2 year (or longer) engagement

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Heeeeey! May 2021 here too!!! Whats your date? Mine is the 21st. I am basically DIYing everything and i have no shame in saying that. My wedding is gonna be small and intimate so im not very scared and ive already planned mostly everything and im excited to go sale hunting this summer and next year for all the stuff i need. Which, like you said, it will be a lot more cost effective

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School does take your mind off everything, kudos to you. I have two jobs and one job i took out of necessity to save up for this wedding. I am counting on a low budget type wedding, we are only having around 25 guests, so you can imagine!

I have never had much experience. Went to a wedding when i was around 5 or so and i was the flower girl. Then my sisters wedding and i was only there for like a day prior to the even and i was a bridesmaid. Honestly i didnt experience anything only standing beside my sisters MOH lol

But i have done research since i got engage and i have been looking for ideas and being on pinterest (obviously lol) so i am confident by the tie my wedding rolls in ill be ok.

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Aww hope everything goes well for you! You got this girl!

ALSO... psychologists also believe you need a new partner every 5 years to be truly happy...

View Quoted Comment I definitely agree. There’s even a little joy to be found in the frustration. Just when I think I have complete plan A and B and start working on a plan C. I find something new better than my previous plans. I find something more budget friendly. Something more amazing. I realize I have more options. Being on a budget I thought my options were a lot more limited than they are. Between this site and Pinterest and went from something that wasn’t as glamorous as I’d once dreamed to coming close (in concept) to something where my beer budget can somewhat match my champagne taste. YouTube has been an amazing help as well. It helped me think outside of the box. Also thinking I had it all figured out and telling my fiancé what I was thinking I realized he has quite a few desires and opinions. I’ve always assumed the bride plans everything the groom just smiles and agree with everything and they live happily ever after 😂😂😂 it sucks a little having to compromise 😩😩😩 but it’s very exciting for him to be so involved. It’s also exciting to know that whatever we finalize will be the day of OUR dreams

I feel 2 years is best for our situation personally. We aren’t living together yet, and can’t move in until next year. But I am taking advantage of the extra time by really trying to create my vision. I also want to do a bit of DIY so this extra time really helps

View Quoted Comment Mine is May 20th 2019, originally we were planning for the 22nd. We changed because the venue we fell in love with would fit better in our budget on a Thursday. I am kind of jealous of the small wedding though! We both come from large families so even just basic family and friends puts us at having 150 guests

View Quoted Comment Yes! I get super ansy as well.

We've been engaged almost two years! We'll be married one month RIGHT before it would be two years. We got engaged in July 2017 and we're finally getting married in June. It feels like forever, but honestly I cannot believe I have less than two months now. I didn't start doing things until January of 2018, because I was student teaching right after we got engaged. And even then, the only thing I did then was get my dress! lol. I slowly started doing more things, but I began my first year teaching and now I'm in my masters program so honestly I was perfectly content with a long engagement because I could focus on all of my crap and not totally be bored by no longer having wedding planning to do. There will be several times where you'll be like "there is nothing for me to do right now" and then a lot of times where you're like "omg why is there SO MUCH TO DO AT ONE TIME?" haha. and then it's over and you're married! What a fun ride. lol

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I am so happy you have seen the good in the wait and time and i totally agree with you. Having so much time to plan and so much time to better your ideas, evolve and see whats really out there makes it so much personal and comforting to you as a bride because it makes it more you! at least, that's how i feel!

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That's not small! That's pretty medium but it isn't a bad number at all! Mine is tiny, with a 25 guest count and this is for a big reason. Both of us are from different places, I'm from Puerto Rico and he is from Costa Rica, so having the family over is not going to happen. But we do have siblings in the same state as us so those are the guests a long some close close close friends of ours.

