12 days out and apparently there is a boycott on our wedding

Just who in our family really doesn't care about myself or FH. It's supposed to be a really happy and exciting time for us and now I keep thinking about how I really don't want to see just who doesn't show up now.

I have no words. So sorry you have to deal with this.

Good Lord, between this and the FMIL, maybe you guys should have eloped like you originally wanted to. I'm beginning to wonder who will show up to the wedding besides those closest to you

JaKLyn, I have no words to say that will make your situation with your family easier. But I've followed your posts about your family struggles and I want you to know that I think you're an incredibly strong woman for being able to put up with what you have so far. You and your FH are so lucky to have each other to lean on and find support in while all of this nonsense is going on around you. Sending hugs from way over here!

Ugh. What nonsense. And what nonsense anyone is giving into it. I can't imagine if someone called me and told me I shouldnt attend an event because they weren't invited but the answer would definitely be "fuck off."

That horrifying.

It always makes me sad when families pull this kind of shit. They can't take it back.

Have your wedding with the people who care about you and try to ignore the negativity of these creeps.

JaKyln, I'm just so sorry. There really are no words for what she's doing to your family and the pain she's causing. Please hang in there.

Wow.. I have no words and I'm so sorry this is happening to you ):

I have no words... This is so horrible! Just remember it's about you and your FH, everyone that loves and supports you will be there on your special day!

Part of me is glad that we were already planning on spending the holidays home alone this year because I don't know when or if I'll want to see those who skipped again. I just don't understand putting your relationship with someone who is a known manipulator and liar ahead of one with someone who hasn't tried to con you that you claim to care about. I hate admitting that it bothers me so much but it really does. It seems so heartless. If we weren't 12 days out we'd just call it at this point. FH and I were finally to the point that we were getting really excited for the wedding. I even went out and had a great time at my shower and bachelorette party last night only to have today take a turn for the worse after one stupid phone call.

Is it possible that all these family members who have positively RSVPed are just saying they won't come to placate your mother? They may still have every intention of coming? I don't know, but I really hope that's the case. I know I've had to do that to satisfy my sister (who suffers from bipolar disorder) when she has an episode. I really hope for the best for you Jaklyn. From what I've read of your posts, you seem really sweet and definitely don't deserve anything like this. My thoughts are with you and your FH in this tough time.

I am so sorry your going through this. It sucks that the family is kissing her ass and turning on you. Hopefully they will come and spend your day with you. I personally would be done with those who don't show, like for good. My DH's family is all about manipulative crap and I just shake my head. I agree about donating the food, I am sure a local homeless shelter would love it.

I'm not sure what they'll do, but I'm calling him tomorrow. I don't think they can donate the precooked food for liability reasons. My guess is that unfortunately whatever food isn't used will be disposed of how they normally do. They have told us that they'll at least give us something to munch on during our ride back to the hotel though so there's that I guess. If the food wasn't going to be cooked I believe in that instance we could either take it or donate it, but we can't really tell them not to cook for people who won't tell us that they aren't coming.

This is just so sad and childish to me... I feel sooo bad that you are going through this. You are right, this should be the happiest time of you life! Not your mom's time to shine and cause a tizzy in the family. Seriously!!! SMH I really hope the best for you. Maybe if you tell the venue like 10 less than RSVPed are not coming you can save yourself some money?

This is awful. I'm so sorry. If anything, maybe this affirms your decision not to have her in your life? I'm trying to find a silver lining for you but damn, this is such a crappy situation.

@Zeldabride and @Susan normally I'd hope this is the case but since my great-grandparents called to officially cancel on us and tell us that others will be doing the same I'm not holding my breath for everyone to suddenly realize my mom is just being spiteful.

My heart breaks for you.

My heart breaks for you.

So sorry. Just keep this in mind: those who show are the ones who are worth your love and time in the future. Your mother is toxic and manipulative: leave her cronies behind to her and her shiftiness while you move forward with those who support and love you.

Jesus christ- I'm so sorry- that's nauseating! So sorry you've got "family" treating you like that- but- upside- she's not hiding from showing her true colors- and just goes to show exactly why you don't want her there.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with it. Hopefully they can find a way to put some of the food to good use-

Actually- good use # 1- have them box it up- and send it to your toxic mother- it's not very adult like- but it is something to do with the food- box it up- let it sit outside for 2 days- then drop mail it over. (or drop it off)

that's about the only use I can think of- unless you know someone who runs a small home kennel and could put the food to good use!!!

Any WW folks close enough to attend?