Who all is particapting in being celibate until marriage

@2d Bride, that is so right on.

People can do as they see fit but I see no value in it, religious or otherwise. I did make H wait until our ninth date though because I had recently been assaulted and was still sort of recovering.

@ 2d Bride I so agree. There's no way FH and I would even consider Celibacy. We are Trying To Conceive and time isn't on my side. Turned 40 this past November.

We were not celibrate during our wedding planning time, on purpose. H did undergo total hip replacement in 4/2012 so he was healing during that time and we were um, "slow" during that period of time.

Wow Linda, that must have been tough...to live together and abstain. Kudos to you two!

We are abstaining.

What are your opinions on being celibate until marriage?

i think it's silly especially if you're sinning in other ways.

If you are being celibate, how long has it been?

3 months

What did your FI have to say about it? Did he question or ask why?

it was his idea so he didn't question it but he had a hard time sticking to it. i didn't question it bc i understood why and i respect his wishes. i was raised in church so i get it from that aspect. i'm just not much into church at this point.

If we are trying to continue to stay celibate, what are some of the things that you and your FI can do to continue to have that some love, connection, and intimacy with one another?

there's so much more to a relationship than sex so it's not hard. we have date night. movie night. cuddle lots. random loving texts and a bunch of other stuff.

While I respect those who choose to do it, we really couldn't. Sex definitely doesn't define our relationship, but it's an important way for us to connect with each other. Besides, because of being way overworked and overtired these past few days, we haven't done it since Thursday night, and it's feeling like FOREVER, so I don't think we could ever make it months or years.

I AM ....ME AND MY FH MET IN THE WALK AND WE BOTH BELIEVE IN GOD RULES/BIBLE SOOOO AINT NO SWEET LOVING UNTIL AFTER MARRIAGE ...AFTER ALL GOD DID CREATE IT..AND IM SURE ITS WORTH IT !!! ITS A BLESSING AND THAT SCARIFIES BRING MANY BLESSINGS TO THE RELATIONSHIP AND YOUR GENERATIONS AFTER CONSIDER IT!!!

Absolutely NOT for me! Intimacy is such an important part of my life and who I am....it's one of the most amazing things between two people who are in love and want to spend the rest of their lives together. I wouldn't want to hold that off just because a wedding is on the horizon.

I'm not religious, but spirital......but I totally respect all of your decisions and I think it's great to take a stand in what you believe in

No we aren't. I think it is funny when people call it the "right thing to do." Then again I know too much about how the bible was pieced together by a bunch of men way back in the day. We do not take every word of the bible as absolute because of the way it have been contructed and messed with over the years. Then again we are God loving, not God fearing. IMO there is a big difference.

We are not. After 7 years together and 5 living together I just don't think it would be feasible for us. Our lives our really busy right now and that 20min of intimacy helps us feel connected when we have to go weeks without spending any quality time together.

I just think its stupid if you and FH has already done the deed. It really will make no difference. TMI but if FH had to hold all that sexual frustration in for so long it would be just like his 1st time, not much time to savor with that, if you know what I mean.

We are waiting until we are married and we have been together for almost 9 years! We met in church and talked from the very beginning that neither of us wanted to have sex unless we are married. We are both virgins and will remain so until our wedding next year. By then we will be together 10 years and some people think we are totally crazy, but our friends and family know and understand us and it's what we wanted. Plus we started dating at 14 and 15 and at that point in my life I wasn't ready for it and we lasted this long, so I figured what's another year!

@Moria I think it would be the same for us lol. Jeez if we go without for a few weeks then there isn't "much time to savour" lol...

FH & I are both virgins. I asked him on our 2nd date what his views were on this and we both wanted to wait until our wedding night. No, it's not easy, but I feel it will be worth it. Hopefully that's not all I'm thinking about the days leading up to the wedding. Lol

Serious Question- So for though who are not have sex now or before the wedding, does that include obstaining from EVERYTHING? What baout masturbation? Where is the line drawn? I'm Christian but not catholic, so have no idea what those rules about this are.

I recall seeing a reality show once where they couple was super religious and never even kissed before the wedding. I was wondering if anyone was doing that?

I couldnt imagine never kissing someone ever before getting married. How scary and weird that must be!

We draw the line at kissing. I personally do not use masturbation. I honestly have no clue whether FH does or not but that doesn't bother me.

Well...me and my FH had sex on our first date...and have never spent a night apart from each other since then lol literally.

When we had been dating about 3 months I was like...why the hell don't we just live together? I never use my house anymore lol.

Anyway...sex seems to be better for us the more frequently it happens...so...no we will probably not try to abstain before the wedding. However, we do occasionally obstain just due to hectic schedules or me not feeling well or whatever...I'm sure we've probably went nearly a month before without it.

I agree with some of the other ladies in the fact that I feel sex is necessary to make sure I'm compatable with that person on every level possible. And I'm not religious, so I really don't see any point in not having sex.

My sister and her DH didn't kiss before their wedding. We might be related but I cannot even begin to understand that. Whatever. It's been 8 years for them now so apparently it worked for them.

My FH and I are doing this as our New Years Resolution. It had been weighing heavily on me for quite some time and I want to do this for more religious reasons. I am hoping it will bring us closer and he is on bored with this decision. We are getting married July 14, so we are looking at 7 months. Prayer and willpower will get us through this and it will be worth it and the wedding night will be awesome as well as the 7-day honeymoon cruise afterwards