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Just Said Yes February 2020

7 years dating and no ring yet

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Shannon, on October 21, 2017 at 9:31 PM

He says we have been engaged since year 1 but calls me his gf in public. My walk date was Sep 1 my bday. I went over that date and I stayed and I’ve been dying inside here. He keeps saying it will happen eventually soon. He said that since that day. I told him it’s not a good enough answer for me anymore. And I don’t want a pressured marriage. I’m upset that I’m at this point. I see people wait 20 years. This year I turned 35 and something clicked in my head. Sort of a panic. Like wow I’m not a kid a girl I’m a grown woman now. An aging woman and pretty soon it will be 40 candles on that cake. And I don’t want to look back and say what if and regret all this time I waited around. He on the other hand of course thinks what’s the rush. It will happen when it happens. Everytime I have brought it up he gets mad and defensive. That bothers me even more. It’s a very long relationship now. I should be able to discuss what’s eating away at me every single day!

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Devoted November 2018
shante · on July 4, 2018 at 2:19 AM
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Besides a marriage proposal, based on what you wrote, I think you need to focus on you. I took 3 years and worked on myself with a therapist. I was obsessed with marriage and not wanting to end up alone, that I dated men I had no business dating (I knew they werent going to be what I needed and deserved). Fast forward one year and I've traveled and gotten my masters degree and I've learnerd to love my own company. I met my fiance less than a year ago. I never thought I would be engaged less than a year later. I am sharing all this to say, focus on you! When you are in a better place with yourself, things become so much clearer and you stop accepting nonsense. I'm so gkad to read that you have a therapist...focus on that process and you might realize you really don't want to marry him. I wish you well.
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