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Just Said Yes June 2018

Worried people won't dance? Russian/American wedding?

littlewild, on February 5, 2017 at 11:57 PM Posted in Planning 0 10
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Hi everyone,

So my wedding is 16 months away but we've already booked our venue, and it is quite big! Definitely will accommodate our 150 guests, & it's on a Saturday evening so it's perfect for a big celebration which is exactly what I want.

The problem is, my fiancé, who was born in U.S. but has an enormous Russian/Ukrainian family, tells me that no one from his side will dance. He says it's not normal during their weddings and not what they do.

Now he's never actually been to a reception, only ceremonies.. and 95% of our guest list is his side, I have very little family/friends.

I'm just feeling a little sad about having such a wonderful venue for all these people who are going to sit around, or think that my 15 or so family are crazy for getting out there to bust a move.. it makes me wonder, what's the point of a DJ! Or Sat. venue!

I'm hoping that there might be someone out there who has had experience with Slavic weddings and or anyone to set my mind at ease!

Thanks!!

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Latest activity by MrMonkey, on March 23, 2018 at 8:25 PM
  • BeachDreams
    Master May 2017
    BeachDreams ·
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    An open bar and good DJ will likely get people dancing.

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  • Ali
    Master June 2017
    Ali ·
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    Part of my family is Ukrainian and I can relate to this, the older generations do not dance...the younger generations do, especially if Ukrainian punk music is playing.

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  • L
    Just Said Yes June 2018
    littlewild ·
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    Yes, we'll have open bar!! Thank you guys, a pretty large number of our guests are between ages 20-30, so hopefully they'll party!

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  • Jacks
    Master November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    Open bar plus DJ plus Saturday minus religious objections = DANCING. I'm sure it'll be fine!

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  • Linds
    Master March 2017
    Linds ·
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    FH and his family moved to America from Russia in the 90s. His guest list is primarily Russian family - around 40 Russian Guests - and they DANCE.

    We're having some traditional Russian music (we're providing it to our DJ), and we're also going to do the hora (Jewish chair dance) which always gets his family out on the floor.

    We go to Ukrainian festival each year - FH's and his family were from what is now Ukraine, but it was USSR and they identify as Russian - and there is always lots of fun dancing at that too.

    This may be a family thing as much as a Russian/Ukrainian thing - if his family isn't comfortable dancing - you might be out of luck making it the party you're imagining, However - they may just need it to be their type of party/music/dancing to let loose.

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  • Shops16
    Devoted October 2017
    Shops16 ·
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    We are having the same issue! FH was born in Ukraine and also said no one on his side of the family will dance either! He's actually never been to a wedding that had a DJ or dancing.

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  • Ali
    Master June 2017
    Ali ·
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    Linds, its not everyday I find more Jewish Ukrainian-Russians, between this and the Pats come back tonight I might need to get a lotto ticket. I agree its likely a family thing, the older generations on that side of my family are introverts.

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  • Jacinta
    Super August 2017
    Jacinta ·
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    Maybe put on the RSVP card a line that says "we will dance if DJ plays ---" ?? Or something like that. That way you can be sure to include songs that they at least want to hear and help the party mood

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  • Linds
    Master March 2017
    Linds ·
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    @Ali - no - I don't meet many that aren't related to FH at all. Planning a wedding trying to make everyone feel included and incorporating Russian/Ukrainian and Jewish traditions has been a challenge for me. I'm neither Russian nor Jewish - and FH is wonderful, and clueless. He can't give me any details about tradition, culture, and religion.

    I'm super scared about his family drinking and partying, and then picking me up in a chair... I think I'll skip lotto tickets and save every ounce of love between now and then for that!

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  • M
    Savvy May 2018
    MrMonkey ·
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    Ukrainian Russian here- and that’s nonsense - they dance so much. Plus Jews dance like crazy. And the chair thing is sooooooo much fun!!!!! Bring the vodka and add some older Russian song and you’ll have solid dancing.
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