Jessica
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    That is a bit pricey. the place im renting from its $79

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  • heavenlyyoyo
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    $200 is a lot to rent a tux, but since he is the man of honor, his tux can be slightly different than everyone elses. I would do some comparison shopping though, you should be able to get some really nice ones for less than $200.

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