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Archer_Bride2be
Super August 2014

Would you go to a wedding alone??

Archer_Bride2be, on May 29, 2013 at 11:02 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 26

We recently got an invitation from one of FH's old friend, who he hasnt seen in about 4 years, and I was perfectly fine with going until I realized we were going to be out of town that weekend. I have national championships for my archery career that weekend, FH isn't competing but said he wanted to go to watch like he normally would. So I just assumed we weren't going to the wedding....well a little bit later he says jokingly, "I'll have to find another date". He plans on going to the wedding alone while I'm in Ohio at nationals. would you guys be mad at all in this situation? I know I personally would feel weird going to a wedding alone, for a person you haven't seen in 4 years. sorry just my little vent for the day Smiley smile

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Latest activity by Hot chocolate, on May 29, 2013 at 12:12 PM
  • We'llAlwaysHaveParis
    Master November 2013
    We'llAlwaysHaveParis ·
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    I wouldn't go by myself, but I wouldn't care if FH needed to (as in no plus one) or wanted to (ie, I couldn't go).

    FH is 42, never been married, really no family to speak of. He's very used to doing things on his own. I am ALWAYS welcome and he ALWAYS wants me to go, but trust me, the man has his own life. He doesn't need me and he would totally do exactly what your FH is doing. The flip side is he doesn't freak when I want to something myself or with my friends.

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  • Out the Window
    Master May 2014
    Out the Window ·
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    If I knew other people there, I wouldn't mind going alone or vice versa.

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  • J
    VIP June 2013
    Jenn ·
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    I'm with Out the Window, if I had good friends/family there I wouldn't mind. I'd rather FH be with me though!

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  • IrishLove™
    Master October 2013
    IrishLove™ ·
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    If I knew people who were at the wedding like my friends I wouldn't mind going alone... just would have to tell him FH had prior plans he couldn't get out of... right now it looks like next June FH and I will be going to wedding alone... my cousin is getting married and the friends that set us up are getting married on the same date ... so we will be going to different states for different weddings. It just something that has to happen.

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  • Jess08
    Super July 2013
    Jess08 ·
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    I'd go alone if I have to. I'm fine doing things alone. I'm fine with FH going alone too if he was in the same boat.

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  • Tiffany M. ( Tiffany P.)
    Master August 2012
    Tiffany M. ( Tiffany P.) ·
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    Before we got together, my DH went to about 4 weddings by himself since he was single and bunch of friends got married shortly after college/university. He knew lots of people there, including a few other single friends, so had no problem going by himself.

    We had a few friends come to our wedding alone, even though they were given a +1. Again, they knew lots of other people there and we sat them at tables with friends.

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  • Married2013
    Master September 2013
    Married2013 ·
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    I’ve gone to multiple weddings without FH but with girlfriends. I’ve noticed the recent trend is inviting people solo if they aren’t engaged or married. For that reason, I was invited by myself, without FH, and went alone. BUT, I went with my friends. I don’t know how I would feel going to a wedding where I hadn’t seen the person in 4 years and really didn’t know anyone. But men are different. Honestly if FH didn’t have anything going on for the weekend, and I did, and a college friend invited us to a wedding he may consider going to catch up and see everyone. I don’t think it’s too weird.

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  • Robin A.
    Master July 2012
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    I don't think I would care that he wanted to go by himself. He's there to support a friend on their important day. However, if its going to upset and distract you at nationals, perhaps he should be supporting you.

    To me, it's not a big deal that he wants to go to the wedding alone, but it might be a big deal that he isn't going to support you on such a big day.

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  • Future Mrs.
    Expert August 2013
    Future Mrs. ·
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    I've been to several alone.

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  • FinallyDoingIt
    Master July 2014
    FinallyDoingIt ·
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    I wouldn't go alone unless I knew my friends would be there. I wouldn't care if FH went alone. If he's comfortable going alone then great.

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  • Amanda
    Master August 2013
    Amanda ·
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    If I was going to know lots of other people there, I would absolutely go alone. Sure he hasn't seen this friend in 4 years, but it'll probably be an awesome reunion for your FH and all his friends! There's no way I could object to that.

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  • Ren
    Devoted June 2013
    Ren ·
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    I went alone to a friend's wedding once, but Idk if it counts because I was a BM. It was out of town and my FH had another wedding to go to, so I guess he went alone to one too! But he knew lots of people there.

    Personally, I would only go alone if I knew for sure other people I would hang out with/talk to were also going.

    ETA, I would not mind him going alone to one, especially if I had something else planned.

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    He hasn't had a chance to see his friend in four years. He sees you every day. I find it perfectly natural he would give priority to seeing his friend that one weekend.

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  • Laudie
    Master October 2013
    Laudie ·
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    I'd go alone. I got invited to a wedding a few years ago and FH wasn't on the invite so I just went anyways. I knew a couple of people at the wedding so it wasn't so bad but they all had dates! Didn't bother me though and if I had to I would do it again.

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  • Nancy Taussig
    Nancy Taussig ·
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    I do it all the time (but, I'm the officiant)!

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  • Mrs V (Roe)
    Master August 2013
    Mrs V (Roe) ·
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    Sure would. I have gone out to lunch, dinner, to concerts and plays all by myself so a wedding would be no problem if I knew people there.

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  • Mrs. Pezz
    VIP September 2013
    Mrs. Pezz ·
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    I've been to a few alone as well, either before FH or because I wasn't allowed a plus 1 but I usually knew many people there so it didn't bother me.

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  • Jules
    Master January 2014
    Jules ·
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    No I wouldn't be mad, yes I would go alone.

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  • Julie A.
    Super August 2012
    Julie A. ·
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    I've been to a few weddings alone, including one in Nashville that i had to fly to and stay over a few days (close friend from college). The only other people i knew at that wedding were in the wedding, so i had to entertain myself most of the time I was down there. i went on a haunted tavern tour, made some new friends, saw some live music and had a total blast. i can only imagine how much fun i'd have in Nashville if i went with my husband.

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  • Archer_Bride2be
    Super August 2014
    Archer_Bride2be ·
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    I see what you all mean, and I wouldn't mind if he wouldn't have already made plans to travel with me. I guess it's just the fact that I won't have any support at the tournament now, it's not like it's a team sport so no one is really there to help you or cheer you on, plus now its a 7 hour drive alone. But I'm glad to see that other people don't mind going alone...I would personally just feel weird going without FH, but I guess he's not that crazy

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