1 bridal shower - 2 brides

I'm down.

I think that would be okay as long as you 2 get along... and you are both fine with it/

My FH and I got engaged in April 2010, and my cousin, same age as me, got engaged to his GF in October. Our wedding is in May and his is in September. (I think - or is it August?.

I would be cool with having a combined shower. It won't take anything away from you. And if it's a lot of the same people, then that makes it easier for them.

The only issue I'd see is that you can't invite anyone to the shower who isn't invited to the wedding. Are there people whom you'd like to have at the shower who aren't invited to your FI's brother's wedding, or vice versa?

Yea but as long as they are invited to one wedding or the other it is fine. I have been to a combined baby shower. I think mostly it depends on if you two are friends or not. The combined baby shower I went to the the 2 sister in laws were also good friends, so they loved it. If your not friendly or friends with the other girl it might be weird

I personally would be upset! that should be all about you and ur day! U SHOUDLNT HAVE TO SHARE IT!!

Did she ask your opinion or the other bride's opinion? I can tell you how I would feel, but really it is about how you and the other bride feel.

Personally I would love it, but I hate being the center of attention. I have a friend getting married 2 months after me, and I asked one of my BM's if we could just do a joint shower. She said no.

I am personally having a really hard time with it. My FMIL insisted that "our weddings would be 2 different events" and she is the one combining them. I am not a bridezilla by any means, but this just truly hurts my feelings. I just think it's going to be very awkward

I was not asked my opinion.

I wouldn't like it, personally... sharing a birthday is one thing, but a bridal shower? no thank you.

Like Kris S. I'm not a fan of being the center of attention so the idea of it is ok. On the other hand, I've been so so many showers, weddings, etc. that part of me kind of likes the idea that I'm finally going to get mine. I know that might sound a little selfish but I'm totally not one of those people who makes things about me but I feel my shower and my wedding are two exceptions I can make.

If you really want to go by wedding etiquette, your FMIL shouldn't be planning your shower, your bridal party should.

I've had to do the shared birthday thing when I was growing up since my youngest sister and I have birthdays on the same month: April. It's okay but after a while it just sucks. But sharing a bridal shower?! Hell no. Tell your FMIL how you feel about it, same goes with FH's sister.

I would rather have them seperate. As you said that is your FH brother's FW. Had it been your friend it would have been worded differently. It sounds like your FMIL was considering that fact that their family can do the 2 for 1 and it would be easier on getting every one on their side of the family together. She is probably just so excited for her son's that she thought you both would enjoy the idea, but I on the other hand this would become to big of a party. Both you ladies have your sides of the family that would be invited as well as friends ...

I too don't like to be the center of attention, but I surely wouldn't want to be lost in the crowd either lol! I'd say talk to her or have FH talk to her ...

If your FMIL is throwing it, you really don't get a say. However, could you have that shower just for FS side, and maybe your BMs or someone in your family can throw you a shower for just you? I had 2 showers, one for my side and one for DHs side, we have such huge families and almost all are local, so having 1 shower would have been as big as some peoples' weddings.

I'm having a joint shower with my sister. I got engaged last Christmas and we are getting married in June, my sister is having a DW in March and got engaged last June. Our aunts who all live out of town are coming in with all of our cousins and hosting this shower I don't mind since it saves them two trips (three if you count my wedding) but I don't think my sister is very happy about it.

If you don't want to do it, you can decline the party. "Thanks FMIL for thinking of me, but I would rather just attend FSIL's shower as a guest." Maybe she'll get the hint.

Has anyone else said they want to throw you a shower? It's totally fine if you have more than one, as long as the guest lists are different enough. Maybe if your friends throw you a shower that's focused on you, this one won't feel so awkward since it's not THE shower you're having. If that makes sense.

My sister came up with this idea for me and her since her wedding is in August and mine is in October - I wasn't even going to have one in the first place but she figured it would be a lot easier and at first I was like oh yeah that's cool but then after talking with my mom Idk now just because she wants to have it in in NYC and none of my friends would travel to NYC I just know they won't but I wouldn't mind having a combine shower if it was in the same area