For Those of You Paying for your own wedding.....

FH and I agreed to contribute what we can. He has put in a lot more than me only because he had more to contribute. We both put in our taxes but he also had a 401 that he cashed out and a settlement from his old job. He also makes more than me, so it just works out that he has more to give.

JulyBride, honestly, when FH & I weren't living together, it WAS hard to imagine sharing our finances..in fact, i thought i'd NEVER do it That mentality came from working since i'm 12, always making my own $$, paying my own bills, earning my own keep.. growing up, watching my brother grow up never taking responsibility for himself, & doing stupid things, costing my parents money in lawyers, etc. I just thought..yaknow..i'm glad my mom raised me the way she did...as a result I became a loyal, trusted & hard working employee, was lucky enough to be recognized for things I worked hard on, made decent money for my age range..i did & to this day have pretty good credit. I was afraid originally to get involved w/someone who didnt have the same finances as I did..but love knows nothing about money, and my DH makes more than I do in most cases (i make a monthly sales commission which pretty much evens things out)..it will all work out in the end, money is just money..love is what matters!

I am out of work right now, so it's basically just him, but the way I see it, when we get married it's out money, so why not think of it that way now too?

I make less than him but I'm contributing more. his money pays all the household expenses and mine is just kinda fun money, we use it to go out to dinner and such. Anyways, I know that after we are married we are just going to have a joint checking account so it don't bother me at all to pay for things as they come up. Don't let it irk you just know it's going to a greater good.

I will be basically paying for most of the wedding. My FH is continuing with gradschool and all money he will be making this year (which is minimum wage, boo) goes toward paying for his living expenses. He will contribute to pay for the $1500 venue deposit with his difference check from his financial aid during summer, and I will be covering the rest as I start getting my paychecks once I start working. He will let me use his credit card (which has a lower interest and higher spending limit) and then I will pay it back as I start getting money in.

It's true that it's hard to think of it as "our" money, but I'm slowly getting used to it. Sometimes the "demands" my now "groomzilla" is making are a bit outrageous (like wanting to pay $700 for a dude to stand with an iPod and press play for 3 hours), but we're coming to agreements

Hey JulyBride16...we share the same wedding date

My FH and I are in the same situation so what we did was opened a "wedding checkings account" and set our wedding budget and divided it by the amount of months we have until the wedding and split that monthly total and it is mandatory that we put that amount into the account each month and we will pay for wedding things from that account as they become due (paying all important deposits first). Sometimes I have have more money leftover each month because he has extra hobbies...cigs, beer etc....but we treat the wedding account just like a monthly bill..."It has to be PAID"...hope this help

We are payong 50/50 since we have similar salaries.Ì might pay slithtly more since my dress and everything else is much more expensive than his tux and accesories.

We didn't have anymoney saved up as we had both just finished school but hsving a long engagement hekped us save by putting some mony aside each paycheck.

We are paying for our wedding ourselves (except for our cake, which my mother so generously and unexpectly picked up!). Our salaries right now are similar, but he has child support taken out for his son, so in reality, he makes more than I do.

We both look at it as though it is "our" money, though we have yet to combine accounts. We will do that after the wedding. I've pretty much been paying for stuff right now: invitations, flowers, deposit on photographer, etc. He will pick up the cost of the reception (basically lunch and alcohol, which will total around $800.00). I am paying for my entire outfit, (including alterations) which will come to around $685.00. We just went shopping for his attire this past weekend (suit, shirt, tie, socks), and he ended up paying a total of $870.00. (But he got 2 suits, a couple of shirts, 3 ties, several socks) And he's going to get more wear out of his suits than I will from my dress!

I figure it will come out in the end.

Last year we put aside a large portion of FS tax return and that's what we've been using to pay for everything. He works and I stay at home with our son. But i'm getting a job (hopefully) by the end of the month so I can "upgrade" some stuff that I want. FS is fine with plastic table cloths... I am not so I will pay the extra to get the kind I want. Only seems fair to me.

This year we put back more than half of our tax return check to pay for the wedding. his mother did also give us our wedding present early and gave us some money to pay for it. my parents are catering. but we are paying for it together. all of our money is direct deposited into the same account. we pay bills/paying for wedding with it.

I think we are both paying about the same. I mean the money is going to be shared anyway as husband & wife, we have a joint account for wedding. Our parents gave us a little money which we are trying use mostly that and than the rest we are paying but trying not to spend very much b/c we don't have much right now.