2 year (or longer) engagement

Me and my fiancé got engaged September 14th 2018, we are getting married September 18th 2021. Everyone seemed shocked because it’s so long. I feel more at ease with this because We get to save and budget things out how we want it. My one friend is stressing so bad because hers is July 4th and It makes me more happy I won’t be a bridezilla. For now I just been budgeting, getting a list together, picking a color for the wedding, picking out venues, looking at dress ideas, cakes, And enjoying ourselves being engaged. It will be here before you know it.

2 years and 2 months for us! The date is really important and also gives us enough time to save. I keep a notebook of brain dumps and occasionally will look at things more seriously but until we hit the 18 month mark I won't do much else

View Quoted Comment Ditto! I told FH that as soon as 18-17 months hit in a start buying stuff lok

Hello Hello!!! Sorry I am just seeing this. I basically fill my head with plenty of ideas to keep me motivated, I also allow my wedding planning to take a breather. I will go a couple of weeks of not thinking about it, than new ideas pop up in my head, It all depends on what kind of wedding you want. I.E big wedding, small wedding, traditional, etc its alot to think about. It is definitely a lot to plan, you can never go wrong with have a 2 year engagement, to make sure nothing crumbles on YOUR DAY. Its more to planning the wedding than you think, its never to much of over planning your wedding. Even when you think you are done planning, your not done planning.

We are not getting married until 7/16/2022...it seems SO far away but right now I'm just enjoying him, looking up things on Pinterest, etc. We have already settled on a color scheme so that's one thing off the list lol. My fiancé is also finishing up school and that's going to be a little while. So we are just enjoying each other, saving money, and making the most of it until our big day! I hope it flies by!

My goal is to start solidifying my plans about 22 months ahead. 2/22/22 it’s on a Tuesday I’m not sure if that will make it easier or if the fact that it’s 2/22/22 will make it more of a challenge. Yesterday I had the chance to speak with a bride that had her wedding at a venue high up on my list. Now I’m determined to have my wedding there. It does take away some of the random browsing I’ve been doing because it’s pretty much an all inclusive venue. I have a DJ (my best friend has volunteered) I don’t want real flowers so don’t need a florist. I have a list of great photographers with reasonable rates waiting for a closer time frame. I was told I need to provide my own centerpieces if I want those. So I’ve kind of been focusing there since it’s looking like the planning will be minimal when I officially start. The videos make it all look so simple but I’d like to start practicing ahead of time to make sure I have the precision needed to make sure my DIY items don’t look like my kids school art. Something else I’ve been toying with is doing my own makeup. I’m not a big makeup wearer in general but I saw a video where a bride practiced the look she wanted for her wedding day over a period of months swapping out products she didn’t like such as changing to a different matte foundation when she found a couple hours later it was oily or another looked great until the photo had flash. I have a MUA just in case but I’m prepared to do good on my own if need be... so these are the things I’ve been considering and keeping me engaged with things over this looooong engagement. Previously I just kept changing my mind. Now I’ve hit a point where I see the vision very clearly and I’m just saving and putting my vision board (one note for now) together. I want to make boxes for when I ask my MOH and BMs to be part of my special journey so I’ve been looking into those things as well. Putting together a playlist of songs I must have at my wedding to give to the DJ. There’s always something you can do. Create a board on Pinterest. Create a few different ones. Will you have an engagement party? Bridal shower? Bachelorette party? Create wishlists on Amazon with ideas of things you’d like. Places you’d like to have your other events or ideas of themes or activities you’d like to do... look for unique games... I can’t for the life of me begin to imagine how I’d cope with all of this thinking crammed into a short amount of time.

Just have FUN that is what a wedding is supposed to be. Our wedding is March, 14, 2021. All I have done is booked the venue and photographer (I loved both had to do it sooner then later ) I am constantly looking at things though. The nice thing with a long engagement is that it gives you time to fine tune things .

