A threesome?

I have NO problem with this once so ever, I have a friend and her husband who have done this multiples times and their relationship is very strong.

But rules have 2 b stated ahead of time. Like I know FH would get off if I was with another girl so as long as she was all over me and so was he and never the two should touch then sure. The thing he wants is me to get off he doesn't want to sleep with anyone else he just wants to see me get pleasure so as long as I got to pick the girl and she was into me not him then I don't see why this would be a problem. That said he would have no interest in getting off with a guy so the opposite couldn't happen, not to mention other dudes grose me out, I can't even stand when a guy tries to grind against me while dancing so that wouldn't suite me either.

I guess the only reason a girl would work is cause I don't have any emotional interest in women but I don't think id care who was licking me as long as my FH was the one to F*#$ me @the end ofday

I've been on the other end of the spectrum, been asked to be in 3some. It was a friend & her bf (back in my 21 & single days). We got drunk of course, but I remember it. Was fun during, but I remember feeling left out that night. I mean they invited me, but in all reality they're a couple, so even tho I got my share of sex, at the end of the night I was sleeping alone. Altho one good thing about that night was, it showed me I can lean toward the Bi side if opportunity arose-which did happen few months later.

3some for me & FH? hell no. I've gotten over my wild days, he's pretty much over his. He has asked before, 2girls & guy, I said sure as long as I can have 2 guys & girl situation. That shut him up, he doesnt want to share me, I wont share him either. Sometimes I do think about the fun of Bi-curiousity. But all in all I'm w/FH, his sex is enough for me & I'm enough for him. & like other ladies said, I think it's just inviting trouble & infidelity into the marriage

Wow..the topics that arise here. Some replies are definitely TMI..,,

Groomzilla: I'll speak for my TMI, I've been here for a couple months but I feel like these ladies here dont judge. They may not all read my detailed posts, but I feel like I can spill my guts & it's ok.

Besides, in my personal experience, PG forums are no fun. You gotta spice it up lol

I wasn't judging either...peoples business is their own...I just wouldn't share on a public forum like this some of the info posted on this topic with the amount of information some list or if you do, better be sure no real identify info is being shared...that's all I'm saying.

My DH said to me that "threesomes are for some girls you don't care about, not your wife" =)

I think I'm much like some of the other women here. I think I would be far too paranoid and worried if I ever had that situation happen. I'd also feel a bit offended "What, I'm not good enough so you need to make an excuse to F another woman?".

Just thinking of it makes me uneasy.

My ex once tried to get me into a situation like this, it didn't happen. Lots of alcohol was involved, I can hold my own and can drink most men under the table, but he busted out tequila and I was pretty gone. He was asking me to kiss this girl...no way that was happening, even blitzed out of my mind. Turns out this is the girl he was cheating on me with.

I appreciate pretty women I even have my "if I was a lesbian this would be my dream girl list" but I would not ever consider being with a woman sexually and I would not ever want to be in a threesome. And my FH is so square he would never ever agree to it.

What works for some doesn't work for other, as a few other ladies here have said, whatever floats your boat go with it. Me personally, I have never been in a threesome and I never would want to be. I think some things are better left as a fantasy.

I respect each and everyone of you girls opinions.....Like I said I'm pretty open minded to the subject and almost every subject. I still do think that in a way is kind of fun to just think about it and imagine what would happen but just keep it as a fantasy. Me FH and I have talked about it. He says he wouldn't mind if we ever do but he would rather not to just like me. We do look around when we go out and say ohh that girl is cute and things like that. At times he even asks me if I would do her (never been with a girl in my life)...if she's cute I'll say yes but I and he know is just us playing. We have talked about this because when we watch porn I usually don't get that turned on watching guy and girl. It works best for me watching girl on girl. But I realized is not just me that this happens to. I've asked my close friends and they say it happens to them too. I guess is just hat girl and guy is usually the same and idk It would have to be really passionate to turn me on...cont.

Girl on girl on the other hand, they're usually really passionate and all. I don't know who agrees with me. I don't think I would ever be with a girl. Like I say at times I think about it but I know I could never do it.

