Who gets a Plus 1...

We're giving all our singles (those not in a committed relationship) a plus one. Some may bring someone, others not.
Married, engaged, or in a committed relationship is not a plus one.

View Quoted Comment We felt the same way. I know it’s expensive to consider another person’s cost per head, but we also wanted to consider our single friends and make sure they had a good time too.

I really dislike the no ring no bring rule because we just got engaged after 16 years and I would have been very upset if I couldn’t go to a wedding or he wasn’t invited because we chose to not be married, but I guess it depends on budget.

Thanks for everyone’s input.


I’m sticking to what I’ve originally said-
min a relationship (of any sort) they have their SO come as well.. if single they will only get a plus 1 if needed.

We agreed that if it was someone we wanted at our wedding, we also wanted them to feel comfortable, and they could bring a date. Of course, we may have felt differently if we had more unmarried or unattached friends. We probably only have a total of 10 to 15 single friends or friends with SO's we dont know.

I dont love the no ring no bring myself. My FH and I were together for 6 years. FH cousin got married and this was her motto..because we weren't engaged I wasnt invited..really strange I think. Needless to say FH declined the invite.

I am always on the side of plus 1. So many people say they don't want strangers at their wedding but they aren't strangers to the guests. You aren't hanging out with your guests 1 on 1 the entire wedding so if they don't know anyone else and aren't allowed to bring a guest they more than likely will just leave early or not come at all. To me strangers coming to a wedding that are close to my guests I invited are worth meeting. You never know when these strangers will become new friends of yours.

Also with the no ring no bring I find that SO rude. Some couple are in a very committed relationship for years without getting engaged. My bff was with her now DH for 7 years before he proposed. So he wouldn't have gotten an invite? That's ridiculous. I know people who have gotten married within months of each other so their brand new relationship means more? It's beyond superficial to do a no ring no bring rule IMHO.

I agree with you. If you aren’t at least dating, you don’t get a free pass to invite anyone you want. Actually, there’s some guests whom I have never met (from
his side) or some significant others of my guests or his whom we’ve never met either

View Quoted Comment Exactly!! That’s what we are going to do.. I’ve agreed with you from the start - best way to do it

I think the people in your wedding party get a plus one. All bridesmaids and groomsmen.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely !! I’m talking about guests in general not the wedding party

I feel the same way!
We mostly invited married or engaged couples to our wedding. Because it so happens our closest friends are all in the wedding planning mode as well.

We do have a couple of friends who have significant others of 3 years or less that we didn’t invite, because we never met them. However, those friends have at least 10 people they are close to at the wedding so they have friends to hang out with and arrange accommodations if needed.
we have a smaller wedding (70 guests) and paid for everything ourselves, so far all of our friends have been understanding about it.

View Quoted Comment Yes that is exactly our situation !!! Thank you!

I agree with you. For our wedding, you only get a plus one if you are married, engaged or in a serious relationship, not just dating, and the exception of someone who doesn’t know anyone and is traveling far etc. For me, I would already know or have met my fiancé’s or my friends Bf or Gf prior our wedding. Weddings are so expensive and I can’t imagine paying $100-200 pp for someone I dont know. It’s totally up to you. It’s your wedding and your rules. Everyone’s opinions doesn’t matter except yours and your fiance’s.

No ring no bring is an annoying term because marriage happens so differently and on so many different terms for different people. With that being said- I have been with the same person for 6 years and have only once not beeen invited to a wedding as a plus 1- I was a little sad I couldn’t go and meet more of her friends from home but understood it was not my wedding and the world doesn’t revolve around us. Granted when we both attend the wedding the cash/gift amount doubles to account for both of us.. so we actually saved a little money. I would give it to anyone you think won’t know anyone or a lot of people. I think anyone in a relationship gets a plus 1 if you have the room and money to do it.

View Quoted Comment Hopefully everyone will be just as understanding for you

and to the point of what what other people said about “not defining friends relationships” and “they need a plus one if they are traveling far”.
I was one of those guests who had a bf of 2 years (now my FH), who didnt get a plus one. I had to travel alone across the country to Idaho from East coast. I wasn’t that upset that she didn’t give me a plus one because She never met him and we’ve been only dating for a couple of years. I also understood that with a guest count of 65 she probably paid for her backyard wedding herself. I also was not that close to any of her friends but ended up meeting new people and hanging out with everyone my age.
So in my opinion the people who really want to come will figure out a way to come and have fun. No need to break you budget!

View Quoted Comment Then I say any guest that travel must have a plus one or those that don’t really know any of the other guest so they don’t come alone.

View Quoted Comment Exactly - thank you!💛

Anyone in a relationship was invited with their SO and everyone else was given a plus 1. We wanted our guests to enjoy our wedding and not feel awkward and alone, which is how I have felt when I've gone to weddings alone.

We gave everyone a plus one. It was important to us, so we made it happen.