Why do people not like The Knot message boards?

Ashlee - anyone can read these forums, whether you have an account or not (this is the same with the Knot). You need an account to comment or to like anything, but otherwise, it would be anyone who comes to the website and clicks on 'forums'.

I'm on both- both have pro's and con's.

Wow, that's pretty hilarious (really) that they'd take comments from here and/or become trolls here just to report back to their little groupies over there.

Yeah, honestly, it just shows how sad their lives are that they need to "mess" with us and then report back hahaha.

The forum format is awful, and too Americanized for my needs.

I signed up for accounts on both forums around the same time after we were engaged. I found this site much easier to navigate and view posts. I found it quite annoying that their personal signatures, which are tacked on to the end of every single post, as well as the quoting of other posters, are a mile long. That makes it super irritating when scrolling to try to read new content.

I have nothing nice to say about the way they go about posting the standards of etiquette to complete and utter strangers. I will say, too, that in every aspect of my wedding I have strived to keep the best interests of my guests in mind. However, I think it is appalling the way they talk to people. The vast majority of these women have been married for years as well. Move on.

The format is awful.

BUT they get to use gifs -.-

I did/do not like the layout of TK which is how I came across WW - I found both looking for vendors in my area. I had never before been on a "forum" like this before to be perfectly honest. What really annoys me about TK are all the stupid gifs and meme pictures people put in their posts. There are also a lot of tolls on TK who "attack" other users for no real reason other than to bully people and toot their own horn.

The Knot was too confusing for me. Maybe I'm "night the brightest bulb in the box" but I just "didn't get it"...

Lurker both places...

The thing is, you should listen to everything the girls over on TK say, snark or not. They are always saying what one or more of your guests is thinking, and that WILL damage your relationships. Then you just have to decide whether you care about those relationships being damaged more than you care about having your own way at your wedding.

Your guests can tell when you're making them put up with stuff because you're being selfish or you haven't considered their comfort. It may be accurate that your friends "won't care that much" but I just went to a poorly-hosted wedding two weeks ago, and I now think less of that couple. Not by a ton, but there's damage there. I know they probably didn't think through what they were doing, so I don't think they were intentionally trying to make my night worse. Benefit of the doubt given. However, it does tell me that they were thinking a lot more about the fun photo-ops they wanted to create than whether telling us how to behave would come off as dictatorial.

The ladies of TK are trying to save you from this by giving you the guest's perspective, best-to-worst case scenario. Here on WW, there's a lot of smoke-up-the-butt.

^^^THIS^^^

Snark aside, there's a ton of good information there.