Adult only reception & people are already trying to bring their babies!!

A side note....i have a like 4 cousins with babies under 1yr, so if one brings theirs, they all will.......WHAT DO I DO??

Did your save the date say anything about adult only reception? IDK the etiquette for that so I'm just wondering. They might not know it is adult only if it wasn't listed on the Save the Dates.

Stick to your plan of no kids! This means none at all.

We didn't make exceptions for babies.

You can see about having an onsite baby sitting service, but if you haven't already, spread the word that it is adult only. I tried to let every guest that had a child know about this myself so there would be no surprises. The one cousin I did not see to be able to make sure they knew about it was the one that brought her son -- but he was well behaved and no one complained (at least to me) that he was there.

I have been to weddings were the no-kids didn't count babies in arms which makes complete sense and those with kids not in arms all understood why their older kids were not extended this.

(should say not everyone brought their babies when they were allowed those who did either had most family and friends at the wedding or were OOT or had very small babies (usually breastfeeding)

You are allowed to not just have a blanket over all no kids, whether it be allowing close children or allowing under 1s, over xs, only OOT kids or whatever

But equally you can just say no kids what so ever but have to be prepared that for some guests with small kids/babies this may mean the don't come.

Just make sure you nip it in the bud and let them know right away at any comment referring to bringing kids that it will be an adults only reception.

I am going to put adults- only on the wedding website, since everywhere I have read up on this says its rude to put it on the invites. But I think you should nicely tell everyone that no kids will be there. I kinda already mentioned it to everyone that has a kid, so there won't be any grumpiness later on. Most of my friends are actually excited to have a kid- free night out.

We did ours slightly different than most. We decided no kids under 10. Our venue (old movie theatre) does not have much room to run/play/romp, so they would not enjoy their time there. Plus, with our sides of the family, the under 10 ones are the ones that cause problems. For most, this wouldn't make sense to do. The people that have under 10 kids are the ones that aren't going to come anyways, so it really isn't a big deal. I'm sending our save the dates this weekend, so I'm sure I will hear about it soon.

I simply can't justify it when I know their parents are going to drink and not pay attention to them, they won't have any room to run around, and kids just plain don't enjoy weddings.

No it doesnt, but my cousin that mentioned bringing her baby also has an older daughter & she didnt mention bringing her (because she knows its adults only).

I added "Unfortunately we won't be able to accommodate children. We hope you will still be able to attend." on our wedding website. I also sent RSVPs with "We have reserved ___ seats in your honor." Hopefully people will get that, if not I will be making calls.

I don't get why people think that babies are acceptable for adults only weddings. Babies =/= adults!!

I don't realy bother with the etiquette stuff to be honest. I've put on my invites adult only and i have it on my website in multiple areas along with a longer explanation in the FAQ's area.

We are including an additional information card that says this:

If I make an exception for one cousin, Im going to have 5+ babies at the reception. Unfortunetly, its my own family that is the issue. My friends & my FH friends are ok with the rule.......they want to celebrate ki

I just finished doing our website on here and I mentioned in the "ceremony and reception" page that we will be having an adult only reception. Hopefully people will get the hint. I included the link on our save the dates.

Do it now and stick to your guns. Keep repeating, "It's not my problem, it's not my problem..."

So I am having a 12 and over rule for my wedding. When we sent out the STDs we did not mention the no children but have since started to tell FHs family by word of mouth. In addition, we are including an additional card in the invitation (see picture).

We are making a few exceptions: The FG and RB are allowed to stay b/c I really want them in my wedding (one is 6 and the other 4). And FH's sister had a baby last month and one of his GM had a baby last month. B/c they will still be breast feeding at the wedding I don't care if they bring the babies. They won't be able to run around and get into trouble so it doesn't bother me.

My FH and I are having an "adults only" reception as well. The reception is very formal with an open bar, and having kids around is NOT appropriate. Here is what we are explaining to our friends/family who have small children: "We adore (Kids name) and would love to celebrate with (him/her) but unfortunately this is an adult only reception. The venue isn't very kid-friendly, and we want to make sure all of our guests have a great time, are comfortable, and are safe. I know that you will respect our wishes with this request, but I just wanted to explain the situation to you directly!"

Honestly, you might have one family that ignores this request and brings their kids anyway, but this is where the mother/father of the bride/groom steps in and asks them to leave. That is our contingency plan! I know its harsh, but if they bring their kids they are completely ignoring your request and being very disrespectful.

Best of Luck!

To be honest, we are having a family friendly reception but I don't want any babies to come. I don't want any crying going on while we are saying our vows. I think I'm going to use a note stating no kids under the age of 5. Stick to your guns, if you compromise for one; others will start to expect too