Inviting kids? Yes or No.

My niece and nephew will be there since they are the flower girl and ring bearer. I did put adult reception to follow on my invitation though as I don't want other children there. The only exception is for people that are coming in from out of state because I don't expect them to come here and try to find a sitter. I think that's pretty standard but I will let them through phone that their children are welcome to attend.

Also not a fan of kids at weddings! We invited the whole family to ours, but only did so knowing that our friends/family with kids would likely leave them at home.

I'm having kids at my wedding. My reception will end at 8pm. Most of the kids will be teenagers. Only 3 of them will be toddlers. I just can't see myself getting married without my nieces and nephews there.

Not inviting them to ours...I am totally with you on it not being an event for children. Plus we don't have any kids nor do our immediate family members

I've actually never been to an adult-only wedding and had no idea how popular it was until joining WW. It never occurred to me not to include them. I also have a LOT of OOT cousins who are about 10 years older than me and all have kids. They probably wouldn't have come and then I'd be sad.

Im not inviting kids either. I plan on drinking and I know my friends and family want to drink like crazy so I dont think its the proper environment. Plus everyone can relax and not to mention its cheaper on my pockets. Kids would def make things more costly for the type of wedding im having. I know and plan on receiving a backlash from some of his fam with kids but to be honest idc bc were the ones PAYING for it.

Being very selective about the kids invited. Basically just ours and nieces/nephews, and the kids we are close to (my 2 aunties have a few small kids). And out of town guest kids. Fh doesn't want out of town kids there because we haven't even met most of them, and the ones we have met we honestly don't like, but, having their parents there is important to me so he will just suck it up! The cost isn't terrible with our venues catering. $10 per kid plate. Less then half the cost of an adult! If you're having kids there, you just have to plan ahead! Make sure you have a kiddie corner set up away from all the action where they can color or do puzzles or something. We are also hiring a magician to put on a show for them during cocktail hour so they're not running around wild! (1 of my aunts is terrible for letting her grandkids she raises run all over. Ugh) I may hire my bridesmaids daughter to watch over them and keep em busy!

Were having kids at ours, i dont really care if they are crying or yelling during the ceremony, id rather have them there than left home with a babysitter. i know none of them are going to be rude - or talk on purpose, its the younger ones who dont know.

Nope, no kids. Even if my flower girl (MOH's daughter) will not be staying for the reception.

I'm on the side of being opposed to the adults-only wedding (though not a judgement, that's every bride's call and I don't have any issue leaving mine at home or with a sitter when they're not invited). But a wedding isn't ultimately a black tie event. It's a family and friends and community event. The point of a marriage is to become part of that community. Not to throw the Oscars. We had about 25 kids at ours. Some of them were loud. Some of them ran around during the reception. Pretty much nobody cared. Our ceremony was at 6:30 and dinner started at 8pm. We did offer a child's room with a nanny for anybody who needed it. People who wanted to bring their kids did. People who wanted an adult night out didn't.

Bad kids screaming and being Assholes just means your parent friends are shitty parents who raise ass hole kids. Plenty of weddings have kids that act respectfully.

I don't want any kids there. At. All. But since this is a "destination" wedding (or OOT for evryone) I'm considering providing childcare. I'm still working on getting quotes for that.

I'm with you. No kids. Whether or not it's a 'family' event is strictly in the eyes of the beholder and the host, not the guest who may have a problem with childcare.

That's the flip side of the joy of parenthood; the very solid reality that you can't always do what you want because your children are not welcome or appropriate everywhere.

Sorry.

Only inviting immediate family's kids.

There are a lot of children in my extended family who know how to behave. But if you put 60+ kids a room (which is how many would be from JUST my mom's side of the family if we invited my cousins' kids), it automatically changes the feel of the event. I don't want my wedding to look like a grade school playground. I want to host a wedding. I don't want to be tripping over kids on the dance floor, I want to be getting down with my best friends.

I hate this argument.

Not inviting kids. There are no family members with little kids, so that's not an issue!

We aren't having any kids at our wedding at all. Most of our friends and family don't have kids. We have the same concerns that they could cause problems.

I've put a limit on the amount of kids - family kids yes, friend's kids no.

But I'm kind of with AndixLyn.

The only kids I'm worried about will be the 2 toddlers and the 3 month old. Only because they don't know better. But my sister and FSIL are already well aware that if they make a noise during the ceremony they have to be taken inside the house. Seeing as the two toddlers are my page boys I can't exclude them, and my sister isn't going to leave her 3 month old back in England or at a hotel in a place she doesn't know.

But all the other kids - the 10/13/8 year olds etc have parents who will control them. Who will tell them to sit down and be quiet at the right time. And otherwise I'm happy for them to run around and have fun.

If the kids are misbehaving it's the parents who are at fault not the kids.

When it was in Canada, I had planned to say No! Now, we moved it to destination-UK, am not specifying cos I have kids too... Am sure ppl will apply caution especially if the invite reads Mr. & Mrs. or just a single name. I mean I'll ask the bride if I could bring my kids... #IMO

I'm this close to just telling every person who asks this after that that its the parents fault, and your friends are shitty parents. All of my friends kids are wonderful, and they have never ruined our events.

I couldn't imagine a wedding without kids. I come from a large Hispanic family and kids are always at every wedding I've ever been to, and there is still drinking, dancing, and late/long receptions. It's never been a problem for me.