We got engaged Nov. 1, 2018 and we aren’t getting married until Dec. 12, 2020. What’s really kept us going/excited with planning is the idea that when we get down to the wire, we hopefully won’t be stressed about too many major things because they’ve already been taken care of! I’ve got a dress, my MOH has a dress, my fiancé did a consultation for tuxes, we have a venue, etc. I’m also the type of person who knows what they like and I don’t change my mind! I couldn’t wait haha.
** another thing keeping us going is that we have a handful of wedding coming up in the next year, so in order to dedicate as much attention as possible to our friends while they really got close to their big day, we got some major things for us out of the way (:

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Honestly, i only changed my mind once, just at the beginning of planning. I wanted a dusty blue color scheme and i was pumped but i kept seeing greenery decor and i kept falling in love with it, i also found a problem with table centerpieces with that color and it wasnt working for me but ... we are both born in may, we are getting married in may, may's birthstone is an emerald so! No brainer, we go with a green color scheme! lol it was a bit of realization that it would have been the perfect color and i was falling in love with greenery decor so why the heck not lol that was the only thing that "set me back" a couple of day lol

View Quoted Comment I understand that! Before we got engaged, I had all these dreams of a summer wedding with pinks and blues and purples... but then we got engaged and I just had a completely different vision. We’re both winter babies and we love Christmas so we were like “Duh! A winter wedding!” Our colors are green and gold and so far, it’s everything we didn’t even know we wanted!

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Lol i know right!

I was even surprised FH was excited for the colors and the "tropical" theme to it all. Since we are both from Center-America we felt the need to go back to the tropic type theme and do it this way, it helps that it might be warm enough the day of our wedding to make it really tropical and get in the pool lol

View Quoted Comment I definitely agree. For me this is a super special thing and really a big deal. This will be my second marriage. My first one I was 19 and eloped at the court house. Wasn’t much special about the day. I was okay with that at first but later I wish I had went back and done it all. Now I’m glad I didn’t because this marriage is the one. I’m older and wiser and know what I need in a husband I’m sure I found my forever and to be able to have that celebration I longed for and with the right person.... it just warms my entire being. Everything happens for a reason. I look forward to reminiscing on an amazing wedding day 30 years from now and still actually be with the love of my life verses look back and think I had a great wedding too bad I didn’t have the marriage to match lol

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Actually! same here, second wedding, married at 21... horrible all of it. Now its my choice, my decision... I am happy!

My fiancé and I got engaged this Christmas (12/25/2018) and we are getting married on 11-6-2021. I am finishing up graduate school this May and my fiancé is taking the MCAT at the end of next month. Given that we are both students at this point in time, a long engagement is what we figured would work best financially. Not to say that I myself have always seen it this way. At the top of this year I began feeling the urge to start planning. I scheduled venue tours once a day for three solid weeks in March. This was very stressful for me as I found a venue I liked but it was too far away to ask our guests to travel. My fiancé and I finally found the perfect venue and we booked it in April. This was the most important aspect for me as I wanted to confirm our wedding location. We have looked, messaged, and interviewed with a few photographers. During this journey I have been on a rollercoaster in terms of excitement and sadness but I have put it into perspective that the most important this is enjoying life with my love. This is such a new and exciting time and big changes are coming. Enjoy these moments and talk to friends and family members to learn about their wedding experiences and wedding professionals. Jump on Pinterest, WeddingWire, and the Knot. Start learning and budgeting. Another thing I did this month was had a nice little lunch for my bridesmaids to be and had a bridesmaids proposal. Getting others excited for your wedding is a great way to stay motivated. I’m not planning on doing a lot more planning until this coming year (January 2020). Also, I do love watching the TV show 4 Weddings for some fun entertainment and to get other wedding ideas. Hang in there and enjoy this journey! It will go by so fast!

View Quoted Comment This is refreshing to read! I just got engaged in September and I often talk about the wedding A LOT. I look at venues, visit places etc. but our first goal is to move. Just having a hard time trying to figure out the balance between being overly excited and also knowing how to relax and take things one step at a time. I have another venue to look at coming up but afterwards maybe I should let it go for a while also and instead focus on the moving out aspect.

My fiancé and I got engaged in February of 2019 and our real wedding will be in October of 2021. We are doing a justice of the peace this year in October.
My fiancé is going on a deployment in 2020 so he won’t be back until 2021 so we have started booking the big things that we want to do together. We picked out our colors. I have looked at wedding dresses . Not that I have found the one that I want but I know wedding dresses take almost a year sometimes. We have bought some things for our wedding. I think with us we are buying things here and there for the next 2.5 years. It is really hard not to just want to get it done and over with. But most of the big stuff we want will happen before he leaves.

Girl I’m with you! Got engaged 9/21/17, getting married 9/21/19. FINALLY in month 4! Honestly, it went by so quick looking back on it. I think the 1st year was so slow but if you focus your energy on other areas of your life it’ll be here before you know it. Congratulations on your engagement!