Anyone else get their engagement "thunder" stolen by a friend or family member?

My friend did this....but it didn't bother me at all.

Um yeah...that's weird. She should have given you the chance to share the good news.

Yea, I would have been very upset about that. We were on a cruise when we got engaged, so I could only contact so many people. It took us 5 days once we got back to call all of the friends and family that we wanted to tell personally. We did tell everyone who was active on Facebook to not post anything yet.

Yes, I totally felt like a deflated ballon when I find out. I was looking forward to telling people in person and seeing their reactions, etc. I never thought to tell her not to post something on FB because I never thought she would do such a thing-it was my news to share, not hers.

One of my childhood friends had her PREGNANCY leaked by her husband's sister...talk about OH MY GOD.

They were married in 2008 and had been trying to get pregnant for years but they were having issues. Her DH's sister is a hairdresser and she spilled the beans on her BUSINESS Facebook page and on her personal page with "GAAAAHH I'M GOING TO BE AN AUNT!" So, immediately everyone is texting and messaging my friend asking and I guess she had not even told her own father the news yet....

I would be annoyed too. Is she engaged or married? If not, maybe never having been in that position, she doesn't understand. I have a feeling she was so excited she didn't even think about the fact that you hadn't had a chance to tell everyone yet.

Let it be though. I wouldn't say anything to her about it, unless it's in passing. Definitely rude of her, but at the same time, she's obviously very excited for you.

Everyone will have forgotten by the time the wedding rolls around. Don't even worry about it. It is sweet that she cares so much that she posted it. It's not that I'm not sympathetic, but it won't matter on your 10th anniversary or probably even your first and it definitely won't matter on your wedding day. Focus on the big picture.

I agree with you, but people have different opinions on what is proper internet behavior and what isn't. some people post anything that they know and don't think twice about it.

in the future it's probably best to make sure you tell those in the loop when you want to tell something your self and when you don't.

never assume! best to be safe.

Yeah this happened to a sorority sister of mine. As sad as it sounds, I knew some of my friends would do this so when we told our friends the message was "It isn't on social media yet, but FH PROPOSED!"

My best friend did this. I made her delete it immediately. I didn't want my parents finding out via facebook that I was engaged. Neither of them would answer their phone right away and she posted it within seconds of me telling her.

1. I told the important peeps in a group message IMMEDIATELY to avoid this since you can't really control it. Many called me right when I sent it so it was great

2. At least you have friends that are so excited!!! A few times some high school acquaintances will post their engagement on Facebook, announcing their own, and it won't get any likes or comments and I do feel bad

I asked her to take it down when I saw it is 7am the next morning and she did, but it was too late. She has been married herself for 12 years and she is really not the kind of personI would ever think would do this.

HOWEVER...

We now have a 2nd issue. She is my MOH, and we have been looking at things online, Pinterest etc, and she has been collecting a lot of these pics and ideas... one is for my table centerpieces. So she made a Pinterest page called "Monica's Wedding" and posted these ideas on there. Well it's a public page and again....tons of our mutual friends and some of my current and former co-workers saw this stuff on their feed once she posted it. I found out when a girl I work with told me today that she liked something on my Pinterest Wedding page. I am actually angrier about this. I again asked her to delete it or make it "secret". I just don't know why she keeps doing this stuff!

Ugh I feel for you. It's frustrating when some ppl just have no sense when it comes to social media. My sis in law started a Pinterest wedding board and didn't realize all her pins were being posted to fb. I told her to change the setting because she had no idea. It wasn't showing up on her timeline.

I would just talk to her and say something along the lines of, "hey, I am so happy you are so excited for me to get married! That makes me so excited to share the process with you. I would really like to have a lot of surprises at my wedding, so I'd appreciate it if you kept things on the down low."

I wouldn't worry too much about it. It sucks, that's for sure. It was your news to share with the world, not hers. When we told our friends and families, we asked that they not say anything on Facebook until after we had made it FB official after we told everyone over the phone first.

My MOH and I work together and she and I told a few co-workers together when I got engaged and then she told a bunch of other people, bc I never would have. I am not the "look at me, I am engaged, wanna see my ring" or really even the "hi, im engaged" lol type, but we are a small somewhat close group at work (30ish people) so she should say "Oh did you hear Jenn's big news??" and then send them my way, which worked perfectly.

I'd be pissy if she had done this without like my knowing but I was totally comdortable with it!

That is rude, but I agree with Lindsay. I would just ask her to keep things quiet, and to make the board a secret. It isn't her news.

When FH and I got engaged, the first people I told (after my family) were my best friend (and MOH), and the girls I wanted to be my BMs. I sent them all a picture of the ring on my finger. One of my BMs responded by sending me a picture of a ring pop on her left ring finger, which was strange but just a joke. And then the next day told everybody that she's getting married this year, and that she's also have a Halloween themed wedding. I have know her since we were little girls, and since I can remember, she's wanted a spring wedding. Also, she's not even engaged. She's super competitive, but really? That's too much! I completely feel your pain! Good luck, and congratulations!

I would make sure she doesn't upload a picture of you in your gown before you walk down the aisle.

Yeah, my mom of all people! My FH was traditional and asked my dad for his blessing. Mom helped arrange for them to meet around dad's work schedule. When he finally proposed I called her and she said something more like, oh didn't know he was doing it today. The. She posted a very generic post on FB saying something about she was so excited for the good news, I got a message from my BFF who saw it (I hadn't told her yet as I had to go to work and wanted time to do the girly squeal detail thing), yelling at me for not telling her. I felt like I didn't really get to tell anyone as my parents told everyone that he asked dad they all knew it was coming.