Who gets a Plus 1...

The only single people we gave a plus one to were my MOH and FHs best man. Everyone else was "no ring, no bring" meaning married or engaged couples only. We both have cousins who are in relationships, whose we've never met the SO, and we cut them from the guest list. We were both in agreement of not inviting strangers to our wedding.

Exactly what I said ! Love the “no ring, no bring” lol

Technically, couples regardless of length of time together should be invited as a social unit by name. If you don't have room (physically or monetarily) then you don't have to give the truly single people a guest.

Plus ones are for single guests. Those in relationships should be invited, by name, with their significant others. Plus ones for single guests are optional, but we offered them to our single friends. I think they’re a must for those that are traveling or those who won’t know anyone else.

We gave everyone a plus 1. But that's mainly because I was thinking of it as I wouldn't want to go to a wedding by myself. I'd want someone to dance with and celebrate with. I don't want that awkwardness of my guests being bored or stuck on their phones.

We invited every single person that was in a relationship (regardless of length of time) by name. There were a lot of significant others we had never met because they live on the other side of the country but we were so excited to meet them. I can’t imagine inviting someone to celebrate our relationship while not acknowledging theirs. Another thing is make sure there’s room in the budget/guest list for people to get in a relationship in the next year. A lot can happen by your wedding date.

For us everyone gets a plus one. We know that means we will have a few people we don’t personally know but that’s fine.
We want our friends and family there. And I HATE the no ring no bring. Total bull in my opinion.
I have seen people not show up to weddings because the person they have been with for years wasn’t invited, simply because they weren’t engaged or married.

Seems petty and silly. You’re already spending stupid amounts of money for these weddings. Extend a plus one to everyone. 🤷🏼‍♀️

If they won't know anyone else or are traveling a great length, I think it is courteous to give them a plus one.

The "no ring, bring rule" can be extremely hurtful and rude in my opinion. What about the couple that has been together for 14 years (one of my closest friends and her boyfriend)? A ring does not always signify the seriousness of the relationship. They are more of a committed couple than a lot of other couples I know.

If it’s not in your budget then not everyone needs a plus 1, this just isn’t realistic. Long term couples yes, new date no. You’ve got to draw the line somewhere. Wouldn’t it be nice if we were made of money? But we’re not, and part of being a host is making some tough calls sometimes. You also don’t want complete strangers at your wedding and that’s understandable. Your FH’s friends don’t need plus one’s, don’t they know each other? I could understand if they didn’t know anyone you could let them bring a date but if everyone knows each other it’s not necessary.

Well, anyone in a relationship should be invited with their partner. These are not plus ones but rather named guests. Plus ones are given to single guests.
I certainly try not to define the seriousness of my friends’ relationships. I don’t want to skip over the person my friend is going to end up marrying for sure.

we gave plus ones to anyone traveling alone, and anyone that wouldn’t really have ‘anyone’ there— no close friends, relatives. So, the single people in our main friend group who are friends with everyone else? No guest invites. The single cousin who had all their other siblings and cousins around? No guest. H’s old BFF who has met a few people but doesn’t know much of anyone ? Plus one. Friend traveling up from out of state? Plus one.
Our rule of thumb centered around our guests being comfortable. Basically if not having a guest would make someone we wanted there not come (like having to drive alone 4 hours), we wanted them to bring any random stranger that would get them there. We wanted all our guests to have a good time, so included plus ones in any scenario where we thought they would be necessary for guest good time & comfort

For us we’re inviting family and friends with their significant other and kids. Um most of these people we’ve known for years along with their significant others so it’s not a big deal. However my FSIL has a new boyfriend her mom put on the draft guest list and I’m not sure what we’re going to do about it. We’ve never met him and I’m kind of in the same page as you where I don’t want any “randoms” at my wedding. I’m honestly not sure what we’re going to do lol

I personally think everyone should be able to bring someone. As a reserved shy person going to a wedding alone is super scary for me. I trust my guests to not bring some insane to my wedding that would ruin it. I definitely want them to be comfortable and enjoy their night without me having to worry about them.

MArried, engaged, and relationships (regardless of length) are not plus ones. They should all be invited as a couple, by name. You only give plus ones to truly single guests to bring anyone they want - these are the ones that are totally unnecessary

I feel that if you love someone enough to invite them to your wedding..they should be able to bring someone to enjoy the night with. That's just how I feel about it/how we chose to go about the process.

Is no ring no bring a hard and fast rule? What if a couple doesn't believe in getting married but have been together for over a decade, live together and have a child together?

Disrespecting other people’s relationships while expecting them to celebrate yours causes a lot of drama. What happens if a couple gets engaged a month before your wedding, is the SO invited then? That just happened in our family this weekend and I can’t wait to see how my nephew and his future bride handle it. Etiquette exists to avoid these awkward situations, which is why anyone dating should be invited as a couple regardless of how long, and extend plus ones as much as possible to VIP guests (immediate family, wedding party members, those who would otherwise travel alone, etc).

View Quoted Comment 100% agree, those are my feelings for my wedding exactly. I only have a handful of people being invited with a plus 1, because I made sure to invite anyone in any type of relationship as a unit with their partner by name.

View Quoted Comment I think “no ring, no bring” is ridiculous. Who am I to judge the seriousness of someone else’s relationship? I don’t think a ring on your finger is what signifies you as a “real couple”. I have friends and cousins that live with their SO, or have been dating their SO’s longer than I’ve know my fiancé and/or have kids with their SO’s. Those relationships are no less real or important than mine just because they haven’t decided to get married yet.

All couples were invited, but single people were only given a plus one if they wouldn't know anyone or if they were traveling from out of state.

You could always meet in the middle and say they can't be at the ceremony or in the family pictures but they are welcome to the reception