Who gets a Plus 1...

I'm having a big wedding, so this may influence the decision, but I'm fine with any of my guests bringing a plus one. I don't care if they're engaged, married for fifteen years or the plus one has only been dating for a month.

Anyone in a (serious) relationship gets invited with a plus one or by name. My fiancé’s cousin recently started dating someone, but we’re planning on inviting her if next year rolls around and they’re still together. The only single people getting a plus one are those traveling - ie the best man, one of my FH’s friends, and possibly one of my bridesmaids. They live out of state and wouldn’t know anyone but a handful of people at the wedding.

And I agree with several others that “no ring, no bring” sounds judgmental and rude. Not everyone wants to get married, but that doesn’t mean they’re any less committed than someone who is engaged or married. To come, a serious relationship is one that’s probably lasted about a year or more. Obviously everyone’s definition is different. I wouldn’t feel comfortable leaving someone’s SO out just because they’re not engaged.

The only people we allowed to have a plus one were the following. The bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers (they have paid a lot of money to be in your wedding - apparel, hotel rooms, shoes, jewelry, bachelor/ette parties, bridal showers, etc. - they should have a plus 1), married guests, engaged guests, or guests that have been in a long term relationship.

As a guest, I would have been pissed if my FH's friend who got married 2 years ago (my FH was a groomsman) didn't allow my FH a plus 1 to bring me, even though we weren't engaged or married (we owned a house together and had been together 2 almost 3 years at the time.

I totally agree with you. Your wedding day should be spent with people who love you and whom you love.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! That’s what we ended up doing — obviously if someone doesn’t know many people we have a plus one for them so they don’t feel out of place — but then again there isn’t anyone that isn’t close coming so 🤷🏼‍♀️

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This is a great idea.

We are STRUGGLING to keep our guest list at 200. FH & I are a little lenient with the "no ring, no bring" idea. We have friends/family members that are in long-term relationships. Their SO's are invited. It's the single friends with a new flavor of the month that we are NOT entertaining with a plus one. Sorry..not sorry!

View Quoted Comment Yaaasssss totally agree with you guys!!