Inviting kids? Yes or No.

It's up to you whether you want kids at your wedding or not.

We are, but that's how we are. We have two sons together already, FH has 3 grown children from a past relationship and 6 grand children between the ages of 3-9. Our guest list is 110, and if everyone comes there will 19 kids under the age of 10. It works with out budget.

When my last 3 cousins were married none of them invited kids because it didn't work with their budget.

We are not. we decided to stick with teenagers and adults. ... PARTY! every one has been really excited about this. a weekend away from the kids that they don't get very often. it's going doooown, son.

Tania, while that may be true, my friends and family have a dozen children, all under 7. We've had weddings, holiday parties, cocktail parties, book clubs, dance parties, and more.... all with the kids. And you know what? None of these horror stories about screaming, crying children who stick their hands in all the food and run around pulling on people's skirts. Of course it's the parents choice, and of course its more work to have them around, but that should be left up to the parent.

I'm just sick of the "If I hear one child cry, my wedding day is RUINED."

I am only have one kid there, my nephew (and he is well mannered and sweet). Literally, no other kids are coming. It just worked out that way. Thank goodness.

We're not having kids, mostly because we are having a lot of ballroom dancers there, and kids running around on the dance floor is super dangerous if you're trying to dance. I looked at our guest list again though, and even if we were to include kids for family, there are actually only 3 kids anyway.

Thing to remember is that just because kids are invited doesn't mean parents have to bring them. If the parents want to have a wild party night then they can choose not to bring the kids and hire a baby sitter. If they do bring the kids then they have to make sure the kids behave.

I have to confess I have never been to an adult only reception. Kids have always been a part of any wedding I've been to.

@Nicola I agree I invited my friend kids he have 4 of them. He's not bringing them because he is coming from Florida for my wedding and he can't afford to bring them.

I'm having kids at my wedding but i don't get offended when I'm invited to an adult only affair. My kids are teenagers so I don't have a problem spending a couple hours away from them. If I had a newborn I wouldn't attend.

We also have guests with young children (under 5) traveling from out of town and we will NOT be having children at our wedding. We have a late wedding- ceremony starts at 6:30pm, reception ends at 11pm. An evening wedding is simply NOT an event for children. Most of my friends have young toddler/infant-age kids and have no problem leaving them with a trusted adult (grandparent, family friend, etc.) for an evening or even overnight. We even have a friend who will have a 2-month-old by the time our wedding comes around- they have already told us that our wedding will most likely be their first night out after baby but they plan to bring a babysitter (most likely one of their parents) with them, and will stay in the hotel with them that night, to watch the baby while mommy and daddy enjoy a few hours away If people want t make it work, they will make it work. Do not sacrifice the wedding you want for a few people. If they can't make it, they can't make it.

My fiance and I have decided not to invite kids to our wedding. if we allowed kids there would be more kids then adults. a lot of our family is from out of town and some of our cousins have smaller kids. we let everyone know about the adult only wedding almost a year before the wedding date so I say if they really want to be there they will find a way to make it. plus it's like a nice adult night for them. some may not be able to make it and that's OK. they need to respect it's your wedding and your wishes you can't make everyone happy. But just expect to hear about it either way. it gets tough but a lot goes into planning a wedding and I don't want my big day to turn into a small kids party.

I'm totally ok with kids. I have too many guests that wouldn't be able to come if we said no kids.

I'm totally ok with kids. I have too many guests that wouldn't be able to come if we said no kids.

I am having an afternoon reception so of course kids are more than welcome! I even rented a bounce house to keep some of the older ones entertained! To me a wedding is about everyone celebrating your love, I just want everyone to feel welcome and have a great time. I understand what some are saying with it being late at night or not at a good venue for children I don't blame you for saying no children it's just not my style to do that.

Only invited family kids, we will have a total of 4 kids ages 3-8 coming (2 of them being the flower girls), all 4 all well behaved and will enjoy the dancing/photobooth. (okay and one 1 year old...)all family.... Sure there'll be a little alcohol at the event, but their parents are responsible people and will not get crazy drunk.

I really do not see a problem with a few kids at a wedding. Sure a table full of kids may be a little hectic.

I've been to weddings where there were kids there and the kids didn't scream, yell, throw drinks on people's dresses...

Also, I think its a little rude to put "adult reception" and have some kids there (even if they are in the wedding), there really is no need for putting "adult reception" just don't invite the other kids to your wedding!! If I had kids, and saw "adult reception" on the invite and then came to the wedding and saw a few kids invited I would feel a little hurt to tell you the truth..

If it's not too late just don't put "adult reception" if you are having kids present at your wedding.

I think you should be talking this over with FH, not marshalling arguments here on WW. This is his wedding, too, and he wants kids there. Can you two talk this out, see each other's side and come to a happy compromise? Cause you're about to sign up for a lifetime of compromise, and if you can't even get through the wedding without one of you saying, "I want it my way, and that's that!" you're both in for a looooong life or a short marriage.

We are having kids. I have no nieces or nephews but I'm very close to my cousin's kids. I'm like a quasi aunt to them. I love them to death and want them to be there. Our tentative venue is family friendly and there's been a lot of weddings with kids there.

There's about 10 kids invited ranging from ages 2 to 10. No teenagers. I suspect that some of my cousins won't bring their kids and will use the wedding as an excuse to get a babysitter, some will bring them, and my other cousins probably won't come at all because of the travel cost of bringing two kids by plane to an out of town wedding. And the ones bringing their kids will plan to leave earlier in the evening.

Truth be told I'd love to ONLY invite two of the ten kids we've invited. But I think it would be in poor taste to only let one of my cousins bring their kids and tell the rest no. So it was an all-or-none decision and we decided that it was important to us to have those kids there.

No kids at ours. FH and I wanted a party atmosphere and we are not starting until late. We also don't have the space. Our guests are okay with this. I was also reminded of why we decided on this when we went to a friend's wedding a few weeks ago and there were a couple of kids that yelled/cried through the entire ceremony. It reinforced our decision.

I personally can't imagine not having nieces and nephews at the wedding, but I also have a 5 year old daughter and 9 year old sister so I might feel different if I didn't have many kids in my life.

No kids.

FH's 2 nieces (3 & 1) and my cousins (10 & 7) will be the only kids invited since they're the only children in what I consider to be our immediate families. Random kids like my mom's cousins' children won't be invited because that would add 40 people to our list, which just isn't doable for us. Having only 4 kids in our immediate families made things really easy for FH and me!

I'm not having children at out wedding. We decided to stop the guest list at first cousins or else it would be a zoo. My dad has 7 siblings who all have a few kids who have 2-5 kids each. We thought stopping at first cousins was fair. My moms side is excited to get away from their kids for a night, but I have a feeling my cousins on dads side won't come if they can't bring their kids. It is what it is. We don't have children we are really close with (besides my nephew ring bearer who will turn one the day before the wedding and won't be at the reception at all)