Inviting kids? Yes or No.

I'm having kids, I plan to set up a room in the reception hall (there are children's church rooms in the reception hall) where the kids can play and have their own little party with each other (most of the kids there will be cousins) I plan to have things set up in there to keep them entertained (maybe put on a movie or put out games) , and if the parents want to check on them, they are with seeing distance, they can look in and check on them.

It is up to you, but I don't understand why people think it's "inappropriate" for kids to be with family while adults are drinking responsibly. It's always the sheltered kids who have never been around responsible alcohol use that end up trashed and in the ER when they go to college. Some of my favorite childhood memories are of my cousins and I at weddings.

Definitely no kids. I have most recently been to a wedding with four kids (2 sets of twins ) and it felt and looked more like ten. They were all on the floor when the groom was taking off the garter and during their dance. It took a lil while before someone came to get them but when they did more of a circus. Don't know how the couple felt but I felt them kids should not have been on the floor at that time.

We have 9 kids on our guest list, FHs daughter and our nieces and nephews. All others are not invited...

This comes up here every week, if not more, and it's not an issue that any one can decide except you and your fiance.

The best advice is to make a decision and stick to it.

Not every couple views their wedding as a big, all inclusive, multi-generational family event. Some couples see it as an expensive, formal affair meant to host those who are close enough (and old enough) to grasp the significance of the day. Neither is right or wrong. My preference is to not include children who have yet to master the art of sitting in a classroom and being quiet for a few hours at a time. I think children younger than that enjoy weddings as much as we enjoy a three year old's birthday party. Obviously, the level of formality at your wedding should be considered. For brides renting bouncy houses, well, no doubt, the kids are going to love it. I just think of the moms I've seen trying to enjoy themselves at events with their pre-school kids. It's never-ending work for them. I'd much rather these moms have a well deserved night off to enjoy dinner, drinks, dancing, and the company of adults without worrying about their children's behavior and constant needs. Moms need to feel like women, not just moms.

That said, it's up to each individual couple to decide for themselves how they want to handle children.

I am unsure right now. I'd rather not. Some of the children I am simply not worried about but a lot of my fiance's family members have recently had or will have had babies by them. It seems inappropriate to include the children since I am sure there will be a substantial amount of drinking at the reception.

FH and I knew without a doubt that there would be absolutely no children/kids at our wedding. Not only does it add to the cost, but it can create a lot of chaos, noise, and potential problems that I simply do not want to have to worry about on my wedding day. To keep it simple, our go to was that anyone under the age of 18 would not be invited. This meant we would not have a flower girl or ring bearer, which was perfectly fine with me. Our decision to not invite kids has already caused tension within my side of the family and my maternal grandparents will not be attending my wedding primarily because we are not inviting my younger cousins (whom they adopted). IMO it's a ridiculous situation that I have been put in, but ultimately I would rather have my grandparents make the decision that they would rather not spend my wedding day with me, than allow children at my wedding and stress me out further.

The only kids we're inviting to our mostly-destination wedding are babies in arms: a newborn and a six-month old. Their parents are my two very best friends, I love their spouses, and I couldn't imagine leaving *my* infant with a sitter all weekend at that age, so of course they're coming! Our one borderline kid is two or three, but her parents are local so getting a sitter should be less problematic. We're totally willing to work with them if they ask, though!

The only kids we're inviting to our mostly-destination wedding are babies in arms: a newborn and a six-month old. Their parents are my two very best friends, I love their spouses, and I couldn't imagine leaving *my* infant with a sitter all weekend at that age, so of course they're coming! Our one borderline kid is two or three, but her parents are local so getting a sitter should be less problematic. We're totally willing to work with them if they ask, though!

The only kids we're inviting to our mostly-destination wedding are babies in arms: a newborn and a six-month old. Their parents are my two very best friends, I love their spouses, and I couldn't imagine leaving *my* infant with a sitter all weekend at that age, so of course they're coming! Our one borderline kid is two or three, but her parents are local so getting a sitter should be less problematic. We're totally willing to work with them if they ask, though!

No kids are allowed at mine EXCEPT people from faaaar out of town(more than any hour or two drive) and anyone in the wedding. I hope this helps

Here is the run down of the kids we are alowing(the wedding is in Florida:

My brothers 2 girls(one will be a year and a half, the other will be 4 i think) because they are coming from Delaware ; my aunt Dawns son(he will be 10 i think) she is coming from Upstate New Jersey ; my future brother and sister in law(little girl will be 7, boy will be 10) because they are jrs in the wedding ; and my neice who will be almost 7, because she is my flower girl.

We are having as few kids as possible. We have been to many weddings where kids were allowed that were absolute nightmares. My brother knows that if his children act up, they are to be taken away fro the ceremony, or dinner table or reception to be calmed down. His are the youngest kids. The rest are old enough to kniw better, and are going to be in the wedding, so they wont exactly have a meltdown standing up at the front.

We don't have anyone under 18, and that was important to both of us, because of the type of wedding we wanted to have. It was also easier since neither of us has any nieces or nephews, so any kids are pretty far removed, either cousins children, or friends children. I think it only affects like 5 people anyway. So far, none have had any issue with not having children there.

We are allowing children to come because there won't be any alcohol and I absolutely love children. For me personally, I see no reason not to have them there...

My FH said its tradition to have kids at a wedding. Until we attended my cousins wedding last year. Just like you said, kids running and screaming, we couldn't even hear the vows! He has now seen it my way lol. This is an adult event in my opinion. People will be offended but its your day, always keep that in mind. Having kids will def bump up your head county/price and most kids pick at the food and take off to go play anyways. Its a bigger headache trying to keep an eye on everyone kids because not all parents watch their kids at events. If you allow people from out of town bring their children be prepared for the backlash (but again its YOUR day) I just wouldnt spread the word, id tell those specific people about bringing their kids. I have two cousins coming from across the country so im talking to them about their kids. Other than that, my ring bearer is my 16 year old god son and my flower girl is my 11 year old god daughter and no other children whatsoever.

My sister had no kids at her wedding this past June except for her and her husbands two little ones (1 and 3) - my 1 year old nephew was ok but my 3 year old niece ran away from from mom as my sister did her vows, ran into the gazebo past her parents and grabbed the unity canlde to play swords with it as the MOH tried to catch her she tore off running. So as we are up front listening to the vows, you see my mother behind the crowd running full speed in dress and heels after my niece. It was funny but no, no kids at my wedding lol

We invited children. Only the adults misbehaved.

I don't want kids at my wedding. We will have the FG and RB but that's hopefully it. I don't want screaming babies interrupting my ceremony and also don't want a bunch of kids invading the dance floor.

There will be about 3 children at our wedding. All 3 under the age of 5. They are well-behaved, so my FH and I are not worried.

At my uncle's wedding, he allowed children at the ceremony, but asked parents to not bring them to the reception, which was a hour after the ceremony. Mostly because it was late in the evening and alcohol was served.

I would love to have an adult only reception for cost and space reasons, but FH's family will be traveling quite a distance to our wedding and I feel it would be unfair of me to ask them to leave their children at home or find childcare for them in a state 12 hours away from their home. Also, FH's family would really frown upon it.

On the other side, I do think watching little ones dance at weddings is cute and I have never been to a wedding that was ruined by kids.