2 dads, 1 Father/daughter dance....help!

I would do two separate dad/daughter dances!!! and maybe instead of having one walk you half way down the aisle and then the other walking you the rest of the day -- have one on either side of you, so they can walk you down together?

I think 2 songs would be nice. I'm sure you could find songs with lyrics that have meaning to each one differently. I don't think your guest would mind, your family would understand and I'm sure your friends have heard you vent to them about things. The DJ would be able to announce it too. Maybe the one that gets to walk you the 2nd half of the way to the alter and answers the question "who gives this woman" becomes the 2nd dance, so that the other Dad/Father gets to be in the spot light being the 1st dance. just an idea

Thanks guys.. I actually like the idea of simply having BOTH of them walk me down the aisle.. I geuss i was worried about how they'd feel about sharing that moment, but it's better than having one left out, half way down the aisle..

Wedding planning is soooo stressful!!! lol

Well pick a faster song and dance with both of them.

I always agree with both dads walking the bride down the aisle.

For the dance, I would suggest picking a song of decent length, and start off with one, and allow the other one to cut in, in a gentlemanly fashion.

I think I would have them both walk me down the aisle, because that's sweet, and it would be a treasured memory. But the dance... I think I'd skip it entirely. I'd still be wondering "which dad first" and the song lyrics would take on too much meaning, and it would just hurt me too much. If I skipped it, I would probably think of another symbolic gesture. I might play "a song for my dads" and then during the song, present them with a keepsake, a flower, or a handwritten note.

If you're really, really wanting to do the father/daughter dance in a traditional fashion however, I think these other suggestions are entirely elegant as well.

I am very close to both my step dad and bio dad also. I am having them both walk me down the aisle. According to my mom they even talked about it behind my back and made a cute little agreement that they were both okay with it. I hadnt thought too much about dancing myself, My FH and I arent huge dancers and werent really planning on doing a "first dance" for ourselves either. I do like Photography's idea to have a faster paced song and dance with them both, it would be fun and they wouldnt have to feel like one was prioritized over the other

Well they kind of are sharing the moment.... but IMO they should be okay with that... they have both been fathers to you at some point....I would have them both walk you down the aisle and do 2 dances.... maybe ask an attendant to join to do a switch off.

I'm having my both dads walking me down the isle as well. 2 first dance is a good idea i think.

I had a very similar situation in my first wedding. Thankfully my Bio father is a judge, so I have my step dad walk me down the isle and give me away and then had my bio father marry us. Then I had a father daughter dance with both of them. Now in this wedding i dont even talk to my step dad anymore because my mom left him and me and him had a falling out. So I am having my sons walk me down the isle- my dad marry us and then do the father daughter dance with My bio father. :-)

I would recommend starting the father/daughter dance with your biological dad and having your step dad do the "tap on the shoulder" about halfway through. Your DJ should be able to cue your step dad up when it's time to step in.

I am somewhat on the same train as Carlos...Except that I think the dad that means the most to you should get the right to kick off the dance with you. Sure, Biodad helped you get a life but it was Stepdad that kissed your skinned knees and put the fear of God in the guys you dated and made sure you were home safe and sound after the dates!

But at the end of the day it's your decision!

Maybe have both walk you down the isle, and for the dance...pick a longer song. Instead of having the second FOB step in, you kiss dad 1 on cheek and grab dad 2 from sidelines to finish off song. The kiss on cheek would kinda show and 'end' to guests. Good luck!

The idea of both walking you down is great. If your stepfather ( or whichever one) is the one you most identify with as being your dad, you could start your father daughter dance with, "I loved you first." then have the other step in and dance the rest to "What a wonderful world." Which it is, you have both there! You can burn both songs on a CD to a point you like with the Lyrics, and just clue a bridesmaid in when to have the other dad come step in. I think it'll be lovely and everyone there, I'm sure knows your history, will think it's beautiful! Good luck!

Or perhaps just to "What a Wonderful world!" with both of them. Talk to bothof them. I think you'll be surprised what they agree to. My Father couldn't walk me down the aisle or dance with me, because he was near crippled and in basically a wheel chair. My 22 yo son walked me down and danced my first dance with me to "What a wonderful world." I loved it even thought it wasn't my dad. On a brighter note, my dad just had his third surgery Monday and is on his way back to walking! He's 83...s o I'm just thankful he was there for me. He did wait by the "alter" to give me away. My son handed me off to him. We adjust for today's scenarios! I am an older bride too.

Hmmm, tough one.

Maybe you can talk it over with your Fiance, and then have your first dance with your husband, your bio father cut in, and dance a 2 min song, then he "hands off" to your step dad, for another two minute song, who in turn, by the end of the song hands you back to your new husband, almost full circle. I know it may sound corny, but I hope not.

Leighton

For me I had this issue two dads one dance, one person to walk me. I chose my step father he is the one who raised me and in my opinion the one to deserve this honor. My real dad was never really in the picture so I felt he didn't deserve it. And actually for me my real dad didn't show to my wedding at all..so worked out well.

You can split the father/daughter dance, each taking a turn, maybe divided by your husband and his mom? Each gets their own song (see below) and so there is no tap on the shoulder?. Or, instead of making it a spotlight moment, pick a song for each, and simply have it played during the dance, no announcements, no spotlight, keep it private.

If each gets a song, and you have a DJ, make them each short. I use shortened versions of songs to keep things from dragging, like a 2 minute "I Loved Her First" by Heartland. You can cut a chorus and verse out of most songs to help keep things moving.

In any case, give each their moment. If you biological dad has stepped up, and your step-dad is wonderful, say something. Either in a toast or if you're not comfortable with public speaking, record something and put in a video or build into the songs. Or write a note for the program telling everyone.

I'd be glad to help if you need it.

Thanks for posting this because I have been going through the issue with who will dance first and trying to find songs. But I like the idea of having a song for each of them.

I recently just met my father also. 1 year ago to be exact. My step father has been in my life since I was 4. My step-father will be walking me and dancing w/ me at my wedding. I believe on your part that your bio dad walks u 1/2 way and your step-dad the rest. As for the dance, I would dance w/ your bio dad and than let your stepfather knw to ask to cut in. unless you can do a dance w/ your bio dad than your husband with his mother, than again with your other dad. My dad will be at my wedding, i will dance with him at other songs but not thee father daughter dance. My stepfather was there for me supporting me when he didnt have to, so I want to show my appreciation for all the hard work he has done.