How to Politely Decline a Bridal Shower Invitation
When it comes to invitations and RSVPing, there are some etiquette guidelines that can be confusing.
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Have you recently received a bridal or couple's shower invitation and know you are unable to attend? When it comes to invitations and RSVPing, there are some etiquette guidelines that can be confusing. We're here to help!
When should I respond?
Don’t wait around to RSVP. As soon as you know that you will be unable to attend, reply immediately. Responding in a timely manner will allow for the hostess/host to have enough time to make the proper arrangements. Don't make the host chase you down for your RSVP.
How should I respond?
Don’t feel the need to over-explain yourself. Your regret should be simple and to the point. RSVP in the manner dictated on the invitation (usually via phone or email). If the event is not a surprise (and be sure to double-check with the host!), feel free to call the guest of honor to let her know you won't be attending.
Should I buy a gift?
Yes, it is a good idea to send a gift to the bride or host in advance of the shower, preferably something from their registry. If the event is not a surprise, you can send the gift directly to the bride. If it is a surprise, talk to the host about the best way to get the gift to the shower so that the event remains under the bride's radar. Another idea: Send a bouquet of flowers to the shower venue on the day of the event, so that the guest of honor knows you're thinking about her.
Is there anything else I should do?
Yes, it is always a nice gesture to check-in and ask how the party went with a quick call. Also, you can even take the bride out to lunch or make a date to go shopping. This way you can get together in person and hear about the party and what you missed. You'll both be glad you got the chance to catch up!
