Workplace Invites

I wouldn't invite them, but I would also have a chat with the 4 that you are inviting and request that they aren't super chatty about the wedding at work.

I would only invite the 4 you are close with. I am only inviting 5 people from my team at work. No one seems to be like "hey where's my invite".

Since you supervise them, I would invite them all. I get that it's your wedding and that you want to be surrounded by the people closest to you, but when you're talking about people you manage I think it's important to avoid playing favorites. If you're talking about coworkers, the situation is a little different. If they are truly baffled by the invitation, they can always just RSVP no.

I have the same issue! I have 15 people in my office. I have worked with many of them for a long time. However, there are a couple that are brand new that I barely speak to. I'm sending my save the dates/invites to their homes and would hope they don't brag about it at work to other people. I say don't invite anyone you don't want to. Don't feel obligated or anything, people understand.

You don’t have to invite them or feel bad. We got a new manager at our store and he came in saying how he was getting married in a month. He apologized that he was unable to invite us his to his wedding because it was too late to add on to the guest list. None of us minded or got our feelings hurt, we didn’t know him well enough to care that we weren’t invited. We just wished him well.

I'd invite them all just because 4/6 is already most of them and 6 isn't a lot anyway. But if you're tight on space then def just invite the ones you're closest to.

I don't think it's bad to only invite 4 if you don't really know the other 2 that well. There's 8 other people in my department, and I'm only inviting 4 of them. I'm not close with my supervisor, director, or other 2 coworkers, and I needed to cut down the guest list so they got cut.

Don't send anyone you work with save the dates, and don't make the "who to invite" decision until right before invites go out. Work environments change very quickly.

I am in the same boat. But I have decided to only invite the coworkers I am close to, that talk to me outside of work. So out of 13 on my team I am only inviting 3 of them and then 2 more are actually my bridesmaids, so a total of 5.

Same here. I supervise 11 people. I have invited 2 and am planning on inviting one more, if I have room. However my team is spread out across the US and they don't know each other very well.
Since it sounds like your team is all in one office, can you take out the new hires to lunch and explain that your guest list has been in place since before they joined the team, but that at no means this reflects on the relationship you would like to build with them (or something to that effect)?

Agree with caytlyn. I only have group convos about the wedding when my coworkers bring it up and it is my little group that is invited.

View Quoted Comment I had the same thought....

My FH and I both chose the people at work that we hang out with outside of work and that's who we invited. I mean, I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings....but it's our wedding and we are only inviting the people we actually want there.

I'm a manager and if I were in your situation I would invite them all. I even have an assistant who I'm closer with, but I'm a firm believer in no special treatment.

I've been invited to weddings of work friends without a guest and I think that's even a good middle ground. We all just went together and were seated together.

Thanks Jen, I was thinking the same thing... they can always say no thank you and I wouldn’t be at all offended.

There's nothing wrong inviting the four you're closest to!

View Quoted Comment I agree . Saves can cause problems. Obviously long distance travel plans are not an issue, so send any work invitations only at the usual invitation time, 8 weeks out .
Most people only invite those they regularly socialize with outside of work . Especially as you are the boss, and gifts are expected, it is very awkward if they were not already social friends. People seen just at work, let them do a coffee and dessert work shower there. No invitation from the boss .

View Quoted Comment Agreed! I invited only my team members who I socialize with outside of work. We kept discussions about the wedding to a minimum around others. Our company went through a huge "restructuring" a few months before the wedding, so I'm glad I didn't invite anyone else out of a sense of obligation.

I invited only the co-workers I am close with. I had to draw the line somewhere

Invite the people who you would hang out with outside of work. If you don't see them outside of work then don't invite them.