18 days until my wedding, and I seriously cant wait for it to be OVER!!!!! FML!!!!!!!!

Suggestions when its all done! Why did you tell me to take care of it all when now you want to come in and change everything... I worked my ass off to get this all together within out budget and your now wanting to make things more difficult... Then comes the money issue... We had a strict budget! Every dollar in the budget is accounted for. EVERY DOLLAR... We had a rough patch and we had to dip into the wedding fund to take care of some stuff, and some things here and there we wanted and needed, with the agreement it would all get payed back. Now, that Im telling him I need the money put back in the fund Im being made to feel bad that Im asking him for this money back!!! That money is making a big difference in whats being done her. Mind you he is working ot and everything to pay it back but why should I be made to feel bad for it... The necessary stuff the money was spent on is one thing, but all the extra shit you wanted here and there that wasnt important that you didnt have to get

Im sorry lovely, i know youre still typing.. My FH did the sameeeeeeeeeeee thing. "Just tell me when you need $$ and i'll get you it" lol.. 3 months before the wedding he decided to give in to his family's wishes and have an entire jewish ceremony. i can understand your feeling overwhelmed. hopefully whatever he wants to put an opinion on now is easy to adjust lol

And your making me feel bad... NOT FAIR!!!!! Why must he add this stress on me! I know he has his share of stress but puting the extra load on my shoulders isnt fair... Now hes expecting me to cut corners where they CANT be cut and change thigs around cause he doesnt think he should have to pay that money back. Im so over it all... I know it sounds horrible but now I know why people elope and just go to the courthouse to be married... Its too much stress... And for once I feel like Im about to pop!

Well, don't pop. That would just be yucky! as much as our men believe they know everything, MOST of them know NOTHING about wedding planning. My FH had NO idea how much stuff cost until I had to write it out for him. Now he gets it. Everything I choose, I run by him. Most of the time he doesn't care...and he tells me exactly that. If has an opinon, I take it into consideration...after all, it IS his wedding too. I guess that's my saving grace, "You told me it was ok/You told me you didn't care"....well, it's worked for me so far. Only two more weeks and it will be over....deep breath!!

And the worst part of it all, we cant even sit down and talk about ANYTHING having to do with the wedding or we end up arguing... Then I have to bite my tounge and take it up the ass cause I dont want to stress him out and cause him to have a seizure because of the fact that he has a seizure disorder that is affected by stress... Im just bearing this load on my shoulders and hoping I dont snap and go postal and run someone down in my car! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It'll all be over soon! I hope you feel better!

Forgive me for my evil bridezilla moment but Im just sooooooooo fed up with it all... And lets add more icing on the cake, he gets my 4 year old son a puppy and so Im having to juggle a kid, a puppy that isnt trained, wedding stress, seizure stress, money stress Im ready to crawl under a rock and not come out... I guess its just a bad day and its all coming out... Im just so overhwelmed, and I dont know which direction I want to run in first...

Take a deep breath!!!! It will be ok. The only thing that matters is becoming husband and wife. All that other stuff that costs $ will be gone and done at the end of the day so no use stressing over it. Hang in there and just keep focusing on what's important. Plan a quiet, romantic night alone at home with your sweetie and speak NOTHING of wedding plans. Maybe a night off (and on would do you both some good.

This makes me so sad to read! I know you probably have a tonne of people telling you to relax and take a breath besides us WW ladies, but please just try and take a step back and think of some positives...just for a moment. It will make you feel a bit better and then you can concentrate on the other issues at hand that need attention. There is no use going about dealing with everything upset...it can effect your health! You're right, this should be one of the happiest times in your life right now, so try and see the sunshine peaking through the clowds....you have spent almost a year planning an amazing party....dream about how great it is going to be the day of Unless you are the one doing the planning, you have no idea how much goes into it all....which is the case of your FH. He is probably just excited now that it is only a month away, has realized that everything is almost done, and wants to add a few ideas (and probably doesn't know that it is already taken care of!)...

Try and enjoy this next month, because your big day will go by so fast, and you don't want to think back about how terrible the planning process was when its over. Feel better!

I'm sorry LaDonna I hope things get better ... but if he really can't come up with the money .. the best thing to do is to sit back and think about what items would not be missed.. Like say if you had a florist and for some reason the centerpieces didn't show up or some how the unity ceremony items got left at home and there was no way to go get them... at the end of the day would it really matter... would anyone but you miss it... if you only have one appetizer instead of 3 would you really care.. just things that if all else fails your day would still go on without. You'd be surprised what could be cut.. But like the other ladies said Breathe step away from the wedding planner for a couple of hours and regroup... I know men can be a pain when it comes to planning anything but remember its just ONE Day out of the rest of your lives together..and at the end of that day no matter what goes wrong or what you couldn't have you will be married.. Mission complete. Hope things get better!

Doesn't he understand that you have to pay for stuff up front but once the wedding is done you will get a big chunk of that money back in gifts? Everytime I stress about money that is what my Mom tells me dont worry about it your bank account will be satisfied again after the wedding.... I dont know your family situation but most people will give something. I know it wont make up for the thousands of dollars spent but it will help....

I know exactly how you feel! My FH tells me one thing and then says/does another a few days later. Take my gown for example. I told him that I was going to look at dresses in the two and three hundred dollar range to save money, he then tells me: "No babe, you need to get a dress you love. Don't worry about the money so much. Just get something nice for yourself and don't get something just because it's cheaper." So I find my dress, which is a little over what I originally thought I'd go for and he's freaked out and doesn't want to buy it now. (We are going to anyway though, with help from the fam.)

Also, I told him that our venue was just so wonderful (he hasn't had time to see it yet. just pictures.) I said, "it's so great because it fits into our budget too!" He replied with, "why do you have to say it like that babe?" "Like what?" "Like, it's good for our budget, but you want better. Let's get something better then."

so I get what you're feeling right now.

They tell you to do what you want, then get upset and want to change it when you do. They tell you to take care of everything, and when you do, they all of a sudden want to help.They tell you that money is not an issue, and then it is.

Men are just so silly an crazy aren't they?! lol

He'll hopefully get over it. Good luck! and best wishes on your special day

LaDonna,

Planning any type of event with family members can be very stressful.

It sounds like in your case, it would be good to have a neutral, non related 3rd party help you

with the last minute decisions and plans.

Once out-of-town guests start arriving, I suspect you'll start to relax and start enjoying the experience.

I hope on your wedding day, you will both feel like it went by too quickly and that you feel sad that it's over, but

ready and optimistic to start your new llife together.

Dan

Hey we're getting married the same day!! I totally understand where your coming from but take it one day at a time and don't sweat the small details.

I feel you @ LaDoona My FH would tell me its your wedding do you what you want then after things are done or in progress he wants to put his 2 cents in. Or he would agree then when he talks to his mom he change his mind... Its so stressful

Now Im just keeping things to myself lol... Sorry honey its to late

The best day of your life is the day after the big day