Who is bringing all the drama?

We had a few issues, especially in the beginning, from certain family members about the guest list and level of traditional elements we wanted. Part of me still regrets not just stating exactly what I wanted from the beginning. It definitely hurt to hear some comments.

One bridesmaid caused a little stress, but nothing too difficult to overcome.

His mother and 22yo daughter. Deargodinheavenhisbeeatchmomma!

It hasn’t happened yet, but I know something will. My brother is a very antagonistic liberal. My FH’s entire family is very conservative. My brother is incapable of keeping his mouth shut, and he picks at people until they explode, so I can see him getting decked by SOMEBODY.

So far the only ones causing drama is family. There's a lot of other stuff going on with my sister which doesn't help.

My mom. My mom doesn't understand why we're doing a big vow renewal and party when we're already married. "Use that money for something else" or "Why are you feeding everyone?" She is seriously driving me crazy. She asked why we rented an indoor venue when we could just do it in the same place we had our original wedding. Our original wedding was help in a city park, in 100* weather in July. No way are we going to do that again.

So far, we don't have any drama. If there is any, I don't know about it because the families are keeping it to themselves. I, however, am just annoyed with the in-laws. A lot of wedding is out of tradition or just different, because that's who I am. I know a lot of my family dislike that but they know better than to say anything at this point.

Friends... my BM had dresses picked out over a month ago and this one kept putting it off to go party on the weekends when I just need her to get sized. One excuse after another, finally went yesterday.

View Quoted Comment Lol I can relate so hard to this. My cherry on top is she’s supposed to be my closest friend, which is how I met my FH

My FMIL is causing the most drama right now during a time of celebration. She does not understand it isn't what she wants nor is it her day. It is my FH and my day. Planning a wedding is stressful enough and I really don't think it is right for people to act like they need to be in control and make the decisions. Especially when my FHs side of the family is not helping at all with expenses. On a good note, my mother has offered multiple times to help with expenses, expressed her concerns in some areas, but knows and understands its my choice.

It’s unfortunately my soon to be mother in law. My fiancé and I will have a set plan and be excited about it and then he will talk to her and change his mind completely. Her and I don’t see eye to eye at all and it feels at times that she is planning her second wedding. I’m trying so hard to be nice and not turn into a bridezilla, but she already had her shot, it’s my turn. It doesn’t help that there was a big blow up at the beginning about money and how she shouldn’t be expected to pay anything, but still deserved to help and have say.

My dad for sure, but I nip it in the bud. He has a girlfriend that he wants to rub in my mom's face and I told him if he does that, hes getting unkindly removed from the wedding.

Family- "why isn't so-in-so invited", "can I have a plus 1", "I really wish your third cousins you never met could come"... NO. lol

No drama...yet

Ugh, the head ache! My grandfather believes he should give me away because well, quite honestly when I was younger and not talking to my dad I said he would give me away. Now, my dad and I have a great relationship and I want him to walk me down the aisle. On the other hand, my mother believes my step dad should be apart of giving me away.....

So far in the past 3 months I’ve been told that I need a spray tan before my wedding, that I need a engagement party and bridal shower and bachelorette party ( mind you, my single mother is paying for the wedding and we don’t talk to his family) and my sister is my MOH and my best friend is the matron of honor. So since my sister is 21 and doesn’t make a ton of money and I don’t expect people to spend a ton of money just for pre wedding events. I’m happy with a small engagement party as a cook out get together and the same for the rehearsal dinner instead of restaurants. I don’t want a bridal shower, we have a small apartment that we have lived in for 3 years and we don’t need all new stuff. The apartment was remodeled brand new when we moved it! Why have my mom pour tons of money on things I’d rather cut less from my budget so I have more money in other areas, but so many people have these ideas of how it’s supposed to be. I’ve been told I shouldn’t add any black accessories to my dress because brides shouldn’t wear black they wear black to the husbands funeral, I’ve been told that we need to re think not inviting his mom because we only get one mom even tho she’s toxic, I’ve had people stop talking to me because they don’t like one decision or another .... good grief I don’t get married until October 30th 2020!

View Quoted Comment I think it's awesome that you're doing what you want and not letting people pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.

One of my bridesmaids, who got engaged 4 months before the wedding, and got married in Vegas less than 2 months before my wedding before she even bought her bridesmaids dress...

My mom, sorry I love her, but at every turn she has caused drama about something. One of my cousins isn’t in my wedding party, She pestered me until I made that cousin an usher. The venue was to expensive, She pestered me about how I would afford it, (luckily my in-laws came through!). Someone isn’t on the guest list, She pesters me about adding them... at every turn she had sought to cause drama. Best advice from my sister (that finally got my mother to stop) tell her to shut up (pardon my language) and enjoy the wedding or else my fiancé and I would elope. Instantly shut my moms mouth.

My best friend...

Family. FH children had to bow out our wedding because their mother is upset.