2 year (or longer) engagement

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Oh gosh! Yeah we are going for small and intimate...mind you, i mean small as in tiny (25 guests). We want to save for a new car and a house... its possible if we keep things minimalist and simple...but yeah i get you! You got this though!!

View Quoted Comment I would definitely stick with small. My fiancé doesn’t to spend over 5k and planning a 100 person wedding is very hard. My father helped with the venue and my mother with the dress. It has been so stressful. I’m worried it’s going to be terrible. But the long engagement only for discouraging after 2 years. But once I actually started planning it was fine.

We want to be able to save up enough money to have the big wedding we both want so that’s our motivation is having the wedding of our dreams

Hi there! Our wedding date is April 24, 2021... mainly such a far out date because we’ve been planning to buy a house next year for quite sometime. We will be paying for our wedding on our own and we want time to prepare.. I’m loving the idea now because I have more time to prepare and RESEARCH to do it financially smart and get all the little details we want... I have a wrking list of vendors and details that I’m constantly updating...in all honesty I just don’t iue to get more and more excited! Stick with it! Your special day will be here before you know it!

Hi, my big day is 07/21/2021, so we have a ways to go. Definitely have lulls.. some days I’m super excited to plan and get stuff marked off my list, and some days I’m just like 🥴meh...mostly I’m enjoying taking my time with the planning, not getting overwhelmed and enjoying the journey😊

I have a long engagement. I got engaged June 2018. We wont be having the wedding until September 2021. The money is what is making us wait so long. We are paying for everything cash. We have been getting all our prices added up. I know what venue we want. We will be putting a downpayment on it and then just start paying for it. Being able to make the payments helps alot. I refused to take out loans or anything for the wedding. But being able to plan everything keeps me excited to keep up and keep planning.

I currently don't have the money to make my dream wedding happen I would love it to be the best it can be and don't want to settle for less so the more time the merrier

We got engaged on December 21, 2018, and we are getting married on October 30, 2021. So far just seeing all the possiblities and seeing the venue allows me to really think what we want to do to decorate the space and have a few options ready incase something doesnt work out. Plus its also nice to see our wedding fund grow each week; which helps calm my nerves for paying. Also I am makk g my own wedding dress and flower girl dress too, so that really helps to kill time.

We got engaged December 2018, we aren't getting married until May 2021. The long engagement choice was mostly made due to paying for the wedding ourselves and giving birth to our daughter in March. We are most likely booking our venue in 2 weeks and now that the 2nd tour is approaching I find myself constantly on pinterest, adding and deleting things from online shopping carts and driving my fiancé nuts by constantly showing him pictures. I guess I'm also asking for advice on how to slow down. We agreed on 2021 and now I don't want to wait but we can't get the wedding we want any sooner, I'm getting a little anxious.

We're not getting married until 2021, so I feel your pain. I just kind of slowed down the planning so I can space it out. We're doing a lot of stuff DIY so my Pinterest board is crazy and it's letting me try out different ideas. I guess that's what kind of keeps my spirits up. Maybe planning the honeymoon would help if you're having one.

Hey, Lizbeth! My wedding is also a tiny bit over 2 years away. I’m basically done planning so, now i’m like: now what?

My best friend is one of my bridesmaids and we are always talking about dresses and flowers and how lovely everything is going to be. She’s so excited and really helps to keep my excitement level up!

My fiancè and I just did our engagement photoshoot and I think having things like that to look forward to have really kept me motivated.

My fiancè and I also don’t live together yet so we try to talk about things we need to get done before we get married. We’re talking about mortgages and the best place we can live within our budget.

I think charting out the steps we need to take before we tie the knot has helped me keep my motivation because I have a clear idea of what we need
to accomplish before our wedding date!

i hope this helps!!!

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I'm in the same situation as well. I've already book my venue and just saving to pay that off so that's keeping me motivated. The smaller details I'm not obsessing over much. In a few months I'm having a engagement dinner so that as well is keeping me busy

Ohhh girl I know how you feel. For me I've basically picked everything and booked all my vendors and anything else I have to do has to wait until next year because it's either too early to do or I don't have the money yet. It gets frustrating sometimes since I'm so excited for the wedding and I have anxiety so I want everything done NOW but can't. I just try and take a step back and keep myself busy doing other things and try not to think about it until it's time to pay a deposit or buy something for it etc. Just keep yourself busy with other things in life and put the wedding in the back of your mind until it's time again to do something for it.

View Quoted Comment Our wedding is 2/20/2021 so I understand! I'm paying for everything myself so it gives me time to save and research everything so I'm not rushed.

Got engaged on Feb. 2019, we will marry until August 2021. I pushed the date longer actually because I will be less stressed and able to plan better. I go to school and work. Im going to do all myself when it comes to decor. Motivation is easy as I don't feel stressed about it and have time to look around of what I want and all.

I am with you!! We just hit under 2 years and and i am so anxious for it to be here. it's tough because there is so much to do but too far away to do anything. I did get my dress already and got the length altered!

Got engaged a few weeks ago and we haven't set a date, we just know it won't be for a few years because we want to move. We picked colors and where we want to be married but nothing else. Saving and having patience is gonna be the hardest. I just want to marry him already.

I love this thread! We got engaged right at the end of December and we aren’t even sure if we’ll be married in July 2021 or 2022 yet. We’re both students and we want to wait until school is over and we are for sure going to be in the same state. I love to see everyone’s process!

Between the the two of us, I am super excited to plan and he’s just content to sit and wait for a while. My parents are asking lots of questions and I have a vision board on Pinterest and my two best friends are having fun day dreaming with me. Right now, day dreaming is all it is.

So far out, I’m just researching pricing for vendors I know personally and trying to get a sense of budget for later. But I’m trying to lay low and not get too invested in anything. I gave my FH and I a deadline for picking a date that will give us about a year to plan for the earlier date and two for the other.

Its nice though because we have at about 3 years to build a savings account for it!!!

My fiance and I have been together for 7 years. He proposed in December! As much as I want to plan, my best friends wedding is in September! And I dont want to take that away from her. Once hers is done, we will start. We are looking for October of 2021. Honestly. I wish it could be sooner. But I also realize I'm with him forever. What's another couple of years going to do? It's not about the race. It's about what's at the finish line! Just remember that ❤

We got engaged on our 4 year anniversary this past year (10/10/2018). We originally wanted to get married in 2020 because it is after my college graduation and we can move in together and settle in. But every venue in the area is booked and I would rather not have the stress of a wedding out of town. So we pushed it back ANOTHER year to 2021- 3 years engaged and it is very disappointing. But I am keeping myself encouraged because we have more time to save money, I can take time with my DIY projects which is awesome because my mother lives 6 hours away and is amazingly talented with crafts. I can do research on how to save money, and discover what we actually want on the big day. We have different personalities so we have many compromising discussions. A plus is that I have the venue, which also provides set up, tear down, ceremony & reception, dance floor and furniture, catering and bartender. So we just need the invitations, outfits, decoration, dessert, officiant and other small stuff.

Also, we are getting married on our 7 year dating anniversary, which is what psychologists say is when you truly know someone. I think that is super cool.