would you go to a wedding that is against your religious beliefs?

@Nancy, LOL did I strike a nerve?

@Elphaba: Thanks for the link. Interesting article. It was just an injunction. The lower court could go back and revisit the case. It's stretch in my opinion, just like religions that kill animals.

@Vicki: You're the one that is overreacting. Just because my belief system is different doesn't mean I am judgmental. You can do whatever you bloody well want to. It's free county. I think putting drugs in tea is weird. I think allowing kids to call a teacher by their first name is off too. Like I said, Go have a glass of wine.

Nah. I'm not drinking any hallucenogenic tea OR watching people trip and puke for 4 hours. I'll go to a frat party if I want to do that. This isn't even a "religion" it's a cult. Straight up. There's nothing religious about it, and I'm stunned that some of you are equating it to being Jewish!!

Just... No.

I wasn't going to get involved, but yes @Nancy, you're post comes off as self-righteous by calling people weird.

My FH and I are both Catholic converts and we've had protestants (including *my goodness* Presbyterians) tell us our wedding sounds weird. And yes, I think that saying a religion is weird is going to be taken as rude. People at the reception of my high school BFFs Greek Orthodox wedding, particularly the protestants kept saying how weird the wedding was. It was beautiful and liturgical.

Not everyone is going to have a WASP-y wedding. Think how you would feel if I said it was weird that your wedding didn't have communion or flowers for Mary or was outside or something. I'm guessing it wouldn't be great.

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I'm also a Christian, and I personally wouldn't go. As a Christian, I'd say pray about it and listen to what God speaks to you about it. It sounds like God's already speaking to you, telling you in your heart not to go. As a Christian, it sounds demonic to me.

ETA: Also, as a Christian, I believe it's important to understand that God will put certain convictions in your heart about what you should or shouldn't do in order to protect you, and these convictions may not apply to other people.

This completely sounds like a cult. A religion that forces people to drink drug filled tea and then are happy when you throw up? No. Just no. Creepy.

@MGB

Let's roll, bish! I'll bring the tea.

This sounds creepy AF. As long as your FH is on the same page as you, I would skip it considering the fact that you feel so uncomfortable about it.

ETA: I am not religious and I'm pretty liberal about what drugs other people do etc however this shit is WEEEIIRRRRDD.

@Delfina

Cash bar to reduce the flow of alcohol?

ha ha ha ha ha

I think if this is for someone else's wedding you should go and respect their religious choices. If your FH is a part of this group and you don't like it, then there are some bigger issues here.

Nope. Not going. However your FH being the best man and going and probably participating... Red flag.

@augustlawbride: People who kill animals and drink spiked/ drugged tea are weird. If you think that is judgmental,then so be it. That is your perception. There are some Christian churches that dance with snakes and drink venom. A bit weird too. This is free country and you may worship as you see fit.

If I objected to going to weddings based on Religion, I wouldn't go to a lot of weddings being a bloody Atheist.

This makes me think back to a post from someone who was asked to attend a wedding at a hunting resort (animals are bread and trapped to be hunted) and she did not want to go as she was a vegan. The advice there was not to go. The consensus there was that you shouldn't have to go somewhere that you specifically do not believe in.

I'm open to attending weddings and religious ceremonies of all different faiths, but I would not be comfortable if I HAD to ingest a certain chemical to participate. For that reason, I would either not go, or leave after the wedding ceremony part and skip the tea ceremony.

Disclaimer: I have not read all the comments, but I get the gist of what's going on here.

I am agnostic and do not practice any religion, but would probably attend (and have attended) religious ceremonies. Catholics don't make you take communion. Based on the timeline of the events alone, I would probably decline.

As for FH going, it's his decision. My opinion is a little skewed because I don't care about FH getting high, and I know he'd never get roped into a cult like religion (or any religion for that matter), so I trust him to be responsible. But that doesn't mean I have to go.

Would I go to a wedding that's against my beliefs? Yes and I would go to this wedding too. I also wouldn't force my FH to renounce part of his cultural upbringing. There are ways to explain different religions to children that aren't judgmental. I would probably set boundaries with FMIL as to the participation of my children in her religion but that's about it. I wouldn't lie to myself and pretend my FH doesn't have an origin. But you and I are different people.

Like others have said, it's probably best you don't go even if FH is the best man. My only advice would be for you to reflect on how openly you condemn your future in laws' religion. FH can reassure you that he has nothing to do with this religion all he wants but this wedding is most likely the first of many family and cultural conflicts that will arise in your lives together. This thread is long so I'm not sure if you explicitly said if this was a deal breaker but it was at least heavily implied. You're going to have to accept FH's tolerance of his family's religion or decide the deal has been broken and move on. In the long run that might be the healthiest option for everyone involved.

I agree that it shouldn't be a big deal to go to support your family. Just because you go doesn't mean you have to participate. Good luck with making your decision!

I would go to a atheist wedding, I would go to a jewish wedding, I would also go to a same sex wedding, but I would NOT go to this wedding.

its four hours of people tripping on this tea and throwing up.

This is a drug. pretty sure at all of the above weddings they are not having a drug involved.