@ Tami - wow your story is huge. You think he did it just to see if he was really gay or you think he already knew and it was more of a family friends issue...Sorry for asking...

@ Karla - I loved your lil saying ... I'm going to use it lol....

@ Krisalicious - I hope she didn't call me to invite me. Though I did make sure to tell her I wouldn't do it, especially with a friend.... I take my friendships really seriously...

@ Pam S. I agree with you Pam.... Is all in the type of relationship you have with your partner... If you're into it and have your rules and all they why not. In a way yes it is for single young people but hey we've seen it with the oldest and the youngest, married and single....Guess is not really an age thing is more of a way of living and thinking. If you like it then you like it... Hey I still like chocolate milk and I"m not a lil girl any more...OHh and pancakes with lots of syrup...loll....I've been bugging my FH that I want to go to strip club

@ Tami - wow your story is huge. You think he did it just to see if he was really gay or you think he already knew and it was more of a family friends issue...Sorry for asking...

@ Karla - I loved your lil saying ... I'm going to use it lol....

@ Krisalicious - I hope she didn't call me to invite me. Though I did make sure to tell her I wouldn't do it, especially with a friend.... I take my friendships really seriously...

@ Pam S. I agree with you Pam.... Is all in the type of relationship you have with your partner... If you're into it and have your rules and all they why not. In a way yes it is for single young people but hey we've seen it with the oldest and the youngest, married and single....Guess is not really an age thing is more of a way of living and thinking. If you like it then you like it... Hey I still like chocolate milk and I"m not a lil girl any more...OHh and pancakes with lots of syrup...loll....I've been bugging my FH that I want to go to strip club

Ive know plenty of guys/girls that were open to threesomes. Let me tell you its a bad idea. Most of those marriages ended badly, and the ones that didn't aren't exactly living a happy life.

@Pam --- just for curiousity because I've never been to...But one day he took me to the wing house...and just by seeing them girls with their booty shorts and almost bra I couldn't be there we had to leave...Not bc I was ashamed or Omg only I felt weird...Eating with all this girls wearing lil nothings...

@ KimmP...forgive my ignorance what is BDSM?

@ Groomzilla --- I Agree that people have different views of certain things than others. While some are very open minded and don't mind talking about certain things others don't really mind. I'm sorry if my post offended you in any way. I'm just one of those who are open minded and I don't mind talking to others...Besides this girls are really great and I feel that we can share things here since we don't know each other and I know that if I get an answer to my question is usually going to be an honest one...

IMO, if you want a threesome why bother to get married? Not a fan of sharing, myself. I also try very hard not to make vows I can't keep, and I intend on keeping all of my vows, even if someone else is ok with me breaking them, I'm not.

@ Soon2bMrs.Smith... Very clever comment...

Ok, so I am CLEARLY the minority on this post, but I am 100% for them. However, they are NOT for everyone. My FH and I are both bisexual and we have fun messing around with other people, so long as we are both in the room. Neither one of us is possessive of the other, but it is because we are 100% comfortable with our relationship and our boundries. We know we love each other, regardless of what others believe. We are best friends, each others wing person, and generally just like to have a good time with the other. Monogomy, to us, seems constraining, but if at any point one of us begins to feel insecure, we stop and do some serious relationship therapy and figure out why the person feels this way. Don't know if it makes a diff but my FH is a psychologist and for us our communication is so open and easy, the idea of not sharing and living our our fantasies would kill our love faster than introducing a new guy or girl to our bed. Because in the end it is OUR bed.

@Mayra,

BDSM-Bondage/Discipline

Domination/submission

Sadism/Masochism

It is all about "power play" and it really depends on the people involved.

It centres around two or more consensual adults engaging in a sometimes sexual, sometimes not, form of "play".

For some it's very serious and they live the lifestyle, for some it is something they need on occasion, for others it is just a bit of fun.

I do believe that to each their own. I agree with most ladies that I do not think it is for every relationship.

I don't judge because I know a few swinging couples that are very happy, but I also know a few that have had bad experiences.

I do think that all insecurities must be worked out before pursuing a 3some.

I'm NOT down for that, I dont do sharing LoL