When to send out invitations?

I would say mail them around the end of October. Our wedding is 01.18.14 and we are mailing ours at the end of this month( September) and we want RSVP before December so we can plan accordantly .

October 5 for a November 30 wedding. RSVP due November 8.

October is waaaaaaaaaay too early. People will totally forget about it - either they'll forget to RSVP or they'll forget that they did.

I say early January - like the 2nd. Give them fun mail while the holiday bills roll in.

Hey date twin i was having the same thought, i am planning for thanksgiving time because of the holidays being in the middle of things.

Mine go out this week. october 5th is the RSVP date. wedding is october 26th. 99% of mine are all local though. if i'd have had a large number of OOT guests, then i would've sent them at the end of august. also, idk if you're doing STDs, but you could send those at the end of october....kind of provides a heads up to everyone. but i agree with Paris, january 2nd, is plenty of time.

When is your final count due? Say (for example) your final count is due Feb. 14, I would make your RSVP due date a week before that (Feb. 7) to give yourself time to hound anybody that hasn't RSVPed...and then send the invites out about 8 weeks before that.

I agree that October/November is too early...people probably won't know their schedules yet, or they will RSVP and then something will come up and they'll back out.

Our final head count is due Feb. 8th (2 weeks before the wedding)

We are not doing a Save the Date though. Most of my family already knows the date due to word of mouth and FB lol.

Did you send STDs? If so, I would mail out Dec 26/27th. Assuming your RSVP dealine is around the 1st.

If not, I would mail out Dec 15th. I would not mail out in Nov and not around Thanksgiving when so many people would be traveling.

8 weeks was the consensus from googling this question

That's really tricky. How many out of town guests do you have coming? Do you have a high amount of people who are traveling in and will need to coordinate flights/hotel/car rentals?

I only have 12 people traveling out of town. They already know the date & have made arrangements to come to the wedding.

When I googled it did say 8 weeks, but that puts it right around Christmas.

The last week of Nov. hopefully they won't get mixed up with Santa's letters. Our RSVP deadline is Jan 14th. A lot of people are so busy during the Holiday Season. I want to give them a little extra time to respond. I decided to give his family their invitations at the Thanksgivings Holiday dinner. Did I mention that my FH has 8 siblings?

Pretty much everyone already knows when my wedding is going to be (october 26)and I still haven't done my invites. They're in the process of bein g made though and I should have them ready in a week. And I'll be passing them out besides the out of town ones. But I think I'm pretty much as last minute as can be on getting them out.

I would send out save the dates, even if it was just on Facebook. Then send the invitations after Christmas or around Jan 2.

My date is 3/21, I am sending out STD's next week and was planning on sending out the invites mid December. We are asking people to RSVP by 2/1 which is early, but we want time to chase people if they don't send them. Hopefully people don't back out! I think if people are going to come, they're going to come, no matter what date we give them.

I'm in the same boat. I don't plan on doing STDs so I will have the invites only.

I was thinking First week of November to beat the holiday craziness and have a 1st week of January RSVP deadline. I assume most will respond in November right after they receive the invite, the rest probably last minute in January. That gives everyone 2 months to commit and still gives me a month to confirms exact numbers of centrepieces etc so I'm not over/under spending. Normally I would say 8 weeks but with holiday craziness I would give more time. You don't want your invite lost in the shuffle of Christmas Cards.

Also, people often over-spend during the holidays and if they know they have a wedding coming up they may budget to include that or use all that mall time to shop for a dress.

I'm not sure when we are sending the invites out, but our head count is due 5/20, so I'm having my RSVP deadline as 5/1.

Last year, I received invitations in July for weddings in November. You know when I was finally able to RSVP for one of those weddings? A week after their RSVP date. I don't know more than a week out if my husband can make it to weddings, so I'm already hoping nothing comes up when I RSVP 4 weeks out.

By sending out invites BEFORE Christmas, you chance it getting lost in the shuffle even more. That far out, very few people would be able to accurately turn around and RSVP on time. 10 weeks out max, but more than that, it's going in the "I'll do it later" pile which often turns into the "I lost that pile of paper" pile.

I see TWO date twins!!! Jan 18th.... I just decided on the invitation so I will be ordering them this week. Mailing sometime in the beginning of October and due Oct 31st. We need to know what our total bill is going to be earlier than December. We are paying for everything ourselves.....The majority if our people have memorized the date. If its important to them, I don't think people will forget. Even if its not the exact date they memorized, they still know your wedding is coming!

I got married 2.25.12 and had the same problem. I mailed mine in December...bad idea because they got mixed in with all the holiday mail. I wish I'd waited until Jan 1 or at least after Xmas. October I agree is way too early.

I say this and we had a DW so all OOT guests and we did send STD's the summer before.

Waaaaay too early. Actually figure out when you need final count in then go two weeks before that for RSVP date, gives you two weeks to tally and track down stragglers. Then mail your invitations 4-6 weeks before that. Squeeze the time shorter but no longer, longer allows people to lose your invitation etc.