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Super September 2011

World revolves around the In-laws?

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Mrs.T.to.Be, on November 28, 2011 at 4:33 PM

I love my parents very much; they are a huge part of my life don't get me wrong. But....BUT I don't feel the need to see them 4 times a week and have to talk to them 2 to 3 times a day. I call my parents/they call me to chat about once a week to catch up on life and call when we have something to ask, and then have supper about once a month. DH on the other hand, well his parents (particularly his Dad) calls 2 to 3 times a day, if he can't get a hold of DH he will call him every 1/2 hour until he picks up, and if he still cant get a hold of him, his Dad calls me! And its never about anything super important...usually about wanting to watch the hockey game. And then we go to their place about twice a week for supper. So the reason behind my rant today.....I was given really really good tickets to see the hockey game tonight, and DH found out he cant go because he has parent meetings (he is a teacher) tonight. I was bummed out and said I would just give them back to my VP...cont

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Honey B. · on November 29, 2011 at 11:01 AM
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I agree with Carly- I am completely opposite from this also. My mom & I are usually emailing each other all day long and she calls probably once a day. I see my parents at least once a week. I have always talked to my parents everyday, even in college.

My FH calls his parents once a week but they usually want us to come over for one day out of the weekend to hang out with them and go to dinner. If we don't have time that weekend then his mom gets super upset and makes all sorts of comments that we don't see her enough. Its not even that she doesn't see my FH, if she doesn't get to spend time with me then she's upset too. LOL I guess its better than how she treats my FH's SIL.
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Angela · on November 29, 2011 at 11:58 AM
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I am so glad you started this thread!!! I was thinking I'm the only one in this situation.... I love my family, they are great people will drop anything (if they can) to help me move or move in my new washer/dryer. Now with that being said I don't feel the need to talk to them daily. I may chat with my dad once or twice a week and those calls last about 2-3 mins unless there's something important that I have to tell him. Thankfully the FIL's live a little over an hour away so it's not several times a week that we go over but when we first started dating it was EVERY weekend. FH talks to him mom several times a day. I love his family they are really nice and have done nothing but made me feel welcome, but it's just I don't feel the need to be with my family every second of my free time.

What I explained to FH is WE (myself and my girls) are becoming his family and I would hope that he wants to spend his free time with us. Not trying to cut his family out of the picture.. contd
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Angela · on November 29, 2011 at 11:59 AM
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Just would like a balance. Because I do enjoy spending time with his family..
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Cyndi K · on November 29, 2011 at 12:32 PM
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I'm on the other side of things. I talk to my mom ALL the time. My parents live a half our away and FH's mom lives about 2 hours away. I think of his mom as my second mom not an in law. I chat with her on FB or email about every other day and love spending one on one time with her when we visit. FH also spends time with my dad and mom. Either of us would feel comfortable going to the others parents' house alone. We're the kind of family where you don't have to call before a visit and knocking on the door is pointless we just walk on in. I guess everyone is just raised differently.
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