12 days out and apparently there is a boycott on our wedding

I'm sorry. This really sucks. On the plus side, I hope this confirms your decision not to invite her, and you'll know which family members truly support you and which you can cut out of your life.

FH is trying to contact some of my family to see if he can still get a firm yes and no one will take his calls. I'm hoping they at least tell him a firm no if that's their answer. We should have enough from his family and our friends to at least hit the minimum. If not we may be issuing a last minute WW invite or upgrading a few items with our reception venue to really make it a great night for those who made the effort to show up.

JaKlyn, I am soo sorry that you guys are having to deal with this right now. You're so close to your day, this day you & your FH have gone through so much to finally get to. You guys deserve to be basking in "final count down" days. I'm sorry.

Honestly, I would take these people behaving so childish and immature as a note that they do not deserve to take part any any of the happiness that you & your FH are building in your lives. If they want to act like asshats and pull a stunt like that because you guys are doing whats best for you then they are the ones who are losing out.

I really hope everything works out well for you guys.

I hope that your wedding day will be amazing with the people that do love you guys. This isn't a time for drama. Maybe when your family members see that you are sticking to your guns they will come after all. Sorry you are dealing with this.

JaKlyn - I am so sorry this is happening to you. I agree it shows you how much you and your FH mean to them. I cringe at the thought that a mother would ever do this to her daughter.

Has your mother even met your FMIL? I'm just curious. I knew they're both crazy and I'm wondering how that went!

Every time I think your family or your FH's family has hit you with their best shot, another thing happens. I told you before, I think that after you and your FH survive the wedding, I think you're going to have a good marriage and life together. You deserve that. I hope you have the happiest wedding day, and don't pay any mind to the small minded people who are trying to ruin it.

I have no advice to offer in this situation, but just wanted to say how sorry I am this is happening. That is just heartbreaking.

I know it sucks, but it sounds like your venue will work with you if you don't meet your minimum. You don't want those people there if they sway every time the wind blows. Forget them. Yes, they are family, but that doesn't mean they can do whatever they want to you and it not have consequences. I was told this about my family and it really helped me move on from them. Hopefully you get as many actual answers as possible and you can work to get some extras for your day. Spend the time partying with your friends. People you want to be around, not just have to be around.

I'm so sorry, you shouldn't have to deal with this kind of thing.

I have no words. Wait, I do...and they are all not nice. How in the world could a mom do this. I'm so so sorry :-(

The only ones from my family that his parents have met are my brother and sister, who they actually loved. My mom refused to meet them.

Holy shit...this is the most ridiculous thing. And I agree with others who have said that you are an incredibly strong woman. But you are also human, of course this bothers you! Because it is cruel and selfish. For someone who is a mother to act like this is beyond my ability to comprehend. My heart breaks for you, and you have my prayers for the strength to block out this negativity and "noise." Your love and marriage will withstand this atrocious situation. And you will have the people who truly love you to share that with on the day. It is much better to be surrounded by sincerity and genuine support than to fill your wedding day with people who can't show you the utmost care you deserve.

I'm so sorry you're going through such a hard time. This is heartbreaking that they can't support you on your day.

This is horrible. Consider the money you may lose on no shows the cost to find out who you can and can't depend on. Those who love and support you will be there.

Wow... thats horrible! I hope you hold you head up high and take this with grace and dont allow her to ruin your special day. I know its harder said then done. Hateful people will be ruled by hate and if people actualy listen/obey her than shame on them! I would call you caterer when you find out who is declining though, maybe you can work something out with them.

Omg!! So sorry you're going through this. I don't have magic words to make it all better but I have lots of prayers for you!! You will still be marrying your love on 11/6/15!! Best of luck!!

Unfortunately, families suck sometimes :-(

JakLyn, I am so very sorry that you are dealing with this. I have seen my share of ridiculous family drama at weddings lately, and none of it is ever okay. I have so much respect for you and how maturely you and your FH are handling this situation. If that isn't a testament to how well you two work together, I don't know what would be. As horrible that it is that your family is doing this, try to focus on the people who do actually come and how supportive they are of you and your FH. And have a wonderful time!! I'm sure your wedding will be absolutely gorgeous and full of love. Hang in there!

The people that will be there are the people that truly matter and I hope you have such an incredible blast at your wedding that you don't even notice who's not there. That'll awesome if your venue will allow you to rework your offerings, give the people that love, care and RESPECT you an even more wonderful night. I'm so sorry you've been through so much pain while planning. We're all rooting for you here,