12 days out and apparently there is a boycott on our wedding

I'm so sorry JaKLyn. I have no advice, but you and your FH sounds like you work so hard to build a better relationship with your daughter, and you're truly building a beautiful family despite the negativity you're surrounded with.

Don't look at your wedding how you are now. Don't pay any mind to the people that won't be there, just be happy for the people that are there for you, especially your daughter and fiance. It IS a happy time because your marrying the love of your life and that's what really matters. As long as he and the officiant show up, it'll be a perfect day. I know it's hard to do now but when the day comes you will feel this way.

I'm trying not to let it bug me as much as it is, but it doesn't help that I'm already more emotional than normal. I'm just trying to focus on the fact that in 12 days I'm marrying the man I love, we have a beautiful daughter together and another baby on the way. At the end of the day our little family of 4 is what matters most.

It is unfortunately way too common that victimizers get family support, while their victims get ostracized. I'm sorry you're going through this.

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this! The people who are there on your day are really there for you! Focus on those that DO come!

Wow, your GG parents are jerks too to doing this so late and so is anybody in your family who follows. Shame on them for backing out after RSVPing yes. As my mom is saying 'they can KMA.' Concentrate on your FH and you, enjoy this day celebrating that you are becoming one family and let everyone else slip away.

The news made for a long night unfortunately. I just kept bouncing from sad to angry and finally landed on fuck it. I've put in for a have PTO day to go home and rest since I was up all night and now feel like I may be coming down with some type of cold on top of everything else. I guess come the wedding day we'll see just who does and doesn't show up for us.

This is so sad and i honestly feel for you. I think the one thing you have control over is your happiness dont let anyone take that from you or ruin it. Have your big day forget about the money that will go to waste on those that wont show i know it sucks but you need to show your family that no matter who shows, this day means everything to you and you can move on without the negativity. Think of your wedding day as a celebration of a new life and start it fresh with all those that truly support you the rest leave them in the past!

FH says it's still money well spent because it just goes to show us who our real family is at this point. We're both taking a half day today to go home together and finish up some things for the wedding and just be around each other. He mentioned getting that we could pick Kyla up a bit early tonight and do what she calls a living room picnic. Big picture our immediate family is what's most important and we'll always put that first.

Oh JaKLyn, I'm sorry your mother and other family members are doing this to you. But your day is going to be special no matter what - you are marrying the love of your life who has stood by you and stood up for you through so many family problems. He sounds like an incredible man and soon you'll be officially husband and wife. The people that truly love you and are happy for you will be there. I hope you celebrate with them and enjoy your day to the fullest. Sending you hugs.

I have been through part of this, and made the decision to cut family people from my life. The first 6 months is tough, making it through the first set of Holidays is tough. But, in the long run, not having that toxic voice in my ear telling me awful things and bringing me down is what is best for me and my family.

Your Wedding is going to be a beautiful day for your and your FH, let it be all about you and him starting your life together, you TWO are your family, and make sure to let it be about your start together. I hope you can set the hurt aside and have a wonderful day.

I hope this doesn't come off the wrong way but I just want this to be over already for you. You and your husband need to just run off into the sunset already. Between his mom and now yours I cant even. Just do your best to say f them all and marry the love of your life. Whatever will be will be. Stay strong!

@Victoria I get what you mean. We said something similar to each other last night. We just can't wait for everything to be done already so we can move on with our lives. I'm sure we'll still enjoy our wedding day together but the big picture here is getting married and spending our lives together regardless of who actually shows up in 11 days.

Jesus, JaKLyn.

Between this and your FMIL, I can't blame you for spending the holidays at home.

i know its difficult to not focus on the negative, especially this close.

Just know that the people who care about you will be there to support you.

(And I'll be sending you positivity, date twin!)

At least you know the people that show up really and truly love and care about you. It sounds like you have an amazing FH.

And KARMA is amazing, trust and believe somehow, somewhere, the negative energy thrown in your direction will boomerang back into their faces.

Your FH could leave a message for those who won't answer their phones: "We hear that J's mom has been asking relatives to boycott our wedding. Unless we hear a YES from you by Wed., we'll assume you're one of those who believe her ravings."

We actually can't wait for the holidays alone, so I don't think that will be hard. The holidays have always been full of drama with our families. This year we both get a 4 day weekend for Thanksgiving and Christmas so we're turning it into a nice relaxing family weekend. We'll be adding a few new traditions this year and have plans to just pig out and cuddle up in front of our fireplace.

JaKLyn, this goes to show that you and FH absolutely made the right call to uninvite her and to remove her from your lives. As far as those other so-called "family" members that will be no-shows...I hope you decide to do the same to them. This is the lowest form of hurt. They should all be ashamed of themselves. You are a very strong woman, and I am happy that you have a strong man to support you through all of this foolishness. Your wedding will still be beautiful, with all of the people that are TRULY friends and family.

I cannot imagine how upset you must be. You are incredibly strong for dealing with all of this and in the end, this will only show you who is genuine with you and your FH and who else you need to cut from your life.

Sometimes friends are the best family.

I'm with your FH-- the wedding is money well spent because you'll know who really cares. And, you'll have a great time with all of those people. Almost there!