2 dads, 1 Father/daughter dance....help!

I say do two dances. If you're having this dilemma you obviously care for both of them, so why not show them that by having a special dance with each of them.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9I5UV4VWCSk

Tim McGraw - My Little Girl

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ab4VRWX8y1A&feature=related

Heartland - I loved her first

If your step-dad is the main father figure in your life i'd say let him walk you down the aisle to give you away. Your biological father should understand and he should be happy with having his own father/daughter dance. It's not his fault that he wasn't in your life sooner, but your step-father should be the one to do most of the father duties on your wedding day if he's been there. When my friend got married her step-father (who raised her) walked her down and gave her away, and she had a separate dance with each of them at the reception to show love to her biological father a well. It worked out very nicely and her bio father was gracious for the dance.

Thank you guys sooo much. THis discussion board TRULY has helped me!! I've decided to have both walk me down the aisle.. and will have 2 seperate dances.. Now the daunting task is finding the right song for each of them. My relationship is so different with each. My bio father is such a serious man.. and we're not the mushy type together. We say I love you, and hug hello/goodbye, but that's the extent of it. On the other hand, my step father is very loving.. I call him daddy.. and he's emotionally present. So i think finding the song for my BIO dad is going to be the hardes since he isnt the real mushy type. Thoughts?

Also.. my BIO dad is covering half the cost of the wedding. My step father is going through financial hardship, and consequently been able to help with anything (which is absoltuely FINE). But I do want to recognize my bio dad and all his efforts, w/o outshining my step dad. ((who would have thought all this would be so tough for me!!) sheesh

Glad we could help!

I dont know if you are into country music, but there is a song, I think its by brad paisley called "he didn't have to be" I think that is a really appropriate song even though its sung as a boy about his step father.

When choosing songs, don't hesitate to avoid the traditional choices. If there is a song you associate with your step-dad, or maybe he has a favorite song or artist, start there, especially if you both aren't the mushy sentimental types. Even something upbeat or lively can be fun, as long as you're both comfortable dancing to it.

One of the best bride-father dances I ever worked had them dancing to his favorite song, "Elvira" by the Oak Ridge Boys.

Being a divorced mother whose daughter will marry in 2012, I love that you chose to honor both "fathers". I will never tell my daughter what to do, but considering my FH has been here for her, I hope she is sensitive to his needs as well. Sadly, though, since the ex is paying for the wedding, he will insist on a solo walk.

With regard to what song for your bio..."Thank Heaven For Little Girls."

Thanks so much for the Brad Paisley suggestion...just the song I was looking for

View Quoted Comment I love your response to this. I feel like I’m stuck in a weird situation. So my dad pasted away now 3 years ago. I was and will always be daddy’s little girl as we were inseparable. So a year ago I found out he wasn’t my biological father. I met my biological father (a man I grew up thinking was my uncle) and he’s going to my wedding in May. My brother will be walking me down the aisle. I’m thinking my mom will probably join towards the end. I want to do my father daughter dance with my brother since he’s going to be representing my dad. I kind of feel like I’m obligated to incorporate my bio since he is making an effort and attending my destination wedding…. I just don’t know how…. Any advise or clarity would greatly be appreciated….