We got engaged December 1, 2018 and are getting married September 26th, 2020. I have a really bad tendency to start something and not finishing because I get fed up and angry that it's not happening right now. One thing I do to cope with that is think of myself walking down that aisle. I just have to get to that point, and I tell myself that constantly. I like to be prepared and have things done way ahead of time but, on the flipside, procrastinate horribly!! I don't even ask myself IF I will procrastinate/get discouraged. I TELL myself that I will not do those things. The more you tell yourself, the stronger your resolve becomes! Once you are down that aisle looking at the love of your life, your rock-solid resolve comes in and you feel encouraged and empowered that you did it! If you haven't already, maybe reading through all your contracts with your vendors and coming up with a running list of questions could help you feel like you are still actively "planning" and may take your mind off the "nothing to do" feeling. HUGS!!

We got engaged in September of 2018 and are getting married in October of 2021. I totally understand what you mean about being discouraged. We chose to have a longer engagement because I would be graduating from college at the end of 2019 and we wanted to start looking for houses in January or 2020. I think if you have a plan, longer engagements are totally acceptable. Unlike others on here, I have already picked out my vendors and put down payments on them. I knew what I wanted, so I secured my date with them. I also do better with making payments over a period of time than paying large amounts at one time. The time will fly. You got this!

We just started planning 2 years out. We're waiting so long because we have a family and other responsibilities and need that long to save what $$ we need for our wedding. Right now, I am in full-planning mode because it's new. It'll go in spurts. I doubt I'll get bored with it. I doubt I'll get frustrated. I'll just start planning little details of things that are important to us.

Good Morning Ladies,

I have been with my honey for 19 years and Valentine's Day this year, he proposed. Yes, we're also doing a long engagement (personal finance reason that affects my income forever), soooo, we chose 12/3/22. We are looking at venues and good grief, I hope by the end of July, I have a decision. We just haven't found just the right one yet that meets both our expectations. Not into the outdoor or farmhouse and that seems to be most venues these days. Anyway, I have to laugh. Every place we go and they ask our date, they always pause and then ask "Why so long?" We're in our 60's, so maybe they figure we don't have that long?! LOL LOL I know all the things to ask venues, but what are you ladies asking photographers? I'm looking at their websites for style, but just curious as I see several of you are interviewing them. Would you share? Oh, we're doing about 100 people. That's family and close friends.

Mines going to be a while indeed 2025

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Nothing wrong with that. Take your time.

Just got married "Justice of the Peace" but planning a bigger wedding as if we didn't get married so our friends and family can witness our vows. Our set date is June 19, 2021

We chose to have a long engagement because we had a lot going on in between that I didnt want to financially fight with. I've been taking the planning very slow. We have been engaged a year and will be getting married 2021. We have found the venue and just play around what color themes and stuff here and there, like window shopping. But for you, since you have planned everything already, that sounds great! Less to stress. If you are already financially sound for the wedding, maybe you start planning an exciting honeymoon. So that at the wedding you can ask people to fund it. Or make mini celebrations of being together till your wedding. Every 6 months recreate past experiences that had you all fall in love in the first place or something new. Because after all, that's what it's all about.

I got engaged January 13 of this year (2019) and we don’t get married until October 22 of 2022, personally I don’t mind because I’m a perfectionist and it gives me more than enough time to save enough money for everything that I want for that day and for our honeymoon. It gives me enough time to find vendors that actually have what I want and not settle for anything less than what I want. I don’t like to sound cliché but it’s our day and I want it to be perfect and something for us to remember and later tell our grandchildren about. During that time other than wedding planning I would say set little goals out for each other and build each other up.

Well we had push it back since i was laid off in 2018; but we are working on our relationship and i get to a lot of diy projects for the wedding.

I did it by knocking a few things out, then taking a break! The only time I got discouraged was when we had to postpone a month out due to the virus.

It can be easy to get discouraged when you want to talk about about and plan your wedding and you constantly hear "We have plenty of time"
I've revisited and made so many changes which I'm grateful for. It's been fun starting over here and there with planning.
Another thing that is keeping me motivated is my MOH & I are going to Bridal/Wedding Expos for inspiration.This will help lift your spirits 👍🏼😊