To Evite or to stay traditional

I honestly don't think there's anything wrong with that!! Good idea

I think Evites are a little casual for a wedding. It's a wedding, not a kegger. They're okay for save the dates, though.

I'm all for evites, 95% of my guests list are in their twenties, all computer savvy and we know they'd prefer evites, so that's the route we're taking, and I'm ordering 10-25 paper invites from vistaprint for the elderly. I say go for it, I've seen it worked before, there's nothing wrong with it.

What I am personally doing is just sending the single hard copy invite to guests, and then referring them to the website for maps, accom details, RSVP etc.

Unless you're having a backyard wedding (nothing wrong with that) you need to send out traditional invitations. If you send an e-vite people will assume it is a very casual affair or think you're tacky or cheap. Whatever you decide to do you need to do them all the same way.

Honestly, 80% of my guest list replied electronically, and several questioned why we didn;t just do an evite. In addition, there were a few people we were unable to send the paper invitations to, as they did not provide addresses, even after several polite requests. We even had one couple tell us they refused to come because they didn't get a paper invitation, even though we rarely see them, and had no idea of their new address. So I guess the answer would be to maybe make sure that the people who will expect a paper invite get them, regardless of age, and those you are sure would not mind an e-vite can get those. So many people hold so tightly to "proper" wedding etiquette when in reality, it is you and your guests who should determine these decisions. If your guests would be cool with e-vites, I say go for it!

****Soapbox alert****

Please do not do this. I am part of the "older generation" and some things just should be a little more formal. How do we teach generations except by example? How do we show people that a wedding is more important than a night out with the girls? How do we elevate the meaning of the wedding to be more than a party except to treat it differently?

I know all traditions are not necessary or reasonable today. I get that. But take it up a notch. Save the E-vite for your Christmas party, back yard BBQ, bridal shower even. But the Wedding should be a bit more sacred.

Note: I am a college prof at a STEM college so I am more technologically savvy than most 20 yr olds. I am even putting a QR code on the OOT guest welcome card. So I am NOT anti-technology.

Yea I guess you can't please all the people all the time right. I am usually a "traditional" type of girl I send invites and stamped rsvp cards, and after the event I mail thank you cards. However, in the past year we had three major events; house warming, fh 30th, and my 30th. I sent traditional invites and rsvps for all and the only ones we received back were from our Aunts, and like two friends. EVERYONE else texted, emailed and Facebook'd us. I was kinda ticked off (the price of the invites, the time I put into the detail, and STAMPS) I thought "am I being left behind?"

I think it was less formal too but many seem to be all for it. That's why I decided to ask the ladies of WeddingWire.......I put a poll on my wedding website too. I know I will be ordering invitations but I wonder if it's ok to send evites to those I know would prefer them? I'll save money too........hmmm

Hey good idea FutureMrsB

Ditto to EDubbsgirl people like the invite cause u can look at see the date and be done I hate pulling up email to look up the date and time.

I have declined two weddings because I was invited via a facebook event page. I would do the same thing if invited via evite.

You want to invite me to your birthday or a dinner party, go ahead and send me an evite... but not a wedding.

I also know that if FH were invited to a wedding via evite, he wouldn't see it until it was probably to late. He hardly ever checks his email.

I would disagree with you on that Paulette, not all people like to look at invites to see dates etc... yes some people do but not all. Myself, when I get an invite, the first thing I do is enter the information on my phone, save the date, with the locations time and everything and give myself a week reminder in case I need to pick up a gift etc... if there's an rsvp card, I'll fill it out and return it but personally I do not care for paper invite, the minute I enter the info on my phone, I rip it and throw it in the garbage.

My friends all do the same thing. We don't keep these things.

At the end of the day Ms. Boop, you're the only one who truely know your guests, you know what they prefer.

I've heard it many times on WW, it's tacky, cheap, it's this it's that to do evite, I'm not going to disagree because it may be true for your friends but not everyone is inviting the people on your guest list, they have their own and they know their guests better.

Do NOT do it! Evites for a wedding? Umm, are you hoping for a gift from guests?

Honestly an Evite, in my world, means IGNORE!

We've already gotten a few props for our wedding website, even one of my uncles, I was surprise he called me to say how he like the site and he tried to rsvp but he couldn't, he thoughtt he wasn't invited. I just told him when he can RSVP, he was fine with it.

Our friends are looking forward to it as well, my friend did evite for his wedding in february, after he saw my site he wished he'd done a website for his too and allow people to rsvp but his evite wedding invitations worked very well. Since I was the MOH, I had full access to help them keep track of a few things, of the 75 people invited only a few did not open the email (that's a good thing with evite, you can see who viewed or never open the evite), I called those five and they gave me a yes over the phone. It worked out fine.

If the majority of your guests would like paper invites, go with it all the way, or you can do half and half, good luck with whatever you decide.

I would be rather put off by an evite to be honest with you and like you I'm in the in-between generation as well ...

Maybe you could do mailed invitations and then have everyone RSVP via online/personal website. I know half the people I'm inviting will prefer doing that - they are not getting RSVP cards. Neither are the people in India!!! (Honestly, I know they'll just call and RSVP anyway.)

That way you can save on RSVP cards and stamps. Best of both worlds. Of course, send some RSVP cards to those who won't know what to do without one. JK - I mean, send it to the ones who want one out of respect.

I'm hand delivering most of mine, mailing the rest but I didn't do the RSVP cards. I just directed them to the website, and also put my email and home phone on the invite. Probably tacky, but it works for us. IF I had known about the evite option, I would have done it for most of my guests.

Okay, I didn't have invitations at all - except, uhm, word of mouth. I think there are only a few situations where you can pull this off. The traditional "they're young, they won't care" excuse isn't one, especially if they aren't close family and it's not a super casual wedding.

Honestly, if I got an "e-invite" from anyone other than, say, my brother, brother-in-law, or best friend... I wouldn't go, and I wouldn't give a gift. Even if it was one of them, I would be seriously concerned about their manners if they were inviting anywhere over 30 or so people. I'm only 23 and I LOVE the internet... but it's a wedding.

A formal invitation giving guests the option to RSVP online, on the phone, etc would be different though.

Totally not a fan of evites for a wedding ! i forget who said it, but it's a wedding, not a kegger, lol

even if you are having a "casual" wedding it's still a formal event and an event that deserves a proper invitation. and some people (like myself) like to save the invites as keepsakes and make a small weddings collage