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Sasha
Super April 2017

When do you get to Eat?

Sasha, on December 21, 2016 at 12:14 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 26

So, one of my biggest wonders is when does the newlywed couple get to eat dinner? After the ceremony is usually photos and a quick relax moment, then onto the reception and it's dancing and greeting guests while they eat. but, when do the bride and groom eat or should I say how are they supposed to eat when they are continuously greeting and thanking guests for coming?

26 Comments

Latest activity by Cara, on December 22, 2016 at 7:55 AM
  • MNA
    Master April 2018
    MNA ·
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    You have to make time for it. I would recommend getting your plates at the very start of dinner so you can eat quickly and then make your table rounds.

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  • Kay
    Super March 2017
    Kay ·
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    I am eating while my guests eat. As much as I want to greet them, I will not be a nice person if I don't eat. So I will make the rounds afterwards.

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  • Mrs.Whooooo
    Master May 2017
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    Our venue, who's also doing the catering, feeds the bride and groom first after the first dances. We'll be eating as everyone else gets their food since we're have a buffet

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  • Kayla V
    Expert July 2017
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    The caterer we're leaning towards goes through the buffet line and gets plates together for the bride and groom. It would be waiting on the sweetheart table for us when we sit down at the reception.

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  • Sasha
    Super April 2017
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    @MNA that's what our advisor said too as a helper to us. I hate to say it, but I'm the same lol @Kay

    @windowschick We're doing a sweetheart table too. I figured we could try to eat while speeches were going on too and we also have a dedicated server for just us too.

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  • Jallisa
    Devoted May 2017
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    We will be eating when our guests eat!

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  • Sasha
    Super April 2017
    Sasha ·
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    Thank you all the advice help. I appreciate it Smiley smile

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  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
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    We are sitting down to eat at the same time everyone else does. We'll probably skip the salad course or eat quickly so we can go around to each table and visit for a minute. Most of the weddings I've been to I didn't get to spend tons of time with the bride and groom. I'm sure we'll just do the best we can.

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  • MrsDrum
    Master June 2017
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    I know they say that the bride and groom barely get to eat. Screw that! I'm eating! We will go through the buffet first and have a sweetheart table.

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  • MzRosaLu
    Master July 2016
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    We ate just before our guests. The servers brought plates to us just before they began going around to the guests. This way we could finish eating a little earlier than everyone else and begin making our rounds.

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  • Trista
    Dedicated July 2016
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    We ate at the same time as our guests, which was during speeches/toasts. Instead of going around to every table, we said a thank you speech at the end of dinner, just basically thanking everyone all at once. If we had gone around to every table we wouldn't have had time to eat!

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  • Celia Milton
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    Most of my venues serve the couple first so they can finish a little earlier and do table visits.

    IMHO, if you can't make time to talk to your guests, they shouldn't be invited.

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  • onawho
    VIP August 2015
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    Our caterer had a plate of apps set aside while we did photos during the cocktail hour. After we were announced we were first in line to the buffet and ate as everyone else was in line and we all ate together. We had a small guest list (only 40) so the line went quick and it was very enjoyable to eat with everyone. We did not do first dances, speeches from BM or MOH.

    Once dinner was cleared we cut the cake and it was sliced and passed around.

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  • RealLifeBride
    Super January 2017
    RealLifeBride ·
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    You eat when the guests eat.

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  • The Trap Selena
    Master March 2016
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    My sister and BIL's DOC made sure they had a chance to sit down and enjoy their meals. Definitely bring this up with whoever you hire(d).

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  • Alyssa B.
    Super April 2017
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    Talk with your venue! Ours will have 2 plates set aside for us to eat before we walk into the reception. (But after everyone else is already at the reception)

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  • Crescent1874
    VIP March 2016
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    My cousin and his wife actually ate dinner together before being announced into the reception. Basically, they finished pictures about 20 minutes after the ceremony and went into a private room that their reception venue set up for them while the guests were still at cocktail hour. They ate dinner during the last half of cocktail hour and their coordinator transitioned the guests from cocktail to dinner and then went to get my cousin and his wife so the bandleader could announce them. They immediately did a first dance since everyone was seated and did the parent dances then after the dances, dinner was served and they did table visits.

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  • Kaylie
    Master May 2016
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    Me venue served us salad first, so we ate those quickly and then started making our rounds before the main course was served. They held our main course for us until we were done with the rounds and then we ate that as everyone was finishing up and MOH/BM did their toasts. It worked out really well, but I did have to rush H a little because he could have stayed talking to some people all night and I was determined to make it around to everyone.

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  • StarFromIHJ
    Master August 2016
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    We were served first, by about five to ten minutes. It allowed us to be able to eat. We also waited until we could see the guests were almost done with their meal to visit. I didn't want to interrupt their dinner.

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  • Katherine
    VIP June 2017
    Katherine ·
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    We're doing a receiving line at the church before heading to the reception venue, so that will cut down on that table visiting time (I know those are unpopular here). We plan to enter the reception, welcome everyone, and immediately go through the buffet line. The guests will go through after us. We are doing speeches during/after dinner and then dances and cake cutting.

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