When the groom's family doesn't show?????

Personally, i would be offended. I think it is rude for them not to show up but even worse that they DID rsvp and still did not show up. does it bother FH? you should have him talk to them and see what happened.

I think its the type of conversation you should have with your FH, maybe his family doesnt place much value on events like bridal showerse or whatever. I wouldnt take it personal and instead look at where your values are and where theirs might be, and how they differ. Remember when gaining a new family, not to take things personal. "They are not responding to you", works really well to repeat in your head....even if the case was them all hating you....its not about you as a person its about their view. Maybe his family is super duper flakey and never show up for anything they say they will, its just who they are and it might feel icky to you, but you arent going to change them. Maybe, they didnt have money to buy you a gift and felt too proud to tell you....who the heck knows and really do you have the time to worry about it? My point is not to answer your question, its really to say - you dont know why they didnt how up and maybe you never will, and in the long run it doesnt matter.

Don't sweat it because you are still marrying him. Those who made it fine, and don't get caught up worrying about a few ppl.

That would bother me too. I had a similar situation with our engagement party, none of his friends or family showed up. Not even the ones who said they were coming.

Well, it's certainly inconsiderate of whoever threw you the shower. But don't spend your time worrying about it.

FH wasn't sure whether to be mad, disappointed or what, but he was shocked when I told him. For the most part I'm over it, it was just odd in my opinion and for them to not even call was kind of rude. But like you all shared maybe their values aren't mine and the Big Day will still go on. I just hope as I am get my final numbers together for the caterer they don't pull the same stunt, cuz I may not be a bridezilla but let them RSVP and not show up heads will roll.....

I had something similar to you but it asnt edding related. It was for my son's birthday. My parents and us we spend like 800 dollars and only 12 of his side of the family came. Only 12 out of 45 we invited of his side. According from his mother told me everyone got sick. I was so upset. When it came down for our wedding my parents are refusing to pay for his family side. When my fiance and I approach his parents they refuse to take part. So my fiance and I came to an agreement only his parents and brother are invited to our wedding. That's all. I can't really go against my parents if they are paying. That's what they are scared of. If they don't show up.

I did my sons party close to them my family had to take cabs while his family could just walk a few blocks. The way we are planning our wedding how would they make it. My advise talk it out with your fiance. Maybe he could talk to his family saying if they get invited to the wedding that its money being spend and if they dont show up thats money spend and cant get it back. When they say they going to keep their word

I wouldn't care less as long as you had a good time with the guest that did show up.

Grrrr I had this issue a few times and it ticks me off. Its very disrespectful and rude to rsvp to an event then not show. Especially without a call saying Im sorry I kmow I am suppose to be there but something came up.

That being said as long as you enjoyed your shower thats whats important. Focus on peope that are there for you and dont sweat those that are not. I would be less likely to count on them to do as they say in the future though.

I had this happen too. None of his friends or family came to my shower and only one said she was coming and didn't (I knew she wasn't coming when she RSVP'd yes). I was a little like dag, none of them want to come? But I quickly got over it because we had a great time -- it was also my 3rd shower so that might have contributed to my go with the flow attitude.

But my FH does feel some kind of way about so many people in his family not coming to the wedding. Many of his friends are coming and actually petitioning to be able to come. But it does ding him that he doesn't have the same family support that I do. All but 4 of my cousins are coming from 300 miles away!

Obviously it would hurt.............But as other said...........What matter is that you are marrying him..........And he is with you............Don’t bother yourself for them...........Just enjoy every moment of your wedding.............even preparations............

Just take it other way that those who are close to you were with you on your bridal shower party...............So take it easy and forget about them............