Anyone else get their engagement "thunder" stolen by a friend or family member?

My FMIL almost did. When FH was on the phone telling her, (I was on my phone with my mother at the time), she said something like "I cant wait to post it on Facebook!". Thank god FH told her not to. He said give it two days. There are people that truffle wants tell and would be pissed if they found out through Facebook.

I'm sorry it happened to you.

I despise finding out on Facebook!!! When fbil got engaged his now wife put it on Facebook before they even told family. We "officially" found out 3 days later when fh phoned his parents to wish them Happy Thanksgiving. Other fbil found out through a mutual friend. Needless to say there was some hurt going around

She may have made a mistake, but it was done out of excitement and love, not malice or a desire to steal anyone's thunder. I'm sorry, but when we got engaged, I told my parents first, then my best friend - after that, I did not care who told whom! I was happy to be engaged to my FH, and everyone knew we were already committed to a life together, so it shouldn't have been a shock to anyone.

Honestly, I think that we need to take a step back with engagements and weddings, and consider what is truly important: it's the moment the couple decides to marry, and the moment they are saying their vows to each other. Everything else, pardon the pun, is icing on the cake

I've watched other people go through this and it was one of the reasons FH and I told my parents first, privately, and then planned a July 4th party to tell everyone the news at the same time. It was an awesome surprise for everyone.

You just need to sit down with her when you are calm and say listen, I'm happy you're excited about this but CHILL OUT because you're giving me ammunition to freak out about. I want this wedding to be you know, a surprise (in as much as anything is a surprise with weddings), and not have all the details out in the world before we walk down the aisle, and I want you to be there with me.

She just sounds like an overeager puppy

Also, I totally agree with the poster who said not to let her get a picture of you in your gown. Good god.

Yeah, I agree that it sucks that she did this, but at least you know she did it because she was excited for you and not because she was intentionally trying to steal your thunder.

We actually told people to make sure they didn't say anything publicly about it until we made it "facebook official", because we had a few people we wanted to tell in person who we wouldn't be seeing for another two weeks! I know my mom and best friend were dying to tell people on facebook, but they were awesome and respected our wishes to tell certain people in person.

People are awful. Why would they think it's their place to share news like that especially since it's THAT new? Ugh. Sorry that happened to you :/

When she got married 12 years ago people weren't blasting things on social media. She probably can't see this from the eyes of a bride so give her a little benefit of the doubt. Also have a little chat with her about keeping things quiet and private. She needs to know how you feel about this but you need to do it in a way that doesn't hurt her feelings. She seems very very happy for you.

I get why you're upset about Facebook and Pinterest but really.. it's not that big of a deal! My FSIL did it for us. We have a public Pinterest board. Pinterest is so general. Just move on and be happy. You've been engaged for not that long and should be celebrating with your FH, friends and family. This is petty (sp?). Be happy!

Yes!

My FH proposed at a music festival, I didn't want to post anything on facebook until the following Monday when we were driving home (it happened on a Thursday) I wanted to enjoy my weekend without facebook and social media. 5 minutes after he popped the question, my facebook started BLOWING UP!! FMIL posted it on fb, my weekend was full of social media, phone calls and texts after that

I want to believe she's not doing this intentionally, but I'm having a difficult time believing this. She posts your engagement, then she posts wedding ideas. I think you need to have a talk with her about "posting addiction"

Edited to add:

Tell her if she wants to post things on social media, to post her business.

Bunny Love.... Your response was great.

She and I are having lunch in about a half an hour to talk. She texted me this morning to ask if she could send a mutual friend a pic of my gown and my response was absolutely NOT!

Yes. My parents went and told everyone before I could say anything. I get they were excited but I wanted to be the one to tell the family.

I totally get what your saying, maybe she was just really excited for you I would not give it much thought the damage is done. I would be upset as well but what can you do?

It's a tricky conversation to have, especially if she isn't trying to be hurtful. I hope that your visit with her went well.

We didn't have anyone steal our thunder, we actually had practically the opposite. We were engaged out of town and decided to celebrate at dinner before telling anyone. After dinner, we called ALL of our families (on both sides) no one answered! Finally after about 3 hours, I was so itching to brag about it, I posted it to FB and IG. Our parents ended up not even calling us until the next morning because they all fell asleep early!

Our lunch got delayed by an hour, but when we finally met up it went great. So let's hope there are no further issues. lol

Monica, to be on the safe side, don't let her get any pictures of you in ANY wedding dress.

Oh she has pics of me in my wedding dress from the bridal shop. You must have missed my post about her texting me on the way to work this morning to ask if she could share the dress pics with a mutual friend of ours who lives out of town, and I said NOOOO! That's why I felt we needed to talk ASAP.

My "engagement thunder" was stolen by my own husband of all people! I was super excited so after it happened I decided to post it on facebook AND call our immediate friends and family. It took about 3 phone calls and 5 minutes into my facebook comment to realize he'd basically told everyone we know that he planned on proposing on my birthday. Needless to say throughout the planning process I had to remind him to keep things on the downlow. When our wedding pics came in I had to also remind him not to share with anyone until we personally went through them together with our families. On the bright side, I'm just glad that though everyone knew, no one spilled the beans beforehand!

In your case I would just tell your best friend that though you love how excited she is that you would rather share your news as you see fit and when you see fit. I think any friend could understand why thats so important to you, especially if they were in your shoes

@Sisi - The same thing happened to me!

FH asked for my dad's and stepdad's blessing. So my parents and siblings knew. And all of his friends knew. And his entire family knew. For a MONTH! I too was surprised my mom didn't let it slip. Luckily everyone gave us a chance to tell everyone about it. Once I posted it on FB as an event, the family followed with their own stuff.

To get back at my mom and sister, I called them both afterwards with a sobbing "I got home for work and FH had the apartment decorated. He was on one knee and I didn't know what to do so I just left. Now I'm just driving around!" I had them both going for quite a bit. MWAHAHAHAHA!

My BF and now MOH didn't know, but she lives about 500 miles away...