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MrsKAllTheWay
Super October 2012

Why you should reconsider sending out save the dates...

MrsKAllTheWay, on June 7, 2012 at 1:37 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 65

I sent out save the dates a while ago. I've never been married before and I'm one of the first of my friends to get married and I thought it was the "thing to do." However, I'm getting a mixed response from people. Some people are not acknowledging them (which is fine, I didn't really expect to hear...

I sent out save the dates a while ago. I've never been married before and I'm one of the first of my friends to get married and I thought it was the "thing to do." However, I'm getting a mixed response from people. Some people are not acknowledging them (which is fine, I didn't really expect to hear anything) but more people than I thought are very confused by them.

I sent them because so many of our friends and relatives are not only coming from out-of-town, but also have weird schedules (nurses, business-owners) so I figured it would give them some extra time to work on getting off. In retrospect, I wish I would have saved the dough (STAMPS! ARGH!) and not sent them.

What has been your experience? Did you send them? Are you planning on sending them? What's your reason for sending them?

65 Comments

  • Tiffany
    VIP July 2013
    Tiffany ·
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    I plan to send them and send them early. We're getting married on a holiday weekend and I don't want people to make other plans not knowing when we're getting married.

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  • L
    Devoted August 2017
    Laura ·
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    I felt I should heed a warning and put invite to follow by the sticker that seals the envelope. I have a lot of out of Towner's too. Then there are those who are confuses by any change to "their" norm. I could see a problem with a bunch of phone calls. I am hoping that this will encourage anyone who doesn't intend to come to let us know sooner rather than later.

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  • L
    Devoted August 2017
    Laura ·
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    I heeded a warning and put "invite to follow" by the seal on the envelope.

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  • S
    Beginner September 2018
    Small Lady ·
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    I'm hoping not to have issues, we decided to send them out because just contacting people for addresses, we've already gotten a few people that won't be able to make it under any circumstance(lots of military and moving), thus we can now add a few others to the list. So it was like a preliminary RSVP. We are close to lots of people, but for budget purposes weren't able to invite absolutely everyone. IMO getting those early answers was well worth forking out the money for super cheap and discounted shutterfly STDs. I'm also hand writting them, so the practice on addresses is welcomed. Our familys are also kind of sentimental and save things like this in a crafty way. I'm sure I will find out in the coming weeks hiw worth it it is once they hit the mailbox tomorrow.


    TL;DR - The Pros outweigh the Cons for us, We dicided to send ours. They say "Formal Invitation to Follow" got early RSVPs so we could add more to our list. Final opinion pending.
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  • Malei
    Super October 2018
    Malei ·
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    I sent them out to only our out of town guests (since you have to fly to get here) and local "VIPs." All others that live locally (majority of guests) did not get one. That's how I saved money on postage.

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