Who will give me away?

When my FMIL got married she was surrounded by her children. FH walked her down the aisle, and when asked who gives her away, all her children said "We do."

Can everyone say "we do?" I would imagine you mom's response has more to do with her trying to keep herself together for you on your big day. I can only imagine how hard seeing you get married without your father there will be for her. As I get older I realize more and more that moms really do have feelings, even though they still try to hide them from us.

Good luck dear, you will have a beautiful wedding, and it will be a happy day for everyone, whether they give you away, or you give yourself away.

I'm so sorry to hear that you're in this spot; I can't imagine how hard it is. I have two cousins who have married since their father passed and something they talked about doing was carrying just a single flower instead of the boquet that was in honor of their father and then walking by themselves.

As far as your pastor goes, I'm sure he would understand or be willing to re-word the phrase in a way that will make it easier.

How do I tell everyone I plan to walk down the aisle alone?

You don't. You just do it when the time comes.

I don’t even want the minister to ask who gives this bride away.

This is not a necessary part of the service. Many brides skip it, if only because they don't like the idea of being "given away" as though they were a piece of property. If you don't want it, talk to the minister.

I have to agree with these ladies. I am ordained ( did it for a friend of mine) I will just leave that part out for a bride or anything else that they are not comfortable with. This is your day hun, you do it how you wish. good luck!!

I am in your same shoes... after lots of suggestions from others (and lots of people/family members offering), I decided that I am going to do the entrance by myself, then when I get to the aisle my FH is going to come to get me and we are going to walk the rest together. It is a non traditional way, but I think it will be special...

I don't think you have to have anyone "give you away" you are yours to give away anyways. I totally agree with 2d Bride, if you simply walk on your own, no one needs to know ahead of time. I know that's how my mom did it with her dad not being a part of her life.

You will want to make sure your officiant does know that you are walking by yourself so they can leave out that part about "who gives this woman away." They should be understanding about leaving it out.

I like the idea of your FH coming to meet you half way down the asile. It is symbolic in a way. You both started the journey separate and are now coming together to take the next steps in life together.

Thank you ladies... Great idea!

I'm walking myself. It just feels right and like something I need to do at this point in my life. I think I'd prefer to hang onto someone for dear life, but that's not what this is about.

I'm sure the minister won't have any problem adjusting the language of the service for you.

Whomever you feel in your heart you want to give you away...that's who you should ask.

my stepfather thought he was giving me away. i'm not sure why. we don't get along. one of my brothers is giving me away. my father has passed as well.

A second 2d Bride and Azulita's idea. Maybe you can even Walk down the aisle holding a candle as symbolism and memorial to your dad?

I walked alone b/c my Dad died almost 9 years ago, and I always envisioned him walking me up the aisle. I couldn't have anyone else do it - it didn't feel right. The priest didn't ask who gave me away b/c there obviously wasn't anyone there.

If I had to do it again, I would totally walk alone. It was awesome just having tunnel vision on my H and not having any other distractions.

Best wishes im kinda in the same boat to. xoxo

When my parents got divorced 13 years ago my dad walked away and never turned back, that being said, my 63 year old mentally handicapped uncle (who has lived with my family my whole life) is walking me down the beach

I walked in by myself (MOH ahead of me).

I don't ask who gives away the bride. I ask, "Who stands with this woman (and then this man) to represent the family and traditions from which she (and then he) comes?" Answers can come from fathers, mothers, both parents, siblings, all relatives present.