"You better invite me..."

I had two people say that to me. I'm having a destination wedding so the guest list is smaller than normal. I'm going to invite both individuals but the one, I feel obligated because I just went to their wedding this past summer. I just isn't something that shouldn't be said period.

Mhmm. I met this girl through work that recently moved away. She basically only used me for rides because she didn't have a car. She recently commented on Facebook asking when my wedding was because she hasn't been to one in a long time. Mkkkk whatever.

I had some people say that to me. I laughed it off and still didn't invite them. If you don't know me well enough to not say that, I don't know you well enough to invite you.

Edit: Or you're an ex. I had an ex say that to me once. The next time we saw each other (after the wedding like 8 months later) he called me out on not inviting him and I was like yeah dude....no and he was like yeah you're right, that would have been a terrible idea.

I've had a few of those. I also had an "I'd better be a bridesmaid".

We had a few but we just chuckled and changed the subject.

I've also had people say that to me, or along the lines of. When people started finding out that we had a date set (we were trying to keep it low-key before the official invitations because it's going to be too small to invite everyone and we wanted as much time as possible without being bothered by people), they started inviting themselves lol. One girl said "Oooh! I can't wait! I love going to weddings!" I just stared and smiled.

Someone else asked me point blank, "Can you invite me?"

There's a lot of people that don't understand what goes into a wedding invite. What do you do with them?

My FH's friend said, "if you invite my brother, I'm not coming." Then he said to me, "well, not that I'm assuming I'm even invited." Of course he is invited and his brother isn't so I just thought it was funny.

If you say that to me, there's a good chance that you weren't close enough for me to invite you, anyway. I would have passed ...

No has had the balls to say it directly, but last week my cousin commented on my ring pic on FB (from A YEAR AND A HALF ago when we got engaged) and said "Yay! Hopefully we can get all of us together finally!" Aka where is my invite...

YEP. I hate this. NEVER assume you're invited to someone's wedding unless you're immediate family or joined at the hip. Ugh.

Haha oh wow! Crazy right! It's funny how people feel entitled to someone else's wedding lol

In hindsight, I wished I just ignored her and/or changed the subject like some of you did but I'm stuck...I'm taking comfort in knowing I will be surrounded by other people who I love and didn't demand an invite

I had a few, I said okay and never spoke to them again

P.s. you all have made my day. Sucks that this is what we have to go through and it's a decision that has to be made by you and your FH...but I'm glad we can laugh it off and it can be a funny story to share

I have heard it once before but I usually chuckle and let them know we haven't finalized any plans yet. However, one couple is totally expecting an invite when they're technically of tier four of our guest/invitation list. They aren't well liked by us or the only people they could be seated with plus are notorious for bad wedding etiquette. So everytime they ask about the wedding they say things like "let us know as soon as you set the date" and adding unsolicited advice on my dress or wedding. They'll get a cold dose of reality when the invitations don't come but that's an awkward bridge/conversation for next year.

Yup, I have. Mostly from his friends/acquaintances (since he knows absolutely EVERYONE). I figure I'll just let him deal with it when they don't receive an invite.

I had one ask FW in October, a solid 14 months before the wedding. When FW told the girl that the guest list wasn't finalized she hit her with the "well, you'll be invited to mine!". Her wedding is in her backyard that has not been maintained, self catered, and there's a GoFundMe for "expenses" she's racked up lately.

A sorority sister asked my MOH is she was invited to our wedding while attending another sister's wedding..in November. The kicker was that we were also in attendance at this wedding.

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My ex's (adult) niece pulled the "we better be invited" card. Here's another one. My former foster daughter's mom called me and said, "Even if we aren't invited, we're still coming!" I told her it was out of town and she wouldn't want to drive or pay for a hotel, and she said she had already started saving. THEN she said "I KNOW you made your babies the flower girls!" referring to her children, my former foster children. Don't get me wrong, I love those kids with all my heart, and I love her too! But, my nieces are my flower girls, and I hadn't planned to invite them because they don't leave the house as it is. Now I'm not sure what to do!

Sooo many people.. I just wanted to say, "Yeah, we're cool. That doesn't mean we're friends." But, that would have been rude. So, I politely explained that we were having a small ceremony of immediate family and close friends.

I even had a childhood friend's wife come at me on facebook giving me the chance to explain myself on why her and her husband weren't invited. That went over real well..... We're no longer FB friends. Don't come at me with that shit and not expect a very honest and direct response back. Obviously, she didn't know me well enough and got butthurt.

Thankfully I only had one person say something like this to me and it was over text message so I just ignored it! People do get excited about weddings, but damn, they need to chill and remember their manners!