Wedding Etiquette: If You Give a Bridal Shower Gift Do You Have to Give Wedding Gift?
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I_Found_Mr_Wright
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Posted On: Apr 16, 2012 at 6:21 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate0 likes

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MrsO
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Apr 16, 2012 at 6:22 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I always have. The bridal shower gift is usually smaller than the wedding gift though.

keli716
Married: 09/08/2012
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Apr 16, 2012 at 6:23 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I always did smaller gifts for the shower and the "main" gift for the wedding.

Married: 09/08/2012
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Apr 16, 2012 at 6:30 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Yes I have always given both a shower and wedding gift

Married: 07/21/2012
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Apr 16, 2012 at 6:33 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
the shower gift is like where you get them something and the wedding gift i always gave money..thats how we always do it

Marie S. (aka Princess Leia)
Married: 10/12/2012
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Apr 16, 2012 at 6:36 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Yep they are considered seperate gift giving occasions and there's definitely etiquette on who gets invited and to how many. :-) Check out Emily Post

Married: 04/07/2012
Apr 16, 2012 at 6:38 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I've given a gift at every party I've been too. Even the bacheloret parties.

Married: 10/01/2011
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Apr 16, 2012 at 6:39 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Absolutely! As Marie said, they are separate gift giving occasions. In our circle, we gift items for a shower and cash for a wedding.

MrsO
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Apr 16, 2012 at 6:42 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Same here Carole. I went to a good friend's wedding this weekend. A few days before the wedding, my FH asked me "We're going to a wedding on Friday right? Shouldn't we have bought a gift?" I told him that I was planning on giving cash and he was totally confused. I usually do a mid-priced registry gift for the shower and then a larger cash gift for the wedding.

Married: 05/06/2012
Apr 16, 2012 at 6:45 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I agree; you get a gift from the registry for the Bridal Shower, and money for the wedding. It might be different among Russian Jews in NYC though, typically you give at least $100 per person. I imagine that is not the case in smaller towns.

Married: 10/01/2011
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Apr 16, 2012 at 6:48 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
FutureMrsOhler.....That is exactly what we do. If it is a relative, the shower gift may be a bit bigger. The same goes for the cash gift.

Holly K....Italian from Philly here and we do cash as well.

Basically, we try to cover the cost of what we think our plate will be. If it is someone close to us, we give more. But, I have learned on WW that things are different throughout the country.

Married: 07/27/2012
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Apr 16, 2012 at 6:49 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I give two.
Being a poor collage student it is normally $20 ish for the shower gift, and maybe $30-50 for the wedding gift depending on if it is family vs friends.

I_Found_Mr_Wright
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Apr 16, 2012 at 6:53 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
That's what I thought...thanks girls! :)

Married: 09/15/2012
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Apr 16, 2012 at 6:56 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Yes, unless not invited to the wedding - then a shower gift is plenty.
Apr 16, 2012 at 7:02 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Yes. Shower gift should be smaller; wedding gift bigger, but not the cost of the plate,unless you want to do that.

Married: 07/31/2010
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Apr 16, 2012 at 7:14 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Each is a separate gift giving event. Typically, I give a gift (off the registry, if there is one) for the shower, and cash at the wedding.

Mrs. C
Married: 09/28/2013
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Apr 16, 2012 at 8:57 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I've always done both. A gift per invite.

WasSoon2BMrsSmith
Married: 2+ years ago
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Apr 17, 2012 at 12:37 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
yes you do. When I hve been broke I have given hand made gifts at the shower or a friend of mine just recently offered to take engagement pictures for our friends as a shower gift (she is an amature photographer) Shower gifts are not AS EXPECTED you can get somethign real small.

Married: 01/04/2014
Apr 17, 2012 at 1:09 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Yes, two gifts. Traditionally the shower is for gifts (household items usually) and the wedding is for cash (hence the card boxes and no place to put gifts).

Honey B.
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Honey B.
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Apr 17, 2012 at 1:30 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
In our group of people I find that it is customary to get gifts off your registry for the shower and then some people will get you a wedding gift off the registry as well or they will just give you cash in the amount of how much they think it cost per person. I have seen quite a few items taken off our registry that we didn't get at my shower this past Sunday so I am assuming that they will be given at the wedding or we have late stragglers for shower gifts LOL.

At my cousin's wedding they got the bigger registry items like China, vacuum cleaner, etc. and smaller items at the shower like cookware, utensils, etc.
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