When to ask Bridesmaids

It's up to you. I asked my BMs right when I got engaged because I knew things wouldn't change. They were my childhood friends, and my husband's (fiance at the time), cousin. But if you think at all that anything could change, then I'd wait a little bit.

Any time you like. Keep in mind that there are many women who regret picking their bridal party too early due to drama and life changes. But whatever works for you.

I knew who I wanted before I was ever engaged (sister-in-law, cousin, and best friend). It just worked that way for me... but it might be different for you.

Wait a month until you have a few details planned out. Speaking on experience - I've seen WAYYYY too many brides regret picking their bridal party right away. The most recent one picked 10 bridesmaids and then later found out how expensive the gifts & rehearsal dinner will be because of it - pushing them over budget.

Let the dust settle with the engagement - enjoy the moment. The girls won't go anywhere. Waiting will give you more time to plan a creative way of asking them to be a part of your big day!

I would say to wait until a year - year and a half before. Things can change and you could want different ppl later. You dont really have to order dresses until 8-6 months before so you have plenty of time.

After my BM fiasco...I'd recommend waiting. Make sure you're fully 100% sure.

I say you can take your time. Its easier to not ask them right away...then to later tell them that you no longer want/need them in your wedding party.

I asked right away (when I knew we were going to be engaged for a year and a half) and I regretted it. One of the bridesmaids was a friend who was engaged to our other friend (the Best Man) and she ended up cheating on him and proving that she wasn't a good friend to us so we cut contact. I only recently asked another friend to take her place as a BM because she was being so helpful and supportive planning my wedding.

It's up to you, I know it's exciting, but it might not hurt to wait.

I didn't realize your wedding wasn't until 2013 - - I agree with Mrs. Montoyal!!! Wait until midway through next year! :o)

At least ask your MOH.. because she is suppose to help you do alot of the planning.. i asked all my right way but then at the same time I only 7 months to do everything!

I would wait till you get closer. We ended up with 5 each but I could have done with 2 less, or would have liked to have someone else... You have lots of time, make sure you know who you want to ask.

WAIT!!! we got engaged June 2010 (wedding in Sep 2012) and i asked mine right away and i regret it!!!! there are already some i wish i had not asked (aka FSIL) and friends i wish i had asked. i would wait until at least 9 mo before the wedding because IMO thats when you should start looking at dresses.

Firstly, congrats! We got engaged last week, and are also having a long engagement.

As for the BM question.. I mentioned it very loosely and non-contractually to a friend of mine who I go to school with, way before I got engaged. We have become very close with each other because we are both stuck away at school and from a similar part of NY (the wedding will be when I graduate, so I know she'll be around for a while). She has been the most excited and supportive person here at school (I am away from friends and fam). So far, (knock on wood) there are no regrets. She is always inquiring about the planning and asking questions, which only helps to build my excitement.

I think it depends on who you are going to ask, how comfortable you feel with them, and how much you trust them. It felt right for me, so I did it. Good luck with yours!