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Briana--I'm really sorry you are feeling this way. I don't think it was anybody's intention to make you feel harassed or belittle you. I can only speak for myself, but I'm pretty sure when you come on a forum like this it's because you genuinely want advice from other people on if what you are doing is the best route or not. I think there are different ways you could go about achieving the things you want in your life that are a little more fixed and I think Glenn was trying to point that out too.

I hope you get what you need and find the support you are seeking.

You may not have started this discussion asking for advice, but you certainly did take it over with your story and sharing.

If you don't want to hear from "a bunch of strangers on a forum that really have no idea what I'm trying to do for myself" then maybe you should stop posting all about your life on this forum to all of us strangers.

Usually I try to stay out of the super drama filled posts - but you took this one over and then complained about it, and I find that interesting enough to comment.

Countrybride, I do have my priorities straight, the majority of our dividends is going towards getting a place, and trust me it won't be THAT hard to get a job, and we're moving to a large city so a car isn't necessarily needed because there IS public transportation to get to work, it's not that hard to memorize the bus schedule and walk to a bus stop, i did it all the time when living in AZ and I was never late to work...

P.S. read the whole thread before you start typing, tis a smart way to actually get all the information already posted so I don't have to repeat myself a hundred times because people don't read everything...

Caroline, I stated that from past discussions that I started and all they could talk about was something I said in the past. I'm not posting all about my life, if I wanted to do that I would be like a friend of mine on facebook and be starting discussions about EVERYTHING I do during the day from when I get up to when I take a pee at night... I didn't take this one over, I just stated an opinion/ tried to get advice and it just went from there...

Rae I know what Glenn was trying to point out, now that he isn't belittling me, I'm currently getting things in order for me and FH then we will be getting married, we may even move the date again, Idk it all depends on how things look for us after moving, if we get jobs that pay well enough, and he gets a slope job like he wants we may have enough money to get married next year, if not, I'll move it back again...it's just depressing trying to do something and getting nothing but negativity from it.

@Briana-

Just as an FYI from someone who has been in the apartment industry for a long time. Any reputable management company will want to see income. They are not going to just "take your word" that you are going to get a job. Any place that I have rented at or worked at looks for paystubs or offer letter for at least 2x the monthly rent. If they use a savings account at proof you have money they want 5x the ANNUAL rent. Which means if your apartment rent is $1000 a month they will want to see 60,000 in a savings/checking. Just make sure you know what you are walking into.

Jaemi I'm going to be calling places next week to talk to them, and see what the want before we move in, I know places that don't ask for pay stubs, and don't care where the money comes from as long as they have their money on time... besides the only way we can get jobs is by moving up there, and there is no way I'm going to live on the street till I get a job, especially with winter nipping at our heels, the only reason we waited this long into the year to move is because of dividends, otherwise we would have done it in the summertime had we had the money...

There's some great dialogue going on in this thread!

Just something to remember:

While we do try to keep obvious 'put-downs' in check and remain respectful of each other, please PLEASE remember that whatever you post here is fair game for responses, as this is a public forum.

If you don't want responses to a particular situation, this is probably not the appropriate place to post.

It is these differing opinions and perspectives that keep our forums fun, entertaining, and interactive!

WWSupport for the Win! Best thing I've seen on this site in a very long time

Damn. That's the best WW post I've ever seen.

See more negativity, I don't need it brian, nor do I care for YOUR opinion, as far as I've ever seen on here you have nothing positive to say to ANYONE, just because I don't make huge sums of money like a lot of other people doesn't mean I can't make it someplace in life, I'm moving out of my moms house, and I don't have to prove anything to you guys, I don't...so get over it and leave me alone, I'm tired of all the negativity towards me anytime I post something on here...

Damn. That's the best WW post I've ever seen.

Well then No it's not section 8 housing, there does that answer your question? I don't know where these places are, but I know they exist because I have friends who grew up in them, their mom never had a steady job and the landlord didn't care, they got their money on time and that's all they gave to shakes for, is their money, and believe it or not Brian, almost EVERYTHING you say to me comes off negative because you put in a way to belittle me, so instead of questioning what I'm doing why not be happy that I'm going to be independant and not sit and belittle me like always...

You don't care for anyone's opinion, yet you keep asking for it with your incessant rambling posts. If you hate us all so much, leave US alone. Mostly, leave Brian alone, he just asked you a simple question.

@ Briana S- I did read everything before I responded. I still think your priorities are mixed up. Your only worry shouldn't be how to a wedding planner will be paid for when you don't even have a place to live yet. Once you both have jobs and have a place to live and are sure you can pay bills without missing a beat, then worry about how a wedding planner will be paid for. SMH. You need to grow up.

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Briana---I was really on your team for a minute back there. But, everytime one of us gives you some advice, you call us negative and think we are being mean to you. Maybe instead of being so defensive you could be a little more open to other suggestions---since you're posting your questions on an open public forum. If not, that's fine too. The simple solution is to just stop asking.

Not agreeing with other people's opinions does not mean they are negative. You make it negative as an excuse to justify what you are doing. No one is trying to belittle you but rather for you to have a better life without having to make too many mistakes. Although, if you want to do so, go right ahead. No one is stopping you.

Also important to remember: it is always your right to remove yourself from a conversation that you feel is no longer productive.

This is a much better option than feeding into an argument out of frustration that will only escalate it and move the thread off course. Though we do love the personal email correspondence with our users ...!

There are plenty of great discussions going on here in the forums! Hundreds! Sometimes it's best just to move on.

Analy I do care for peoples opinions but when they come off as degrading or belittling I don't like to hear it, I get degraded and such enough at home, I didn't come on here looking for help, I was merely making a comment and Glenn made a comment on it, and that's where it all started. Country bride, I do have my priorities in order, trust me I'm not even thinking of how the wedding planner is going to be paid, I already know how I'm going to pay her.

Rae I don't call you negative when people give me advice, not all the time, only when it comes off as negative to me, and I am open to suggestions, but I'm tired of being brow beaten about things that I'm working on, I'm moving out of my moms house, I'm calling apartments next week to work something out so that we can move out, and get jobs and live on our own and pay our own bills.

Brian it's just the way you asked the question that came off as negative to me, I'm sorry it's just the way I grew up, I have never had anything positive

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"Though we do love the personal email correspondence with our users ...! "

Yea, we love it too. Way more. Trust me.

For almost anything I did in life, it was always " but so and so did it better". I'm just tired of being told to do what I'm already doing.

That one chick: I am not making things negative, and I haven't stated that I don't agree with their opinion, believe me I agree with many of their opinions, it's just the way things come off to me sometimes, it happens, it's an internet forum and no one can see body language, which speaks louder than words on a screen when in a conversation.