Why do people not like The Knot message boards?

The knot tends to be really one sided. Think of the movie mean girls, it's essentially a bunch of Regina George's.

Though people here tend to have strong feelings about things, some of those girls will rip your eyes out for not following etiquette rules.

They're easier to understand (format) and the people are nicer.

Haha I gotchya. Makes sense i see a lot of etiquette things here but that's true, I do feel like it's genuinely trying to help people and (usually) not a place from judgement or condemning

The knot scares me lol

I never spent enough time on the knot to really have any opinion of it one way or another. I will point out, that most of the snotty comments on there are from bride's who have been married for about 5 years, which I find mildly amusing - as in, "get a life" amusing. Basically, I just found a really great sense of community here, which I never saw in any of the posts there.

I look at both. I like all of the boards on the knot but the formatting drives me crazy (when they reply and copy the previous message, it can quickly become a mass block of text). I find this site easier to read. That being said, I cringe way less at the spelling on the knot! There seems to be a few queen bees over there who think they run the show and streamroll things but have a negative outlook, which I find off-putting. Both sites have positives, but I find this site to be more user friendly.

I find the ladies on here to be much more helpful then those on TK. I use to use their forums but they moved slow with advice and sometimes there were unnecessary snarky comments.

ETA: I find their wedding inspiration/real wedding photos easier to search and navigate.

It's a smaller community here, so you get to know everyone a little better. It's one of the reasons people here are so nice.

I agree with PP. I do like TK however there are a bunch of ladies that are just over the top with their comments. I'm perfectly okay with someone telling me my idea would be rude and what laws of etiquette I would be breaking.

However, I do not think it's okay to follow up their advise by calling me a selfish idiot for even posing the question. It's ridiculous. And if you dare point out their lack of tack or the irony of these hotheads proclaiming themselves to be etiquette guru's then the pounding only gets worse.

I don't want anyone to blow smoke up my but & I also don't want everyone to agree just to be nice. What I want is the truth in a respectful manner. Sometimes that's hard to come by at TK & it's really too bad.

The people on The Knot don't fake that everything is OK, they tell it like it is. They follow proper etiquette and try to make sure that everyone`s wedding goes well and the guests are properly hosted. A lot of people tend to think disagreement is somehow bullying. Anywho, try it over there. Some people`s start is rough, but if you stick around and actually listen, you`ll be part of the community in no time.

I once posted on the cash bar thread at TK in answer to someone that I personally would not be offended by a cash bar. Yes, an open bar would be preferred but a cash bar wouldn't send me into fits of rage where I take the couple's gift back, etc etc (all examples that other people have done). Someone decided to try to rip me apart by bringing up my destination wedding and how I'm having a "pretty princess day" because we legally married in December (after planning our August ceremony) to discredit any opinion I may have.

Some other girl posted about something (I don't remember what it was), and the other girls there started posting nasty things on her wedding website if I recall correctly.

In short, there are several handfuls of them over there who are nasty to other forum members, probably because something is missing from their lives, but that's up to a psychologist to figure out.

I love the forums on here better. Plus this site is easier to navigate. I am on the knot board but I find that most girls are just rude. They take it to another level with the name calling. You can disagree with someone and still be respectful. But, I still use the knot for inspiration board, photos, and read advice boards from knot writers that seems interesting.

I like TK because I prefer actual honesty versus validating bad ideas and rude behavior. That doesn't always happen on WW, but often it does. There are several users here that understand and promote proper (and important) etiquette - and even more that don't. I still like it here, but, you asked...so I'm being honest.

My basic belief is that, yes, brides deserve to enjoy their wedding day. But when they involve other people (bridal parties, families, guests) they have other people that also should enjoy that day and be treated properly. Life extends far beyond the wedding day and a lot of people get caught up and forget that, after their wedding day, they will have a lifetime to spend with many of the people they whine about on these boards over minor things.

Jenn - only one girl, maybe 2, actually went to that girl's website, and then used other well-known screennames over there to pretend to be them. It was not a "TK" thing, it was one outlier of a user.

And you've also faked accounts over there to troll before. Nothing against you - I rather like you - but there are those details to your TK Experience that may have altered it.

Perfect example:

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/1029787/ww-strikes-again#latest

Stephanie, that's not a "perfect example" as people post stuff like that about TK here all the time. That's just the Internet.

I like the local boards and found them valuable but don't get into the discussions of some of the other boards and how some of the ladies treat each other.

To me, The Knot doesn't seem to have changed much since my sister got married 7 years ago. To be honest, I haven't used it too much since my engagement, but that had a lot to do with the fact that the look hadn't been updated at all, and it wasn't very user friendly.

I really like WW's look and how easy it is to use. Plus, the wedding websites kick some tail in comparison! :-)

I just happened to stumble upon WW forum's first and it's more user friendly. I used TK for dress ideas and their checklist and that's about it. I don't really need to be on two wedding forums.

I have accounts on both, but I prefer the forums on WW. The ladies here just come across much more approachable. It's all in how you word your comments and it just seems like the people here are much more conscientious of how they say what they're trying to say (there are exceptions to this, but in general that is what I've noticed). I don't feel worried about getting attacked or looked down on for asking a question or voicing my opinion like I do on TK.

@Heather A, I 100% agree with your Regina George analogy! Love it!

Sorry to double comment- but honestly, you get different personalities on every board, some you agree with and some you don't. Everyone finds their way to the website somehow and it's not like a certain group of people only go to one or the other. I really think the way that the site is setup ( web format) was a big part in choosing where to spend my time. I do agree though that on WW there can be a lot more cushioning than on TK, and we aren't so great at giving constructive feedback to the not so great ideas...