Where do I seat my Bridesmaid's date...who doesn't know anyone?

All in all....it was a horrible experience. If BMs date can't sit with BM....maybe a table close to BM would work? Or even with The BMs parents/friends?

Wait a minute Katlyn - your entire bridal party is either married or engaged to each other and the ONLY couple that gets to sit together for dinner is you and your new husband so you maintain "the look"? You will have monopolized these poor people for a couple of days and you can't let them sit together for dinner? That's rude.

Head tables have gone the way of the dinosaur - I think most brides see how rude it is to keep their nearest and dearest away from each other while the happy couple gets to sit together for dinner. Sit these couples together!!!!!

And, why are these people dealing with any food the day before your wedding?

Your friends aren't props. You designed the head table for photos.

Put them with their dates/SOs/whatever.

Friends are not for photos. Don't split couples up for a "look" for a few photos.

@Jeleebeenz all my wedding party are married to or engaged to each other outside of my one bridesmaid. They are all also best friends with each other. The men are all besties and the women are all besties. It was the same for my sister's wedding, except my now Fiancé was not Sat with me at the head table as maid of honour because he was not in the wedding party. I've never been to a wedding where dates were Sat together at the head table. Only the wedding party.

The only reason I'm trying to figure out how it'll work is because the date will not know anyone but the groom, the groomsmen, and I.

Our best man is a caterer, and he wanted to do our wedding. The night before, the men will be putting together trays and fruit. Not my call.

I would not break up couples even though all the men are "besties" and all the women are "besties". If you must have a head table, seat them by couples. If you've never seen it done before, be a rebel and unique (in your circle). Your guests will certainly thank you.

The only thing I'm going to say about the BM caterer is that I think it is inappropriate for a guest who is not a member of the BP (or even them) to be "working" your wedding in any capacity.

If your having a top table with only the bridal party are you having parents at it too? I would introduce him to some close friends or family who he would have comman interests and sit them at the table infornt of the top table. Here it is normal to have a top table with only bridal party and parents. All of our parents are re married ( thankfully every one gets on well) and all the bridal party were married bar one who has a long term girlfriend. We sat all of our imidiate family, bridal parties others halves and parents spouse's at the tables closest to the top table.we also wandered around imbetween courses.my MOH has an 14 month old, the baby moved between her daddy, who was intront of us and her granny and aunties who were at another table elsewhere. My brother and wife also had an 18 month old at the same table as MOH husband, and bridesmaid husband, the other people at that table all knew most of them. All went fine, MOHs little one did join us briefly at the top table either during or after desert I can't remember, It was all good. We got some lovely pictures of her big smily head sitting on her moms knee. As I say just make sure your MOHs boyfriend is sitting with the vips, and introduce him to some of them,its not for the whole night and people will move around after they have eaten, they are all adults who are all able chat to different people other than their dates and survive. eta forgot to say we had our top table going from left to right- grooms father,grooms mother, groomsman, bestman,groom,bride,MOH, bridesmaid, MOB, FOB.

Just an honest question, if the WP are sitting directly across the table their dates would that not be a good compromise? At dinner don't couples sometimes sit across from each other at the table anyway? Just an honestly curious question.

Yep, couples shouldn't be split up for reasons of a head table. A sweetheart table or a kings table are both good alternatives.

The last wedding I was in did a head table; I didn't know many people and FH knew only the bride and groom. It was awkward and terrible, and I'm having a sweetheart table because I don't want to do that to my BP's dates.

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Why do people still do the head table thing? It's actually becoming dated. I hated the idea of splitting up couples because I know how pissed I would be if someone split up FH and I. Neither one of us would enjoy ourselves or participate in the reception. We will sit at a table with our parents and then we will be seating our Bridesmaids next to us at a round table with their dates and the groomsman next to us with their dates.

Yikes -

Okay first off I am really happy you see I am not the only person who thinks it's super rude to split the party- even if the only person to care if the non bridal party member - he dosent know these guys well and would likely much rather sit with his date.

Also - it's 100% your call. You control who caters your wedding and you decided not only you have a bridal party member caterer it. But to have the rest of the groomsmen who are not caterers help him prep the night before.

He should sit with his date. It's why a lot of people have sweetheart tables.

We had a king's table--all BP and their dates sat with us.

We are doing a sweetheart table partially to avoid this awkwardness. However, I have attended two weddings where my FH was in the wedding party and seated at the head table. I knew no one else but was assigned seating at some other table. I'm am not outgoing in the least but managed to have a good time. And really it is only for dinner service, then everyone gets up and mingles anyway. I don't think its a huge issue.

Except you're splitting up the social unity of your nearest and dearest who came to your wedding to celebrate your unity. It's important to respect theirs.

I am in a wedding on Saturday that has a head table. My fiance has only met one other person at the wedding and he is another groomsman. I don't know how this will go for her, and I hope she has a decent time. The groom did say that after the dinner we don t have to be up there anymore so we will see how it goes (I have never been IN a wedding before).

This seems just silly to me. I think it is rude to break up the bridal party like that, especially when they are all couples. Head tables are antiquated. I suggest doing a sweetheart table for you and the groom, and let the bridal party sit together as they want. Or, if you insist on doing a head table, let the couples sit with each other.

If you don't have room for a King's Table (everyone and their dates), just do a sweetheart. It eliminates a lot of headache and provides privacy for you and your husband for the dinner.

@Ragan that's also why I'm doing a sweetheart table; sitting down for dinner is one of the few precious times I will have FH to myself throughout the day, so I am really looking forward to that!

Guys, the best man is the caterer and it "wasn't her call."

I don't think she cares about her friends or has a strong enough personality to do the right thing, anyhow.