A threesome?

I am not against 3 somes, i just dont see myself ever wanting or feeling comfortable with having one.

I was open minded in college but now I'm not open minded to it. For the simply reason, I'm a jealous person, and then I would get worried that if it was another woman FH would start to text her because he is actually starting to like her or something. Just the thought of it makes me parnoid.

Wow, interesting! Was your friend calling you to vent because she was shocked? Or she was totally cool with it?

That's like my FH's number one real life fantasy haha. I can't bring myself to share him & not be thinking about if I wasn't enough for him & things like that, but we know couples who branch out further than me & still live a healthy lifestyle & relationship!

@ Jasmine B. I know exactly what you mean.. I'm not really a jealous person but like I've said before I don't like sharing my man...Even he doesn't like her..but what if she likes him and becomes a stalker...I'm saying she because I really don't think I could be with two guys...

@Stephanie C. Thats what I'm saying if he try the greener grass and then leave it won't no one fault but mine.

@Mayra G. most definitely could not do the two guys thing it would not be a threesome for me it would be like they are running a train on me or something Wait can I say stuff like that. but you guys get my point.

@ Amber D...Both...well I wouldn't say totally cool with it..but she said that though it hadn't crossed her mind now that she knows he wants it...she's imagining what would it be like.

That's a door I would not open, Some people have boundary issues, meaning if I can do it with you why can't I do it without you? Plus, i dont like to share ;0

@Jasmine...lol I'm guessing you can say things like that I was worried to post this because I thought it was going to get deleted...

I think that if both individuals fully agree to it (not one was pressured into going along) then whatever floats their boat. I personally will share a lot of things - however, my man is not one of them lol

I say to each their own. I know of couples who have done that and they were completely okay with it. DH and I have discussed this before. Neither of us would be comfortable with seeing the other messing around with someone else, whether we agreed upon it or not. We don't share. Plus, I have some insecurities that I know would come out and make everything weird. It just wouldn't work.

@ I am Mrs. C I know what you mean...I have my insecurities too... But my friend is a model and always been proud of herself so guess she loves her self... but yes I know ppl like that too and looks like they're happy...

I'm not morally opposed. But I think that for most couples, a threesome is something best left to fantasy. It's very unusual that both partners are equally enthusiastic about it, and there is a lot of potential for one to be pressured into it and then become resentful later. It's difficult to arrange. (You need someone who is both bisexual and willing to be the third wheel in someone else's relationship.) And there is a lot of potential for hurt if one of the original couple becomes too fond of the third party, if one or both experiences unanticipated jealousy, etc.

@I am Mrs. C and Mayra G. Diddo!!! Insecurities +Jealousy=Diaster!!!

I'm not opposed...... I know plenty of couples who do it.... Whatever floats their boat but realize the possible consequences.

I know of two couples that actually tried that. Neither of them had a happy ending. The only way I could see that working with no drama afterwards is if none of the 3 people were emotionallly attached to eachother.

Wow I have to go out on a limb and say I think it is awful!!! You are cheating if you do this and it is breaking your marriage vows. What has this world come to. I'm sorry but I just can't agree with you ladies on this one! I understand you guys are not saying you would do it but you think it is ok is what i am against. So I am not saying you ladies would do it!!!

I think it's unhealthy to allow another person into your marriage. It's not just about the sex part. But it's taking a chance on your marriage.

My parents have some friends that were married for like 20 yrs and the husband wanted to spice up their marriage so they had a threesome with another woman. She said she was a lesiben so the wife felt she had nothing to worry about but the girl lied and ended up wrecking her marriage. That girl last I heard is still with the husband. So much for her not being heterosexual as she claimed.

It's a chance you take is all. And I think a marriage should be treated with respect. I don't think you should share yourself. Sex might just be sex but what if those people decide they have "feelings" for that person and then you complicate things and you lose your husband and wife.

I say it's a risk to marriage and marriage should be cherished and protected.

Hubby brought it up when we were dating, not because he wanted to but wanted to see what I thought.. i told him that i didn't care with a 3some with a girl (totally lied just to see what he would then say to this) as long as we can have a 3some with a guy. Why should you get the pleasure of 2 girls? Then I should get the pleasure of 2 guys. Shut him up pretty fast and hasn't been brought up since. Mission accomplished

I don't know how committed and/or married people do things like threesomes and swing without having it affect their relationship... I know these couples exist but FH and I could not be one of them.

IMO, threesomes are something that happen in college and then you never talk about ever again.